Taking your Future Husband's last name or Hyphenating?

View Quoted Comment Yes. It’s pretty traditional or “old school” to automatically take on his last name. We are more non traditional and don’t believe with marching with the masses. To each their own 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Right, we are very non-traditional as well. Thanks for sharing.

I think it is much easier/safer to either keep your own name or take your spouses name. Hyphenating just leads to sooooooo many clerical errors and issues. Working in the medical field, I see this happen all the time – and when dealing with your health, you definitely don’t want errors to be made!
Personally, I am going to keep my own last name. If FH and I were planning on having children, I probably would have taken his last name. But, since we aren’t, I am keeping my own.

View Quoted Comment You are welcome! I will say maybe to inform friends and family, because people got us expensive personalized gifts at the bridal shower that say Mr & Mrs XYZ. I was mortified people assume this is the case. 😆

My wife and I both hyphenated. I am an only child and did not want to give up my name and my wife was also partial to keeping her name. So we decided to both take each other’s name and hyphenate.

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Thank you! I have heard about all the headaches of hyphenating. We have a little one and are planning on more in the future, I do want to have the same name as out kids.

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What a great compromise.

View Quoted Comment My daughter just got married (same sex marriage) Sunday & she’s taking her wife’s last name. She doesn’t have a very good relationship with her father (in fact he said he was going but just didn’t show up). She wants no ties to him.

As some people mentioned, much of the world doesn't have this practice at all. I decided to keep my last name. I don't mind having a different last name to him or future children (I always had a different last name from my mom and siblings) and I told my MIL that I'm "socially" changing it, but not legally changing it. I don't mind being referred to as "The ***** Family."

Neither. I’m not changing my identity unless he is also changing his. It’s a sexist custom that I don’t believe in. I do think that everyone has to choose what is right for them, but I could never be okay with changing my name to someone else’s. It’s frustrating that people keep assuming that I’ll be changing it just because I’m a woman. Our identities are just as valuable!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Hypenating is such a pain

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I can understand this. Best of luck to them!

What specific issues have you run into with hyphenated last names? I have considered not changing it legally because its so much trouble you have to deal with (for what?!) and i actually hate the old school tradition and the original reason women changed their last names. Ive also just considered only changing it on facebook lol.🤔

I'll be changing my last name. Quite frankly, I'm over my last name and literally the only one in my immediate family who still has it. I refuse to hyphenate it because I'd rather people end up struggling with the spelling of one name rather than two and I'm just ready to open a new chapter and have a solid family name moving forward.

View Quoted Comment I completely ageee! good luck with your new chapter! ❤️

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

View Quoted Comment I personally have not ran into any issues, but I’ve heard people say that they have with different entities; banks, doctors, etc.


I am just getting mixed reviews from family on this topic, and wanted to get outside opinion.
I would’ve done that if I had FB, but yes! lol

I took my husband's last name. I already have two middle names so there was no way I was adding another name. We also knew we wanted to start a family and I wanted my husband, myself and our future children to all have the same last name.

I'm going to add his so I'll have both without the hyphen. My deciding factor was my son who has my last name, so I didn't want to drop my maiden name.

View Quoted Comment That makes lots of sense. I would do the same given the circumstance.