Terminally Ill Inlaw

Honestly, it’s your fiancé’s call. It’s his father. If he doesn’t want to move the date, try not to stress too much. If you’re close with his father and want him to be there, explain that to your FH and see what his thoughts are.

I think talking to FH about it is the first step. It is his father and whatever he feels like is the best decision, is what you should do. It sounds like you have already talked to him and he said he did not want to change anything. Bring it up again and tell him how you feel and see what he says. If he wants to keep it the same then maybe seek other options like do pictures with his dad separately this way he still sees you guys dressed up, or have a privet ceremony just for you guys and his parents and then have the real one on the original date.

I would ask your fiance what he wants to do. Our plan was always to fly to Arizona, elope with my grandfather, then come back and have a large wedding in Colorado with friends/family since my grandfather was old and couldn't travel. Unfortunately he passed away a few days before my husband proposed, so we weren't able to do that.

First, I am so sorry. Unfortunately, I know exactly what you are going through. We are in a similar boat. His mom was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer back in February. She went through Chemo anyway and we found out in July that it wasn't doing anything to help so they decided to stop treatment. At that point, we decided to do a small family ceremony in their back yard (so she would have everything she needed/was comfortable) the next month (August 17th) but continue on with the plans for November that were nearly 2 years in the making. It was really important to both of us that we do everything in our power to make sure she was there to see her baby boy (and only son) get married. At first we were going to keep it on the DL as it's obviously a sensitive subject but this person told that person and this person overheard and then mom had to tell an aunt because of another request and she has the worlds biggest mouth...so we just said forget it, let everyone know, and if anyone doesn't want to come in November because of it that's on them... it's not like we did it just for spite or anything like that, it's kind of a special situation and we had hoped the people close to us would understand. So far, everyone has been very understanding and we started getting our first RSVP's back this week for November... only 1 decline that we already knew about. We are still hoping she makes it (some days it looks more promising than others) but I wouldn't have been able to live with myself if I did not take the opportunity that we had. I was able to contact my photography company and after explaining the situation they let us use our "engagement shoot" that we never used on the 17th so we were able to capture some pictures of the day with our families. It was kind of crazy planning everything in 5 weeks but I am SOOOO glad we did!

I would definitely discuss it with FH first, it really should be his call, but there is nothing wrong with making suggestions. I hope FFIL is able to hang in there and enjoy those special moments with you guys - sending all of my love -