Talked with my fiancé about our Vows.....

I agree with this.

I compare it to a time that my husband and I went to one of those "paint while you have wine" classes for an anniversary. It was a couple's painting, which meant we each painted a side, but they came together as a cohesive painting. Our painting styles were DRASTICALLY different - his was very impressionistic, mine was more exacting. They are definitely two completely different paintings. To expose just how "us" they were, we took a picture of them without telling anyone whose was whose, and everyone immediately knew anyway.

But despite being so distinctly different, they come together to make one cohesive image.

It's perfectly okay for wedding vows to be like that, too. Distinctly different, but coming together as one cohesive "image".

The only thing I suggest is that each partner times themselves saying their vows - actually saying them out loud, at a relaxed pace - and making sure they are similar in time. One person having 30-second vows and the other having 2-minute vows would stick out a good deal. Otherwise, I don't think two different "feels" is terrible... sometimes opposites attract!

No one will be judging your vows. Everyone will simply love hearing you two declare your love for each other!

Awww! Whatever you say hun will still be just as beautiful Do not over think it and just write down what feels right. He will love to hear what you have to say no matter what! My FH and I are not exchanging vows. He gets a little shy in front of big crowds, which is so cute to me. I'm the complete opposite. But I don't mind not exchanging vows at all

So, you totally got this!

I agree with Ava: You're overthinking this. What's the big deal?

Your FH won't judge you for your writing skills, neither will the guests or the officiant. You're not a great writer ... SO WHAT?? Neither are 95-99% of people.

The only thing your FH and your guests want is you to be heartfelt and you to mean what you're going to say to him!

And ............ HE LOVES YOU, no matter what. Repeat after me:" HE LOVES ME NO MATTER WHAT" 😉.

I know something about you, because I read most of the discussions you start and some of your replies on other people's threads I read: YOU ARE FUNNY! 🙂. So, use this, add 1-2 funny line(s). There's nothing wrong with incorporating 1-2joke(s) in the vows, as long as you don't turn them into a whole stand up comedy like a best man-best woman do. You can easily find some funny vows examples on the web, if needed 😉.

However: I'm not sure why he doesn't want you to rehearse your vows with your MOH to make sure it sounds good, he won't hear them anyway!

I DO think it's a great idea and many people rehearse their bride/groom/MOH/BM-BW speech with people who are not invited. Your MOH can suggest a line you may not have thought of, you never know.

"Does anyone plan on saying their vows to each other before the wedding or waiting till the altar?" : Our wedding date is april 16,2022: more than 12 months away, so we have yet to discuss this topic. But ... I already know that I want them to be a surprise because we're doing a 1st look; plus I already saw her dress LOL , she showed me 2 pics,front & back (the dress alone, I did not see her in it), so I really want at least 1 "surprise element". I think you should wait till the altar, especially if you guys are doing a 1st look. I'm 100% sure you'll want to have this moment that will make you ( and your man) cry 🙂.

However, I 'll let her rehearse hers with whoever she wants (but me of course lol 😀).