Swingers?

@Carole & Mrs Cupcake- thank you for your posts and thank you for showing that even if you don't agree with the lifestyle you can still be classy and politely dissent. Some of these posters could really learn a lesson in civility from you.

@Nicole & Future Mrs Johnson- thank you thank you!! your posts were hilarious, and thanks for defending the forum from some lame ass troll

@mrs murdie- i just watched easy A last weekend! LMAO!

@Kim- thank you for sharing! that is very interesting and exciting to see a new perspective on the lifestyle in this forum. We also play dom/sub but switch roles...depending what mood I'm in lol- I worked in a dungeon to put myself thru college and learned a lot about the D/S lifestyle there- again the people you meet in these unique lifestyles are so cool and fun! I'm still friends with some of the mistresses I used to work with!

This is fascinating! Most of the ladies were terrific! I have never really thought about the swinger lifestlye. We are very open and honest with eachother and that helps with everything! Thank you ladies for being so informative and open to talking about it!

I (maybe selfishly) want my DH all to myself; but respect people's rights to make their own decisions (whether or not I necessarily agree with them).

Wow so much in this conversation. You know. I am married. I still date women. I have two kids.

As for the diseases thing... I do not want to catch anything. Anyone I hook up with (female only obviously) I tell them I will NOT sleep with them unless they go to the free clinic with me and we both get checked out. I don't have anything, but me getting checked is for their reassurance as well.

As for faithfulness, well that depends on the person. For example, a person could believe that the only way to be faithful is to be with one person only and such. Another could believe that as long as their partner isn't sneaking around and being honest then its faithfulness.

My husband believes that me being faithful is not cheating on him with other MEN. He doesn't care about women and doesn't even ask to join if I am with a woman. I believe him being faithful is him not lying to me about anything. He sometimes goes out with friends. If something happens I understand, as long as he is honest.

@Trina R. I wanted to say that I understand fully how you are about sex and such and full agree that 'making love' and 'having sex' is different from each other.

Also I want to inform everyone that every person's mental state after rape is different. Some don't want to ever have sex again, some just need to get through it to be intimate again, and some can have sex easily again. It really depends on the person and their own mental defenses.

AidaLily thanks for sharing!

Ladies this has been a wonderful conversation with most of you and again if anyone has any more questions about the lifestyle I'd be happy to answer them. Please feel free to PM me any time, and to those of you that are going to explore the lifestyle,

HAPPY SWINGING!

Tina S. -- First let me say that me being raped has nothing to do with me now loving sex, and I never said that. And incase you missed it, it is because of the rape that I hold no emotional attachment to the act of sex, I can have sex with anyone, but I make love to and bond with one person. Now as far as diseases, I don't have any and have never had any and don't plan on getting any. Now on to me being whorish if that is your opinion then you are entitled to that. However I share my sex life with my FH, it is something that we enjoy doing and as long as he does not view me as a whore then I am ok.

I am glad I could help you ladies, and if you have any questions reguarding the lifestyle please feel free to PM and I will be glad to talk with you. And to all the ladies who have defended against what has been said here thank you, I guess there will always one in the group who ruins the fun.

I always say there two sides to each conversation and in this case there more than that. I can act "whoreish" if my FH asks me to, but if and IF He asks me to. I don't do "just" because. If and when do attend a "swing" party does not mean we are there to "swing" and it does mean we HAVE to have SEX with other people. In our Dom/sub lifestyle I have never had sex with another male. But that doesn't mean that I didn't play with others from time to time, but ONLY with His permission and He would know exactly what went down and how far it went. Continued...

Also because of our "fetish" we would be asked to put on demos.... we would hold flogging and whipping demos - yes ladies you read that right. I know it's hard to believe. But again the thing here is that since I've been with my FH I have only had intercourse with 1 man..... so there are totally different levels of swinging. It all depends on what levels you are comfortable with. ONLY YOU can set those levels. It is what is agreed on between the 2 of you and no one else.

I hope we all have fun little sex lifes ... for some swinging is what tickle their pickles.

what we like differ from one couple to the next.. but as long as the one you love is into the same things or can comprises to it nothing wrong with it.

I don't have time to read all the previous posts, but I'm assuming if there's nine pages, there's drama somewhere. *rolls eyes*

DS and I are technically "swingers", I guess. But we prefer long term relationships rather than just hook ups. =0)

Wow! I never thought that women could actually do that. Sorry to say that it's easier to for a man to have unemotional unattached sex with people but it seems to be true.

I couldn't do it and neither could my FH. There are way too many factors that present itself in a situation like that. I also think that if you have to bring other people into your relationship...there is something wrong with your relationship...

However, to each their own!!

Was wondering if anyone has some good suggestions for resorts that offer destenation weddings that offer lifestyle options.

I've been a swinger since 1992 and can openly and honestly say its a lifestyle not just a phrase. I met my wife thro swinging and have a very happy secure and exciting relationship that said we do have boundaries like all swinging couples do (single guys tend to have less boundaries as there uusually a little less choosy) and sticking to those boundaries is paramount when beginning whereas once your a little more experienced you tend to push them a little bit only as far as you both want to push them, we always say as long as we both come out of the club "as one" by reconnecting together in our own in a room somewhere for either a kiss a big or even full sex then we know we've left our alter egos behind and we return home as the couple we were before we entered the cub/party/meet. As I say its not for everyone and we never force out likes or choices down others necks, we're open and honest with family members about what we do as to us sex is just sex it's not a connection were making its not a test of who's best were scoring off and it's not a case of straying unfaithfully behind the others necks, it's simply about allowing each other to have total uninhibited freedom to explore thier own sexual liberation without fear of persecution or judgement. We always always play together but sometimes separate rooms which can be very arousing as it tends to be more a sensory deprivation kink than same room all in playtime as the minds an amazing and powerful muscle that too few actually utilise during sexual excitement to its best potential...as I say it works for usband were totally happy in our choices and it's nice to read how accepting the "general public"are about it even if secretly. We always meet couples and singles thro fabswingers.com and find the verification facility stops us from meeting weirdos, but some still lurk unknown as on all dating websites. We always play safe and are checked every 6 weeks religiously as oral sex can pass diseases just as easy as pentrative sex....happy swinging guys and stay safe the worlds an orchard of many different fruits, not just 1 tree ;-)