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Leslie
Beginner February 2019

Terrible trial, massive headache from updo

Leslie, on January 5, 2019 at 8:55 AM Posted in Hair and Makeup 0 42
Problem 1: So I told the hair dresser (who is a master stylist and said she does wedding updos all the time and has for 13 years) that I needed a style that would get my hair off my neck and back because I get so hot all the time, but that it needed to be a loosely pinned style because I'm prone to migraines.
I showed her this attached picture as an idea, and she said "love that!" and got to work. What she gave me wasn't even remotely close to that, and when I politely said that when she showed me, she said "Well your hair is really fine so we can't do that." (see other picture for what she did). Why wouldn't she have just told me that upfront, or when she realized she couldn't do it? And she kept insisting that the style I showed her is a bun with strands wrapped around it. I felt like we weren't looking at the same picture at all. I'm a realistic person, so if I just can't do something because of the hair I have, I totally get that. But what I ended up with ended up feeling like I could do maybe something better on my own (and I no confidence in doing my own hair for the day of).
Problem 2: She said she had some other ideas, so we tried three more looks and all of them were using a ton of bobby pins and put a lot of pressure on my head. She loosened it a bit, but after two hours I had to take it out because I got a migraine.
Problem 3: With all my concerns I told her about (there was no texture, no volume, she only curled a couple pieces and jammed the rest in a bun without any prep so it was weird and spiky, and hardly any product used at all on my straight, fine blonde hair) she kept saying things like, "totally. On the day of, we'll ______" with all the things she'd change for the wedding day. But isn't the point of the trial to show me what it will look like day of? It felt very half done.
I'm obviously going to have to go back from another trial (and it's really the only place close that I can go to, otherwise I'll have to travel far and I won't have that kind of time the day of, so I need to make this work with her. She's really nice and based on her portfolio also very talented, but I feel like there's no real effort there for my trial and I was left in the end feeling like I'm just too ugly for anything to work Smiley sad
Does anyone have advice on a loose updo to avoid the headache? And/or how to "bulk up" my fine hair? I just feel so sad right now, and it's deflated my excitement for our wedding day next month.

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42 Comments

Latest activity by Ycela, on December 29, 2021 at 9:19 AM
  • Katie
    VIP November 2019
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    What about a half up half down updo ? That puts less pressure on your head
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  • M
    Expert September 2018
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    I'm so sorry. If you're on completely different pages you might want to try the more further away salon.
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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    I need to have my hair all off my back and neck, I get very hot and my hair doesn't hold curls when it's down against my skin. Thanks for commenting, though!
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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    Sadly it's not an option because we're talking an hour away, and we won't have that kind of extra time the day of. But thanks for understanding my struggle and taking the time to comment.
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  • M
    Super November 2019
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    I'm sorry, but you're right. That looks like a hot mess. I dont understand why the hairstyle wouldn't be able to see that. Would you be willing to wear hair extensions for a thicker look? If it's too heavy, it might give you a migraine as well though.
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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    Yeah, exactly my thought.
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    Master January 2019
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    I see what you mean, the top part with the crossed pieces looks nice but the bottom part looks messy.
    Mine made comments like that too, on the day of we’ll smooth it out more... so maybe that’s normal🤷‍♀️
    Can you tell her you want it smoother and less messy. Messy is trendy right now so she may have just by default went that direction?
    I don’t think your hair needs bulking up, but hair stores, Sally’s here, has extensions that clip in. If those will hurt too, the have some that get melted to your own hair. That sounds scary though.
    As far as loosing it up I don’t have any suggestions. Updos usually hurt my head by the end of the night no matter how comfortable they are at first.
    Can you try taking Tylenol or something preemptively and through out the night? I know migraines are so different then regular headaches but maybe it might help.
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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    Yeah, I'd started by saying that I'm not on board with the messy styles and wanted to make sure she got what I meant but... Obviously she didn't. I do have migraine medication I can take, but if I do I can't drink or have coffee, so it's kinda a bummer on my wedding day haha. But thank you for the suggestion!
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  • M
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    Sometimes you can have stylists come to you day of. An hour is a bit of a hike. But if might be worth calling and asking.
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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    Good point. That really just comes down to money at that point, but I'm going to keep that in mind as a last resort.
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  • Melissa
    Dedicated March 2019
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    I was going to suggest seeing if there is a salon or independent stylist that is willing to travel to the venue. There is usually a travel fee but if you can find someone who has the same idea as you then maybe it’s worth it.
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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    Totally agree.
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  • Gonnabeaburch
    Super July 2019
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    Yikes. I'm sorry you had an experience like that. I can completely relate to the migraine issue, and am worried about it as well. Have you looked into a hair stylist that can come to you? You can look here or on thumbtack to find stylists that will travel to you the day of your wedding and sometimes even for your trial.
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated April 2019
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    In regards to the “thin hair” issue, have you thought about adding 2 or 3 clip ins? They are a quick affordable way to add length and body! They can be blended with your hair, cut curled, pinned, whatever you need!
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I love the inspiration, but agree her trial leaves a lot to be desired. My sister gets a lot of migraines so I understand your concern there. Could she perhaps use some braiding to help give your updo style, hold and volume without having to use a ton of bobby pins? I know tight braiding won't likely be good for you, but daughter's stylist used loose braids off both sides of a side part and brought them together in the back into kind of a stacked, woven bun. It gave daughter's hair a lovely shape, that based on the trial, held up well without 1000's of pins. Otherwise, I'd agree about searching for an independent stylist that would come to you. Good luck! I understand this is stressful. Smiley heart

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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    I have! I tried a couple extensions recently, and found that it still put just enough weight on my head to give me a headache Smiley sad Hate how sensitive my head is to weight and pressure, it's such a pain (literally, ha).

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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    Someone else suggested braids to me too, so I'm going to ask about that. I feel like braids can make me look like a child, but if they're done right I think the look you're talking about could look nice. Thank you for the suggestion!

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  • Tina
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    What about hair combs instead of all those bobby pins? And maybe braiding some of the hair to give it more thickness. Like this:

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  • Leslie
    Beginner February 2019
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    What a pretty idea, thank you! I find that combs can irritate my scalp, but obviously if she doesn't jam it into my head it should be okay haha

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  • Tina
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    You'll look beautiful no matter what.

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