Thank You Card Etiquette

We did ours right quick but whatever. You did them and that's what matters!

I received a thank you card 11 months after a wedding once. Haha, I guess technically you have a year. I would never dream of waiting that long personally. I'm already feeling bad enough that mine aren't out yet but I'm almost done. I wouldn't care how long it took as long as I got one! I'm big on thank you cards.

We did ours within 6 weeks. We waited for our pro pics to come back to include a picture of us on our cards. I'm still waiting for a shower thank you from last May and a wedding thank you from last October.....grrrrrr

Guests have up to a year to send a gift. The couple has a three month grace period. Still I commend you. There are couples we have never received a thank you from.

Me too. And they're nice thank you cards with personal notes. We had 240 at our wedding and my husband was supposed to write the ones from his side, but I ended up finishing them because it was taking too long.

You sent them and that's what matters!

I would at least have them done, 6 months after the wedding. I can't imagine any longer. I probably would feel bad.

I've heard on here that they should be within 3 months, but my mom insists that within 6 months is fine. I wouldn't worry!

Sending them is what matters!

I just got a thank you note in the mail last week for a baby shower present from February. I admittedly was kind of annoyed because I've given them a wedding present last year, and a baby shower present, brought over a meal after the birth, then a baptism present this year and hadn't received thank you notes for any of that. I don't think any less of them - they're nice people and I know they're grateful, they're just flaky and don't realize it. 5-6 months is much much better than not sending them at all but TBH I don't think there's any excuse for more than 3 months. They can be sent as they're completed, too, they don't need to be sent all at once.

To actually answer the question instead of giving unsolicited opinions - we sent ours within a month, both for promptness and because I wanted to make sure people got thank you notes before they got Christmas cards from us (11/21 wedding).

Well better late than never! I haven't received thank you's from a couple of weddings I attended last summer.

I'm still doing thank you notes from my mom's service in April for all the food and flowers. I know you're supposed to send them quick, but I think as long as you're within the 4-6 month range you're ok.

No, you don't technically have a year. Please don't continue to spread that rumor among other posters! The couple has up to 3 months.

OP, don't stress - at least you actually sent them! That is the most important thing. As we've heard many times on this forum, a lot of couples don't sent them at all.

I'd say 3-5 months is normal, a year is a bit much. We did ours with our Xmas cards so it was about 6 weeks later. I would have liked to do them earlier but we figured no one would want 2 cards from us in a 6 week span. I did do my shower and recently baby shower thank yous in 2 weeks. I would rather just crank them out then have it lingering.

Thanks for all the replies! I did have my shower thank you cards out within a few weeks, so hopefully they keep that in mind as they get these

Definitely better late than never!! And I bet it feels good to have that crossed off your list.

Oh no, Karen!! How could we hate you for that??? I'm so sorry to hear your wedding day wasn't perfect ;(

Two weeks. We each did four or five a day until they were done.

Miss Manners says as soon as possible, like, the day you receive the present. And it just feels worse and worse if you let it drag on.

I would definitely think the less of someone who waited months--and never send another present to someone who didn't send a thank-you note at all.

Better late than never! We did ours within a month but that's just because I wanted to get them over with. I never received anything from a wedding in November and it kind of left a bad taste in my mouth. I have received thank you cards 9 months after and I was touched because they took the time to send a personal thank you. Better late than never for sure.

Better later than never. We were married 10 days ago and have already sent out all of our thank yous though.