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Kathryn
VIP August 2020

Texas Woes of 2020

Kathryn, on June 25, 2020 at 8:15 PM Posted in Texas Planning 2 35
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Lord almight!!!
I KNOW there are bigger things in the world. In fact, I am very mad on behalf of everyone who is now in the hospital thanks to the negligence of our governor and the fact that people are acting like nothing is wrong. No one in Texas is wearing masks really. It's just a lot of free for all, and now we're paying the price for the fact that we couldn't keep everyone home or wear masks.
My husband and I were originally scheduled for April 4th, and everything was paid off. We were all set, then the country shut down in March. Seeing the writing on the wall, we moved our date to August. At the time, we couldn't imagine waiting a year or the country staying locked down that long. Ha. We were young and naive.

Now texas will probably go into a lockdown soon. The biggest hospital in Houston is at ICU capacity. We are in Dallas, but my Houston family basically said they won't come. My mom will come because she's my mom, but her whole family is a big nada. And they're the top of the iceberg. The venue won't let us postpone right now.
BUT. With everything shutting down, we may be able to postpone the big wedding until next April, our one year anniversary. There are so much bigger things than our day, but we're still sobbing. It's not fair. Idk what else we can do. Right now we're waiting for the stay at home order and preparing for another lockdown. And for the venue to maybe let us postpone. Just ugh. I would rather cancel at this point, but I still want my memories with my family.

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Latest activity by Kathryn, on July 14, 2020 at 4:03 PM
  • Sarah
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    I have no advice to offer just empathy. We also postponed and just found out 2 weeks ago we’d be able to proceed on 8/2. As much of the country takes a back slide the stress is slowly creeping back in but thankfully Maryland is still one of the states doing well and still seeing a decrease in cases, hospitalizations, and positivity. I am just holding my breath that we can stay in this holding pattern for one more month! Good luck and I’m sorry your day is being clouded by Covid.
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  • M
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    I’m so sorry Smiley sad I hope things work out for you to get the April date next year
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  • Marissa
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    I feel you girl!!! It's been extremely stressful for everyone 😔 Things are changing each week. I'm in CA and our cases are slowly rising too. Our governor just mandated everyone to wear masks this past Friday, but still I see lots of people not wearing them. Also, Disneyland was supposed reopen again in mid-July but they just announced that's not going to happen until further notice. I think that was the right call for sure. I'm still staying hopeful these next few weeks/months things might change for the better. 🤞

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  • Lindsay
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    I’m so sorry I know how hard this experience has been it’s suppose to be happy time for us brides and all the uncertainty is so hard. I hope things get better for you!!
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  • Sexypoodle
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    Oh wow! I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s so hard to understand and so upsetting when I see people taking this deadly virus light heartedly. Like everyone else, I was sick and tired of quarantine. But like I heard someone say on the news, “the virus is not tired of making people sick“. I’ve gone a few places and to a few restaurants since re-openings. But it’s certainly not a comfortable outing. So as much as it sucks to postpone our October wedding until next October, I wouldn’t want our guests to experiene that same discomfort being at our wedding I sensed that the careless re-openings and lack of social distancing would create spikes and lockdowns again. So watching everything fall apart again, I have become beyond relieved about postponing. I think, ultimately, you’ll feel the same way too.
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    I am so sorry that this is happening to you. We went through the rollercoaster of "to postpone or not to postpone" last month and it was awful. I hope you'll be able to get some clarity soon and maybe at least your venue will let you postpone so you don't lose any money, etc. Smiley sad

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  • Caitlynn
    Just Said Yes September 2020
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    My wedding is supposed to be in September this year. My venue was optimistic we could still have our original guest count, but I really don’t think it’s a good idea, even in a “lower risk” part of the country. So I’m really lost at what to do right now. Part of me wants to not even think about it and hope it gets better by then, but part of me knows I should start thinking of back up options. It really sucks Smiley sad
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    I'm so sorry.

