Taking your Future Husband's last name or Hyphenating?

View Quoted Comment Correct. I'm not suggesting you follow this pattern. You mentioned specifically wrote, "...but I'm fine with him keeping it because I wouldn't want any children we may have to have a hyphenated name (what happens when they get married?)."
I was giving you an example of what happens in dozens of spanish speaking countries where the norm is a hyphenated last name....

I was so excited to take my husband's last name and look forward to having children with the same name.

That being said, I loved my maiden name. I dropped my birth middle name and replaced it with my maiden name, which actually is a girl's name anyway.

I will be taking his last name. There's a little part of me that will miss my name as it is so uncommon and obviously my name for 31 years.

View Quoted Comment So exciting! congrats!

View Quoted Comment Sweet! I love my name as well, and I’m having anxiety around taking on a new name.

I did not change my name.

I never wanted to change my name. Turns out, DH never expected me to, because his mother never did, so to him, that's normal. (There's no such person as Mrs. DH's Last Name. There's a Ms. - that's his sister. But just guys wandering around with his last name!)

We honestly don't know what we're going to do with any kids - some friends literally just had a baby TODAY and they gave her the mom's last name. I don't know if a boy would have had the dad's last name.

We'll probably give any kids his last name and help them switch if that's what they want later on.

But there are no men in my generation, I have a career history with my last name, and I like my whole name. It's got a lot of cool connections to history.

I am traditional I will be taking my fh husbands last name but my initials are going to be staying the same

My last name is already hyphenated because my mom was never married to my dad so she put her and his last name on my birth certificate. So there's no way I'm having three last names! lol When we get married I am dropping my names and just taking his.

View Quoted Comment I see names are important to you. Sorry for saying “pointless”... just an opinion, no worries 😉

Taking my future husband last name no hyphenating, no other reason that I just like this tradition and our future kids will have his last name too. It just makes thing easier.

View Quoted Comment Hmmm this is ironic because if names were pointless, then women in our country wouldn't go through all the hassle to change it.
I agree with Tiger Bride.

View Quoted Comment I truly do think hyphenated surnames are pointless, but again, to each their own. Just my opinion 😊🤍

View Quoted Comment Hi Alli, I thought the same thing before I went to university and was given a scholarship to study abroad in Latin America. There are about 20 different countries where the custom is hyphenated names. I'm sure many of them think one last name or a woman changing her last name to her husband's is pointless or even the big "i" word. I love how opinions and biases can change after education.

View Quoted Comment Correct; I have lived in many European countries as I studied my PhD. As I stated before, culture relevance is key 🤍

I have been adamant about my refusal to change my name after getting married. As mentioned earlier, this is a practice that is common to Anglicized societies and the majority of the world does not abide by this tradition. In fact, in some parts of the world, it is looked down upon to change your name after getting married. This is especially true in the part of Asia that my family originates from.

My last name is one that carries history and sacrifice. I have no desire to take my husband’s last name simply so that he can feel “we are one family”.

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This practice originates mostly within tribalistic cultures, where multiple last names are meant to prevent relationships between people of the same tribe and of course incest. For instance, I have two last names, but my second last name is only ever used in a formal setting, such as when considering marriage proposals to make sure that we’re not accidentally marrying our cousins or something. Which to the layman can sound a bit Neanderthal-esqe, but in agrarian societies where children are plentiful in families, number multiply very quickly over the course of a few generations.

I think that it’s worthy to note that the practice of hyphenating is one that is somewhat unique to America. For instance, in Mexico, the last names aren’t hyphenated. There’s just two last names. And that’s normal. It’s when people immigrate here that their names become hyphenated.