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Kathryn
VIP August 2020

Texas Woes of 2020

Kathryn, on June 25, 2020 at 8:15 PM

Posted in Texas Planning 35

Warning: Covid Lord almight!!! I KNOW there are bigger things in the world. In fact, I am very mad on behalf of everyone who is now in the hospital thanks to the negligence of our governor and the fact that people are acting like nothing is wrong. No one in Texas is wearing masks really. It's just a...
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Lord almight!!!
I KNOW there are bigger things in the world. In fact, I am very mad on behalf of everyone who is now in the hospital thanks to the negligence of our governor and the fact that people are acting like nothing is wrong. No one in Texas is wearing masks really. It's just a lot of free for all, and now we're paying the price for the fact that we couldn't keep everyone home or wear masks.
My husband and I were originally scheduled for April 4th, and everything was paid off. We were all set, then the country shut down in March. Seeing the writing on the wall, we moved our date to August. At the time, we couldn't imagine waiting a year or the country staying locked down that long. Ha. We were young and naive.

Now texas will probably go into a lockdown soon. The biggest hospital in Houston is at ICU capacity. We are in Dallas, but my Houston family basically said they won't come. My mom will come because she's my mom, but her whole family is a big nada. And they're the top of the iceberg. The venue won't let us postpone right now.
BUT. With everything shutting down, we may be able to postpone the big wedding until next April, our one year anniversary. There are so much bigger things than our day, but we're still sobbing. It's not fair. Idk what else we can do. Right now we're waiting for the stay at home order and preparing for another lockdown. And for the venue to maybe let us postpone. Just ugh. I would rather cancel at this point, but I still want my memories with my family.

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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2020
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    Crazy part is that wasn’t the case even a month ago. Currently I can have 120 @ my wedding (50% venue capacity) . I will take it!
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  • Sexypoodle
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    Best wishes with everything. It will all work out somehow.
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    Savvy September 2020
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    Did you send out invites and had to call everyone with a new date? This is my fear.. Our venue hasnt operated since march 2020, we are trying to hold out as long as we can. They said we can cancel if we dont want to wait it out. We have been searching other venues with our same date or close to it as a last min backup plan. But then, well wont give our guest anytime to plan to come
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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Hey girl! TX & postponed bride here as well!
    We originally were suppose to get married April 18th and now our new date is Aug 30th! I lol every time I think back to the day I postponed thinking everything will be fine by August.... HA! Everything just seems so uncertain and all I want is to put on my dress, walk down the aisle to my man, have cake, and go on our honeymoon! I feel your pain so so much! Our venue is running business as usual- no cut guest list, anything! So, currently planning full steam ahead- except we aren’t getting many rsvps back because understandably people are waiting to see what August will look like.
    Sorry I have no advice to offer- just empathy & a little rant
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    Savvy September 2020
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    What town is this venue at! Thats awesome and happy for you. I wish i will be able to do the same soon. Starting over from the beggining ia so hard at the last min too
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  • Tiffany
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    Our venue is The Grand Ivory in Leonard- it’s north of McKinney!
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  • Niki
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    You just made me smile with those GIFs. I’m in Plano and our wedding was supposed to be May 23 and we postponed to Aug 23. I’m so annoyed and over people not taking this seriously! Today, our minister called & said he isn’t comfortable traveling. His son is one of the groomsmen & he called just after & said he has COVID & had to go to the ER last night. So he is canceling as well. At this point, we still plan to get married on Aug 23 even if we don’t have it at the venue. (What’s the point?!? We can’t hug & greet our guests, no one will probably want to dance & it’s just dumb.) I’ve been remarkably positive about this whole thing & know that things will all work out. But you’re right - it’s not fair! I’m doing my part to stay safe & it’s a shame our fellow Texans aren’t taking it seriously. I’d rather get out of our venue completely rather than postpone a big reception for next year but I don’t know if it’s possible. Hang in there girl! Best wishes to you! ❤️
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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    We are ALSO in Plano (technically the Colony but whatever). Our one wish was to have our families there, and it's not safe. My husband's mom is a huge mess medically, and his father is a cancer surgeon who is very against us going ahead. Soooooo we told the venue, and they basically told us the company line of "we're open so what's wrong?!!!" And just. Won't let our money transfer to another day. We're arguing about the catering because they said we were 30 days out when we are not. Are you kidding me? The dj is also not giving us money back, but at least the florist is willing to work with us. I 1000% believe in Andy's Floral Events if you still need flowers.