    I understand your anger. I'm in the second hardest hit county in the second hardest hit state (aka, across the river from NYC). It's so hard to watch the rest of the country go through everything we just went through, and not listen. We may be opening up, but it's slow, it's still with masks and distancing, and we may have to reverse course if people are, to quote my governor, "knuckleheads". (That is not only the most Jersey thing to call someone, but also very amusing.)

    My ILs live in Manhattan, and we haven't seen them in person since late February/early March. We usually see them *at least* once a month. If we're all very busy. We think my FIL had it, but he never got a test, and my parents live in AZ, which is spiking.

    Solidarity.

    Please, stay home, stay safe, be careful, and go beat up a pillow if you need to.

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  • Nefetera
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    Try getting the April date...sorry what you are going thru
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  • Kathryn
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    Be thankful you have a sense governor and people wear masks. We're about to be hit hard. Good luck!!! I hope you guys get your day for sure. Maryland or any of the northern states seems like a safe bet for a small wedding.
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  • Kathryn
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    I hope so too! Right now the venue is playing chicken with our money, and we don't want to pay again. Hopefully things work out with a lockdown.
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  • Kathryn
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    I feel you girl. 😤 Its just a bad situation all around. Unfortunately for us, it's also a political issue that we won't go into, but hopefully people wise up all around and wear their masks. Not just for my wedding but for public health.
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  • Kathryn
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    I think we will too. Honestly we might have gone a year out if we had known the full scope when we originally postponed, and now it's a matter of if us or the venue will swerve first. Our other vendors will probably be fine with moving the date because we already paid pretty much everyone, and they'll keep their money if we move the date instead. And our guests will be more comfortable all around. We kind of want to move the big wedding at this point if the venue would allow it.
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  • Kathryn
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    We already went through the rollercoaster once, so to be back on it is a huge pain. Neither of us want to deal with it anymore. We just have to see what Texas is going to do.
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  • Kathryn
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    I feel you girl. I learned the hard way to not trust the venue - they just want your money. I would cut your guest list if you can. But also, good luck on having your day! It'll be amazing however you guys manage to plan ot.
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  • Kathryn
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    Definitely beating up pillows. So sorry you guys have already been in the middle of that tragedy- I hope everyone is safe and well. In the grand scheme of things, I'm still married to my husband. And that's what matters. We might just have to have the big official wedding whenever things calm down, and that's ok.
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    Oh I am so sorry for you! When I heard about Texas I was actually thinking about you because I have seen you post about your wedding in Texas and going through with your postponed date. I'm just imagining so many brides who thought things were looking good for this time of year are now in super panic mode. This whole thing has been so strange. When this all hit in March I was completely naive and thought it couldn't possible affect my July wedding... then May rolled around and I felt the writing was on the wall. 2020 is just too much. Hugs to you and I hope you are able to come to a solution that brings both of your hearts joy.

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  • Mariah
    Dedicated April 2020
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    I FEEL YA! We were scheduled for 4/4 as well and our new date is 7/18 BUT NOW with the spikes here in Texas I'm like Smiley cry ughghg94utugqkju04t824ywqh;j!!!!!!!!! I'm not sure what we are gonna do and about a week ago I was CERTAIN we were keeping our 7/18 date. I hate this unknown!

    I feel like we were naive as well Smiley sad we didnt end up getting married on 4/4 cause we felt like we wanted to wait for our new date to be husband and wife and get the whole wedding experience. I really wish we would've because now here we are still not man and wife and still unsure about our new wedding. We are going to legally get married this time and might postpone the wedding til next July as a one year anniversary party. Just sucks cause the wedding is paid and we cant cancel either. Our venue said no cancellations only reschedules Smiley sad

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  • Kathryn
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    I was feeling pretty ok until they announced that the Texas Medical Center has a full icu. I mean, they're legit - that hospital could be a city with it's own zip code. It's ridiculous. I feel overwhelmed and know that people will be out and about unless Abbott puts us on lockdown again, which he probably won't unless it gets worse...which its bound to. Our wedding is like the least of the worries, but it's so much anxiety around what should be a happy day.
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  • Mariah
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    I think abbott said the last thing he wants to do is shut down again which means people are still gonna do whatever they want. I wish he would've been slow to open.

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