Tacky or not tacky?

I would move on. If, in a few years, you want to do a vow renewal, then do that, but I would try to put the wedding/reception you already had behind you.

I don't think the word "tacky" is a good description. People have a right to do what they want. The key is not to expect everyone to treat it like a wedding. Because it's not.

The thing is, you can't redo your wedding day. You will always have memories of it regardless, and you can't ask those to come back a year later and have a do over. Wait a few years and do a vow renewal. Tacky I don't link is the right description, but having others think you didn't like your day, please come back for a redo can come across as self-centered

I personally don't see anything wrong with that. i mean people do wedding vow renewals or anniversary celebrations

I say life it too short and do what makes you happy! It exhausting to try to keep up with people's opinions.

I think it's always fine to throw a party for any reason. But if you think of it as a do-over wedding, you are setting yourself up for a 2nd disappointment (because not every element can be controlled, including who attends). If you can be truly happy with an anniversary party with no heavier expectations, then go for it.

Why not? Covid really messed up a lot of weddings, and I personally would want to celebrate with friends who had small ceremonies during covid. I totally understand wanting to be legally married and also wanting to celebrate. I would suggest to make it clear that there shouldn't be any gifts (unless you want gifts), and that if people want to give in honor of your love you could pick a charity. People might not give, but they might.