    So we're having an expensive elopement, not the pretty wedding we planned in April. No family, only a few friends. Our dog is walking me down the aisle. I am EXHAUSTED. Tired and overwhelmed and sad. I think that's the main thing. Sad. Good luck with your venue! Good luck with your day! We'll get through this somehow.
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  • Niki
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    Kathryn, I’m so sorry to hear this! Hang in there girl!!! ❤️
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    Just Said Yes January 2021
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    Hey Kathryn, we are also getting married with the same venue company and we are using Andy! Shout out to Andy for being such an amazing florist. I would recommend her to anyone in a heartbeat and plan on using her for many future events. As for the venue, I am absolutely distraught that I put my trust in them. We are further out than you, but have you asked the venue to sit down and give you a step-by step of how they plan to follow CDC guidelines? I know how stubborn and unsafe they are currently being, but I plan on asking them for detailed instructions as to how exactly they plan on making a wedding work. I am talking floorplans, showing us how they plan to maintain 6ft distance between all guests - Not just the copy and paste response they've been giving on every review website. Since your day is closer, and restrictions are probably going to get tighter, they have to show you in writing how they are going to keep it safe and how they are going to take on the liability should ANYONE get sick. The reason I am so scared to use them is their recent menu tasting. They had it a week ago, and the venue was absolutely PACKED and it was a buffet. There was no markings on the floor to maintain distance as their website states. We were asked to wear masks while in the building, but obviously everyone had to take them off to eat. They were also seating couples/households unrelated to each other at the same table! Furthermore, I overheard a few employees talking about how they had 300 person events that weekend with not a single person wearing masks. It is no wonder Texas is surging with cases right now.

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  • Kathryn
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    Giiiiirl shout out to Andy, she is the best and I would also recommend her in a heartbeat!!! I'm glad we got our tasting out of the way last year, when we could still enjoy the magic of the wedding. But yeah, they haven't given us details. They basically told us the ine thing we wanted - a way to livestream - would have to be set up by us. So I am royally pissed about that because we have ways to do it that don't require us having to set something up. 🙄 I wish I could give you more info. The major communication we've had was us calling until our coordinator answered and then gave us the company line about how they were going ahead. We didn't press for specifics on how they planned to do that because we'll probably have 5 people and plenty of room to spread out. I honestly have been so annoyed and hurt that my husband is dealing with them to make sure we still have a pretty place to elope. That all honestly just make me more sure that we're right to ask our at risk family to not come. I'll keep you updated if they actually give us more info, but right now we have nothing but their generic form from the site that she sent us as part of their "why they're going ahead" email. I wish I had more info, but I don't. I'm also saddened by the whole situation.
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    Just Said Yes January 2021
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    Are you serious about the live stream! HOLY CRAP I don't understand how they are okay completely ruining their reputation in such a short time span. I am so sick of hearing " oh we are hopeful things will get better" . Like HELLO are you not watching the news and seeing what is happening in Texas? All of the vendors and wedding planners I've spoken to are absolutely sick of them. I am constantly crying because like you, I will most likely not have my family at my wedding. My family has already told me that they aren't comfortable with coming down to Texas in the midst of all this (understandably). We also cannot afford to have a second ceremony/reception at a later date now because this company has taken all of the money we've set aside for a wedding. I am SO SORRY you have been put in this situation. I know they've already been sued and are getting slammed on various websites. They have absolutely tarnished many couples weddings and they should be ashamed of themselves.

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  • Kathryn
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    Yeeeep. Our dj - who won't postpone either because of course - also won't handle livestream, so I guess we're going to recruit...someone to stand in the back of the chapel with a phone. Maybe pay whoever with the food they won't let us out of. But GIRL. We luckily paid everything off for our tiny wedding well in advance, but it still SUCKS to lose all this money. Especially the catering because we ain't using it but we still have to pay for it. 🙄 Now I demand my mimosas for one and a full sandwich spread while the nice lady does my hair and makeup with just me and our dog. They should be. My husband asked about donating the catering- because we don't need barbecue for 45, just 5 - and the lady acted shock. Like what did she think we were going to do with the food they're forcing us to buy?!!! Ugh this is the worst. Know you're not alone, and your family will be with you in spirit if nothing else. ❤ just ugh. They're being the worst and they should definitely be ashamed.
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    Just Said Yes January 2021
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    The part about not being able to donate the meals especially blows! When they told me that I could see what part of the contract they were referring to, but like time's have clearly changed. How GREEDY can one company be. I'm like dude I've already PAID for this many people, let me at least give the meals to someone who could use it. Hell we could package them ourselves. But nope, they'll just take the money and not give you anything in your contract. Please, enjoy those mimosas, get pampered, marry your love, and just screw them. Tell everyone how they've behaved and how they've treated you. I know it's not just us too, SO many Texas couples are in this predicament.

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    Preeeetty much they were like "We'll hold up our end". Which means making the food we agreed to, but we can subtract to only just meet the minimum (which we did because I have some words and they better give us money back). Honestly I will indeed enjoy my day. I think this has highlighted that we could get married in the woods so long as we have our families there. I mean, we got married over zoom with our officiant distancing in the hallway back in April when we still didn't know anything about the virus, but we still wanted a day with our folks who still haven't met. That's the part that hurts. I'm just, tired and over it and ready to have the event over so we can start scoping for the future. I have been loud and vocal- so has my mom, she's somehow angrier than we are and she put in no money - and I am telling everyone to veer away. Beautiful place - shame about the people.
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