The 5 stages of grief...

View Quoted Comment Wow! Bless your heart! ❤️ You sound like such a wonderful person whose learned to heal from difficult emotions.

View Quoted Comment I have 2 little people counting on me, so I'm teaching them to feel what they feel, but not wallow in it. They were 6 and 3, and their daddy passed on his birthday. No one can imagine these things, but they happen. Life isn't perfect and things go wrong, but you can't hide from what hurts or push it down because other people are uncomfortable when you are going through something in front of them. Feel it, make peace with it in whatever timeframe works for you. Dreams are worth cherishing, and if they can't come to fruition, you're allowed to acknowledge how that effects you. Don't hide your feelings to make others happy. We all have the right to feel ::hugs::

View Quoted Comment We are also getting married on September 26 and I feel like you just typed out everything im worried or stressed about! We are still unsure of what todo either. We are still planning as normal but have also talked about postponing for 1 year.. but we have been engaged for over a year now! I just feel so lost about that to do I’m just glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. Hopefully someone with a crystal ball will tell us what we should do soon!! 💕💕

View Quoted Comment You are absolutely right!! Such a beautiful perspective!

View Quoted Comment Haha you’re welcome! 😁😁 I think I have experienced the 5 stages of grief today as well! Back at it tomorrow. 🤣

I completely understand!! My wedding is October 30th and I'm super freaked out and it seems that when I talk to someone about it, they think I'm being selfish for being upset. You are definetly not alone. I'm very sorry for what you're going through.

I feel the exact same way. We’re supposed to get married in October. Every time someone says that life isn’t getting back to normal anytime soon, I just get depressed. And I struggle because I know people are dying and sick and lost jobs and can’t afford their homes or food, but I’m sad too. I’ve waited my whole life for this day.

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I'm so sorry that you're going through the same thing -- I feel totally lost too! Hang in there

This Saturday, May 16th is my wedding day. But we had to postpone. My Bridal shower back home in NY was canceled, my bachelorette was canceled, all of it. I've packed away anything wedding related so i don't have to look at it. All week I've felt so sad, I tear up randomly just thinking how my family would be here with me and the days this week would be so exciting and crazy leading up to our big day. It's heartbreaking. We've postponed for the end of October and even now I still feel so helpless about it all. No motivation to continue planning as it should be my big day this weekend. So, I feel you girl. I'm leaving town this weekend to go out in the middle of no where just to not be anywhere close to home.

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We postponed our wedding from May 16th, this Saturday - to October 30th. I am trying to hold on to hope for that date, so stay positive!

I have experienced all of the same emotions! I’m a 5/23 bride and have spent the last couple of months in limbo and unsure of a plan B with all of the uncertainty. I’ll think I’m fine for awhile and get excited nailing down a plan B and then experience all the emotions again people ask valid questions like, “what if it gets rescheduled again”? Everyone has the purest intentions, but somehow it still stings a little. I’m SO fortunate to have found my FH and be healthy and still employed during this crazy time, which also makes me feel selfish for having these feelings. My heart goes out to all of you! ❤️

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I completely understand. I felt the same way when I started planning my wedding. I never really had any desire to have a bachelorette or bridal shower, and then over time the idea started to grow on me. Mostly because it's a once in a lifetime experience that I would never be able to redo. I also understand not wanting any virtual celebrations, I don't blame you. I know it's not an ideal situation ordering dresses online but I hope it goes well and you find your dream dress! Sending you love

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It absolutely breaks my heart to hear what you've been through. That is a loss that is just unfathomable. Thank you for your empathy and your kind words, they are so greatly appreciated. I hope you have a beautiful wedding in February, you deserve it

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Ugh I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine the kind of emotions this week is bringing for you. Like many people have said, let yourself grieve in whatever way you need this week. Be irritable, be angry, be sad, be frustrated. Feel all the feelings. I do think a change of scenery will be incredibly beneficial! Hang in there, we're all here for you

View Quoted Comment Thank you ❤ yours will be, also. Stay positive, hun!

We have had 5/1/2021 booked since November, which is so far out, but with all the talks of a second wave, I feel like all my excitement about wedding planning is gone. It feels like I shouldn't be dumping more money into deposits when the economy is going into a recession and who knows if we will even be able to have an event in a year. I keep feeling like I've come to terms with that, but then go through waves of "I want to start planning again" to "it's foolish to plan an event that may never happen".

I just want to thank everyone in this discussion for being incredibly empathetic, positive, and supportive of one another! I'm a very private person and have never been very open on social media or online forums. I was nervous to post my feelings as there is a lot of negativity on other social media platforms at the moment, but every single one of you have been extremely kind to me and to one another. I was struggling throughout the last two months feeling very alone and like I had no one to talk to who could truly understand what I am going through. This online community was exactly what I needed and I appreciate all of you so much

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We're all here to support each other! No one else besides us knows the anxiety, stress, and heartbreak we're going through right now. Like I can't even talk to my sister (Matron of Honor) about this, because all I get are, "Right...", "Hmm ok...", etc. I know she means well, but she just doesn't understand, because she got married years ago and had her day!

One of my other friends who's supposed to get married in July had to postpone her wedding today. I'm actually more friends with her fiance (we went to college together), but I consider her a friend as well. They are getting married in a small ceremony on their wedding date and doing a vow renewal/reception next year. They are doing what's best for now, and I understand that, but I know she's heartbroken, and I just straight up ugly cried for her today when she messaged me and told me. It's not even my wedding, and I'm so sad for their situation! I know I should be happy because they are marrying each other and that's what's important.... but I'm just really upset for them! It was just in February, we were at another friend's house, and we were talking about us getting married 1 month apart from each other....

Ugh. Virtual hugs to everyone.

Thank you for this! You completely summed up what I've been feeling but haven't been able to articulate.

I'm also glad someone said this and is not another person just saying that the marriage is what's important, not the wedding. Our date is June 6th, and while we decided in April that we should move our reception date, we had decided that we were going to still try and get married on our date. However, this is proving challenging, and I broke down in tears for about the 50th time this week alone when I realized that every person attending our 20 person family only ceremony had to wear a mask. A freaking face mask shows no smiles, no happy tears, no beautiful makeup! I am also a generally positive person and I origibally was just rolling along to the beat of whatever we had to do to keep our family safe, but that moment really, truly crushed me. There's no way that this stupid virus will not show up in our photos. We don't get family shots, I don't get cute photos with my niece and nephews. It doesn't happen and I'm not grieving that well right now. It doesn't matter if 50 years down the road we will laugh about this. What matters is something I've been promised my entire life has been taken away from us by something we cannot see. 😔 Even if we do get a shot at having our reception next year and we can have a 1 year vow renewal ceremony, this will likely change the wedding industry forever, and it's just heartbreaking for all of us going through this.