Tell me about your vows!

I haven't yet decided on what to include in my vows (or what FH will write in his) but from what I have roughly thought of, it will include noting how my life has changed since meeting FH and my appreciation for certain traits of his, what I 'give' him/promises (i.e my past, my present and my future, my patience and understanding), and then what I look forward to about in our future. Knowing us though we will both make jokes about our cat because we love her like she is a human baby of our own.

Oh how fun!

I wrote my vows over a year before our wedding and just tinker with them every few months, lol. I won't share the exact wording, as I want him to hear them first (along with our guests of course!) But here is the general structure and topics, with random examples I pulled out of thin air, not taken from what I will say, lol:

1. some things are just so integral to my personality that they don't need an explanation - they just 'are'. Loving him is just another of those things that I can't imagine not doing or being. Ie "everyone knows I'm addicted to dance dance revolution, the colour green, and seasonal coffees from tim hortons. It would be almost impossible to imagine me without those things. You have become a part of the things on that list since we first met x years ago".

2. Some examples of funny things that I accept will come with choosing to marry him - eg, "I accept that marrying you means I will be first point on sock duty as you are incapable of putting them into the laundry hamper. I acknowledge that it means always having to remember my keys, as you will not. I knowingly and willingly enter into marriage with you, understanding that you will continue to leave the bathroom door open." I should add that none of them are actual problems, and aren't nasty in any way (the examples I gave are less nice than the real ones - they're very mild but these were all I could think of!)

3. That I accept these things, and in return, I make several promises that relate back to the things that are known about my personality - ie, "I will love you as passionately as I love getting a top score on dance dance revolution. I will integrate you into my life as much as I include the colour green in my wardrobe, and I will treat you with as much reverence and excitement as I treat the first pumpkin spice latte of the fall."

4. I finish off by saying that I will love him passionately and unreservedly for the rest of our lives.

Tadaaa! All done! I'd kind of like to know whether you guys think I should add more/less/different?

I'm doing promises and talking about how much I love him. I also added a little inside joke. And I made it short.

I started mine off by listing the exact amount of time we've been together (months, weeks, days), and put a little joke in there about how I had to look that up on Google. It's a known fact that I'm horrible at math, and I know my FH will get a giggle out of it lol.

My next part, I talk about how well he loves and cares for me, and how I appreciate that and will spend the rest of my life thanking him. I talk about what I admire about him and how that inspires me to do the same. I then moved into how I see a future with him and explained that.

After that I listed out my promises to him and have a few funny ones in there.

Our original vows were "traditional with a twist" - they were promises to each other, and we wrote them together so we said the same ones. They were brief, just like traditional vows are.

For our vow renewal, we're each writing our own separately. My husband is a goofball, but can also be weirdly sentimental and romantic, so I don't have any idea what to expect there.

I already have an outline. Going to open with a very brief mention of how long we have been married (20 years), and two or three things about him, which will be a mix of lighthearted/humorous/poking fun and genuinely sweet. Then I'm going to make four or five new promises. The only thing I know I want is to fit a reference to our favorite movie in there somehow.

Time limit is 90 seconds. I absolutely loathe long, droning-on vows.

When we eloped in our backyard, we gave heartfelt lovely vows. This year it's all about goofing off. He wrote his and said they are just funny and kind of silly so I will be going for the same vibe. We are here to party and have fun with our friends and family and just keep it light. There will be no crying (happy tears) this time around, just tears of laughter!

I've thought of doing a whole mix of everything. One thing I've considered is: we both love watching Big Bang Theory, and I love Disney. So when Penny and Leonard got married, Penny used the song "You've Got a Friend in Me" from Toy Story and we both get a kick out of it. So I thought of starting with the first few lines that Penny said to Leonard because I know he'd laugh at it and get it. But then I'm going to turn it over into more serious vows with some jokes here and there. I'm going to bring up things I love about him while also keeping the "vow" part there, with some promises I'm making to him. So I'm kind of hoping it's a mix of everything!

Ours were short and sweet: "To have and to hold, to love and to cherish, etc,......until death parts us. No obey, lol.

We kicked it old school.