Thank Yous

I think as an overall thank you for coming, a speech at the beginning of the night and individually going up to guests to say thank you is enough. That doesn't mean I appreciate them any less or feel like they didn't care, I'm just not going to send out 150 thank you cards to thank people for showing up. If someone gifted me $5 they'd get the exact same thank you card as someone who gifted us $500 and I would be thankful that they decided to give anything at all since I don't think it should be required to give anything when you go to a wedding.

I think the big thing here to me isn't that I'm not thankful for them, it's more that I am aware that a thank you in person from me is going to be much more heartfelt and genuine than any thank you card I write. Those to me are just formalities because it's rude to not send one after receiving a gift. No matter how much someone spends on a gift, they're going to get the same generic, nearly cookie cutter thank you card. Doesn't mean I don't appreciate the stuff, I just hate thank you cards. Thank you cards aren't the only way to show someone you appreciate them.

And to add to my last comment, we aren't inviting anyone to our wedding that we don't see on a regular basis, so I also know I will be able to thank them again in person after the fact and talk with them about how much I appreciated them being there. If that weren't the case then I can definitely understand wanting to send a note of thanks for coming to someone who you might not see again for a while.