The Bachelor Party- strippers allowed?

Skmason.... would like to hear how you're doing.... you havent comment in some time. Maybe it is that you are busy now but hopefully you are doing ok. Overall... dont do a rushed action just for all the comments here. Analize what you want and need most at this time. Though I dont really know you it is still a worry I have. Cuz I know this was not just a place to comment, its your heart that you put into the question. Take care... best wishes.

I personally am fine with whatever the bestman comes up with. I trust my fiance!

I did however tell the BM that whatever it was HAD to be done at least 2 weeks before the wedding.

Dont need a drunk hung over fiance at the alter... lol.

Again, I trust my fiance and I trust the men that he'll be with.

Skmason I would tell your Sammy Hagar wanna be to smarten the heck up! He's emotionally abusing you you poor thing

DFW, my FH and I talked last night, although the issue of a strip club was never brought up. He apologized for his behavior and agreed to finally go to counseling (together). Our fighting styles are very different, so hopefully counseling will help us reconcile them. As for me, I am still trying to understand the entire situation. Everyone's advice has helped me to put my life into perspective and regain my inner strength. I feel more confident that if I did choose to leave, my life would continue toward another amazing future.

The Potters- I don't have low self esteem issues or see his actions as being okay. I love the person life has made me, which is why I am so baffled and upset by my FH remarks. Now however, I realize that if he doesn't think I'm wonderful, there is no use trying to convince him. A relationship should make both parties better. Neither person should have to spend time "proving" themselves. It's such a waste of time. The only thing I have time for in life is loving

Im very happy to hear he has agreed to counselling. Make sure you do what makes you happy and maybe hold off on wedding planning too much until you are both in a happy loving environment and these issues have been dealt with. If you choose to leave then there are plenty of women on here who can give advice. You certainly deserve too feel loved and beautiful by the person you are with.

Skmason, i think that's great that he's agreed to go to counseling. an FYI although i've never truly done marital/couples counseling, thre's a good chance you 2 might be finding out more things you don't like about each other, but the ultimate goal is to confide and figure out which is petty(abusive relationships are NOT petty!), and what is worth working on. you'd be surprised when something that sems huge is easily worked out, and how often a tiny thing gets flipped around and about, and turns into a make-or-break thing, and it breaks the relationship. i'm really hoping everything works out for you 2! like laura i've worked in a club before, and you'd be surprised just how many men, really want to be at home w/wives rather than out with their "boys" lol. i've heard some men, walk in, sit down, start flipping his wedding ring, or fidgeting, and they walk right back out! good luck! you've got some time to work these things out, and i hope the result is best for both of you & each of u

Laura, no need to feel sorry for me...I think that's what you were trying to articulate in your last sentence. You worked in a strip club for Gods sake! You've got a much better perspective then me. If you didn't, you probably wouldn't be responding to everyone's comments on the matter. It's nice to hear that guys pay the cover to hang out with their friends and drink, not just to check out naked women (what was I thinking). I'm sure they'd be doing the same if saaaay... fully clothed nuns were swinging around on those polls.

WOW, Just the thought of his saying "he dont know why he is marrying a STUPID Georgia girl would have sent him packing, but when he said that craziness about there are million of girls hotter than you he could have(POSTED OCT 27th) would have probably earned him an ass kicking! If he feels like that, why marry you in the first place? It seems as if you will face more issues after the

wedding.Counseling is a good idea at this point,and Im glad he agreed to it. I really truelly hope all goes well. Keep us posted!

Good to hear that he has agreed to counceling. Have you considered postponing until a later date? Changes will not be made over night.

Sorry I'm a bit late to respond... but went back to check on how you were doing. Glad you were able to respond. And overall IM GLAD YOUR FH DESIDED TO GO TO COUNSELING WITH YOU!! BEST WISHES!! We're here for ideas and help on your wedding planning. TAKE CARE!

Nice to see people are biting their own lips again.....i think until skmason comes back and says something on the thread, maybe we should leave the thread sit for now...because as always, there is someone here to run her mouth...and no i'm not talking about any regulars, i'm sure it's easily read what i'm referring to...

Hey everyone! Over a decade since this original post- yikes! Comments are starting back up so my email is reminding me. In case anyone wonders how everything panned out.... it didn’t lol I left him, moved back to my hometown and met my now husband a short while later. Been married for 5 years to the most amazing man! And you know... we had zero arguments about bachelor/bachelorette parties 😂 moral of the story—- if planning the happiest day of your life consistently leads to miserable arguments, run! Thank you to everyone who chimed in back in the day. Things got worse before they got better, but your kind words gave me strength. Thank you!!

I feel the same way, and honestly I do not get the point of it. I can not find anyone who can help understand the purpose it. I need help with issue as well.