telling guests how to write checks

Good to know!

I work at a bank and we just ask to see the marriage license, so I would just take it with you when you go incase!

I totally understand where you're coming from. I have friends where she chose to keep her maiden name and some of the guests had wrote to "John Doe and Jane Doe" which did cause some issues for them. That said, I agree with the others that you shouldn't directly tell your guests. What you can do is have your MOH and perhaps your mom casually let guests know (if you trust them to do this discreetly and/or only when asked). We're just hoping for the best and if we need to, we might follow up with a guest afterwards if we are unable to cash the cheque (haven't decided for sure yet if we'll do this or not).

I'm so glad somebody asked this! I was just wondering about it the other day to be honest, but figured we'd deal with it after the wedding. We won't be the first to have this problem and won't be the last.

Glad to know banks are used to it. FH and I already have a joint account. I manage our finances, but I guess if i really need to wrangle him to get his booty to the bank, I can.

Thank you WW community, for all your help with this tricky etiquette business.

Ehhhhh. I would say a good 90% of the checks we got were written to "MR AND MRS B"......I wouldn't say anything though, if you're worried have your husband deposit everything into his account and then write you a check for what you need in your account (however you plan on handling the money until you get things sorted out.)

I wouldn't say anything. If your bank has a problem with it then you can deal with addressing it then

I wouldn't bring it up. We opened a joint account and didn't have any issues depositing the Mr. and Mrs. checks.

PB here as well! (fancy bank lingo for "personal banker")Don't worry, when most couples deposit checks 9 times out of 10 a name change hasn't happened yet as that process takes time to actually get a new ss card/DL, then change the name on the accounts, etc and checks generally get deposited much sooner than that after a wedding. Usually you can just bring in a copy of your marriage certificate with you, and it helps if you and your DH have a joint account together, so "and" checks can easily be deposited that way. Either way, I would contact your bank ahead of time and ask them what they're protocol is, but again, they see this almost every day.

We did mobile deposit for all of our checks that were written a ton of different ways and had no issues.