Texting Guests

Personally, I wouldn’t text any guest, seems kind of tacky to me. I’m keeping a list & marking off those who’ve responded- those who haven’t, I’m personally calling the week before our final headcount is due. If they still haven’t responded, I’m going to put them down as a No.

I agree - I wouldn’t mass text. Wait to see who doesn’t rsvp and reach out individually. A lot of people wait till the last minute.

A few days after the RSVP deadline, we called the people who still hadn't RSVPed and got their responses. The majority of our RSVPs came in right at the deadline. If you did mail-in RSVPs you also need to factor in how terribly backed up the postal service is right now. If you are doing online RSVPs, the bulk of the people will probably do it day of the due date.

If it is someone you routinely text to chat, there is nothing wrong with asking, once if they have any questions about the wedding. And, if you have not sent in your RSVP card, please do. Either way, we need to know in advance.
...........A lot of people who may not have been to any parties requiring a formal written invitation, go by school dept. or club or team type rules : let us know if you are coming. No response means you are not. That is fine if you miss a field trip or a birthday party . But considering the money at stake may be $100-$300 or more per invitation, and that this is an important function, you need definite notice, definite count.
Many people have their email spam filters set to stop and email with 5 or more, or 20 or more addresses on any email, all blasts. If you send an email, address the email, and copy the same text on every individual address, avoiding blasts. There is no point in wasting your time with blasts 90% never see because they are trashed by the spam filter..... If they tell you back over a text or an email, write a card yourself, and if they forgot meals, just text or email back. Tell them not to bother with the card now, all you need is the answer. For some reason, some brides will tell people who call or email, well go to the website (or RSVP card) and do it that way. I am only reminding you, I am not your secretary, or other unproductive answer. Just take the information however you get it, if it is directly from the person involved and not just rumor passed on. That is standard etiquette. Requiring an RSVP card be filled in or a website used in not standard manners. These are your invited guests, you are supposed to receive any personal message they give you.

I would not send out a group text just because, for me personally, nothing annoys me more than getting put into a group text with people I do not know. For my wedding, I had a printed out chart of our guest's names, and a "+1" for their plus one if they were single, or it had "The Smith Family" on it if we were inviting their entire household. I had a column for their addresses & phone number, a column for the the number of estimated people, then I had a "returned RSVP" section that I put a check mark in when we got it back. The last column was for the number of people that RSVP-ed. After our RSVP date passed, I looked back over the list and reached out to those we didn't hear from individually. It only ended up being 3 or 4 people that didn't get their RSVP in by the date we gave on our invites so it wasn't that big of a deal for us.

My suggestion would be to keep a list of those you haven't received RSVP's back from and reach out to them separately. Or, make a post on social media and edit it so only those invited to your wedding (or those who still haven't responded) can see it if you want to do it all in one shot.

I would keep away from texting anyone. We made our website through Wix. It's a good platform to send out a mass reminder email or you can also call.

I agree with others about contacting those who do not RSVP individually.

Do you guy have a wedding website with The Knot? Ours is set up so if the guest hasn't RSVP'd by our chosen date, it

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I was going to say - The Knot website is set up so if your guests haven't RSVP'd by 2 weeks before the cut off date, it will send them a reminder email/txt (whichever one you have entered for them in the guestlist) along with the link to the rsvp page of the website

Do not mass text anyone. You can provide the option of them texting you or using rsvpify.com to reply. But reaching out to them is done individually only when the reply is past due.

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View Quoted Comment Did you have any issue with that? Mine is set up this way, as well, and the link takes guests to the App Store instead of our wedding website

View Quoted Comment Nope no issue! (At least nobody told us of any!) For us, the Knot sent txt/emails with a link to the rsvp part of the website and not the app store.
And I was also able to see which one was undeliverable (some were sent to non-existant emails) so we could reach out to them in a different way.

View Quoted Comment Sadly, if you want The Knot to text a RSVP reminder, you have to pay for that service. Otherwise the link is a link to their app in the App Store

View Quoted Comment Oh wow! I never knew that! I didn't pay for that service either lol. Our guests received this:

Is this different from yours?

View Quoted Comment Yes, it’s different, ours has a link that directs you to the App Store for their separate app
It is not editable

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The fact that Wedding Wire doesn't allow you to message guests that haven't RSVP'd yet ONLY is crazy to me. There should be a feature that allows you to email all of those who haven't RSVP'd yet so those that have RSVP'd don't have to get another email about RSVPing!

This is something I would delegate to a MOH or a parent. My mom and sister/MOH are tasked with calling everyone who hasn't RSVP'd after the deadline, and hubby is taking care of his side. I am doing EVERYTHING else.