Thank you cards question? Tacky??

I think it’s definitely more personal to hand write the thank you’s. Is everything on the note printed (who it’s to, the thank you and your names?)? Could you add a little hand written note on it to make it a little personal?

I don't think there is anything wrong with printed thank you cards. A handwritten thank you card is always more personal and sentimental, but a printed thank you card is better than no thank you card.

Printed cards don’t come off personal or sincere (unless they physically cannot hand write).

View Quoted Comment The bride and groom's name are printed. The words Thank you are on the front and the message and names on the back. So maybe add a short note to the front?

View Quoted Comment That is a good way to look at it. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Ouch, but thanks for your honesty.

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Agree with this. Etiquette in is this case is not something that changes with the times. People still prefer to receive handwritten notes.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your thoughts!

Yes, it is tacky to send pre-printed thank you notes.

Thank you cards are always best hand-written. Otherwise it comes off as generic.

Yes, this would be really poor taste - on par with sending nothing at all. The couple can add personalized notes to each card, or scrap them entirely. For a gift of a couple hundred dollars I expect a couple sentences. Sorry to be harsh, at least you are asking in time to correct it!

I would try to add a personalized note to it, I agree with posters that not having something had written is poor taste. Guests take so much time and spend money to celebrate the big day with the bride and groom, the least they can do is hand write something. Someone in our family typed out something, printed it and cut and glued it in a thank you card and it was talked about in my family for YEARS about how rude it was because a lot of time and money spent on gifts and they couldn’t even take time out to write a simple note. i guess a printed card is better than no thank you at all (i never got a thank you for a shower I went to until 6 months after a bride and groom got married and I thought it was very rude)

I was also a MOB, and YES, I find preprinted thank you notes incredibly rude. If there is plenty of room for the B&G to handwrite personalized messages on the cards that you've already ordered, then I think it is fine to use them for sending personalized thank you. But just sending out preprinted cards without a personalized message? For me, that would reflect badly on the couple and I would remember it for a very long time....

The preprinted cards are fine to use AS LONG AS they add a personal handwritten thank you to that. Thank Yous for gifts should also specifically reference the item they’re thanking them for. There’s nothing wrong with the cards you’ve ordered as a base! They just need to be added to by the couple to be personalized.

Personally I find the pre-printed cards tacky. Especially because it’s something that was likely written before my gift was even received so it isn’t even based on whether I attended or what I gave for a gift.

I was always taught that when you send a thank you card you thank them for the specific gift they got you (such as "thank you for the blender") as well as how much you will enjoy it and if you have any special plans. If I got a pre-printed card that said something that they could have sent to every single person who gave them a gift no matter what it was I would feel like they were being lazy or really didnt care about the gifts they were given. Sorry I know it takes up a bunch of time but it comes off poorly to have printed thank yous.

I personally prefer hand written cards, as they are more thoughtful. Is there a way they could add a handwritten note to each of the already printed thank you cards?

Sorry, but pre-printed thank-you notes come across as pretty tacky and even lazy. The entire point of a thank-you note is to personalize it and thank the giver for their specific gift, so pre-printed cards totally defeat that purpose unless you are adding a handwritten note to each one.

I'm sorry to say it, but I definitely think that pre-printed thank you notes would be in poor taste, because they'd come across as lazy and/or insincere

View Quoted Comment Enough time to fix. Thanks! So add a note or trash all together?