Tacky to not have a registry?

My fiancé and I already have basically two of everything and are planning a cross country move within a year, so we don't want MORE STUFF!! I took the advice from a few married friends to still create a small registry for the maybe more "old school guests" who want to buy an actual gift. (which you might end up getting for a bridal shower if you're having one)

I haven't been to a wedding in YEARS where I can remember anything more than a table full of cards ( prob stuffed with checks, gift cards etc.) We created a website and included,

" Our life together has already begun, we have almost everything under the sun.

If you should wish to buy us a gift, a little extra money would give us a lift.

But most importantly, we request, you share our day as our wedding guest."

I've also been reading that people like to know what their monetary gift goes towards if they decide to give the newly wed couple cash. So when you write thank you cards, you can say like, "thank you for the money, It will go towards ______" Hope this helps, and congrats!!

I didn't want one either, but it was strongly suggested to me to create one, even if small because people are going to get you gifts any way - not every on likes giving cash, so it's better to at least have them choose from something you may want instead of getting you something totally out of left field! Zola is great because it lets you put cash funds on your registry, or even "experiences" like gift cards for airlines or home depot for your future home or something...so at least the people that want to give you something other than cash feel like it's a little more meaningful ya know? Could be worth checking out!

I don't think I'll have one either. Not sure but I think if no registry is listed people will automatically give moneyysss lol OR you could have a cash registry on your website. you could have different funds like "honeymoon fund" or whatever you'd like and then the money would be deposited in your bank account

That is completely up to you! The nice part about your wedding is it is whatever you two want! If you don't want to do a registry then don't even worry about it! One less thing, right!? People will still give gifts such as money and gift cards. If they ask maybe think of things you would like as gift cards to save?

You could register for only the things you need and then gift cards? Having a limited registry allows the people who want to buy something to be able to. Otherwise, you can write on the registry that it is limited and people should not feel obligated.

We are not doing a registry either. We are opting not to ask for anything or creating an official honeymoon fund because of the financial situation COVID has created for most of our family. We are spreading the word that we are not expecting anything from our guests, that their presence are the presents. (Get it? )

In your case of specifically not wanting gifts (I feel you) I'd include that somewhere on your website. That way there's nothing tacky on the invite, and you can say it in some funny way that you already have all the physical things you need, all that's required is their presence. If they still want to give something, I think it's a subtle way of suggesting $.

We're lucky because we will have to fly back to Europe afterwards to continue on with our work and lives, so it's an easy excuse to say "I can't take it on a plane!"