The bachelorette party from hell....advice?!

I agree with Hannah. What you're going through is more important than a bachelorette party! I'm sorry for your loss

First of all, I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandmother. I lost mine last year right before my 'best friends' wedding & it was heartbreaking. I hope your family are getting on ok.

Second of all, weddings bring out the worst in people...people (brides!) become entitled and rude. You always need to put yourself first. Your career and family are more important than one day (not even a whole day) for your friend.

Perhaps an honest chat about how you were left feeling would help, then you could decide what to do. If she can't see your point and/or doesn't understand then that's an easy decision to make.

I haven't told my friend the way I was left to feel during her wedding celebrations last year, I still hold a huge grudge & we barely talk! In hindsight, I should've spoken to her and cleared the air...which is why I'm giving you this advice. Don't do what I did & bottle it all up.

I hope you get the exam results you are hoping for!

I'm so sorry for your loss. Also, congratulations on getting through the exam in one piece. I wish you the best on your results!

If I were you, I'd ask to sit down and talk to her in person. Social media really has a way of escalating things, and depending on how you missing the party was framed (mixed with bride's own whirlwind), the drama probably turned into a bonfire. This could simply be a matter of clearing the air. I can understand why she's hurt, but you are mourning and going through the most stressful time in your life. Hopefully she'll be able to see through the fog and your friendship is tighter for it. If she's unable to do so, I would back out of the bridal party - maybe even the wedding. But still send a gift and congratulations.

*nods* I agree with you completely. Take care of yourself right now. I know you have a lot on your plate.

First off, sorry for your loss! Secondly, congrats on getting through the bar exam. One of my best friends just took the California bar last week also. He is already licensed in FL so I've seen him stressed multiple times for the bar!

Now... being a bride who just had her bachelorette party this past weekend also, this is tricky. Obviously, your grandmother being sick and passing away is a completely legit reason for you not to go on the trip. However, I can see how she would get a little upset seeing you at a concert that same night. If one of my family members died, I would not be going to a concert. That, however, does not give her, or the other BM's a reason to be rude or mean to you! I would try to have a sit down conversation with her about it. She was probably caught up in the weekend and maybe had some bad influences around her. Try to work through this before ending your 10 year friendship. Her feelings were hurt and you've been stressed to the max. I really think (& hope) you guys can work through this.

First off, I'm truly sorry about your Grandma.

This is the bad thing about social media... it can make innocent things look really bad. The fact that you posted a picture of the concert makes it seem like it was always your intention to skip the bachelorette for the concert. It's really hurtful to people when their friends cancel on plans that were important them to do something else and you made it appear like that's what you did. So in that case it does make sense that the bride feels hurt because it no longer seems that you skipped her bachelorette because of your Grandma or because of the Bar exam. If you drop out of the wedding, it will likely end the friendship. So just make sure you sit down and think about the good things about this friendship and whether or not those things still exist or are past memories and decide if the bad outweighs the good. You guys might just be too different now, and that's okay. But if you truly still feel like this is a good friendship, I recommend trying to talk it out.

Bride sounds awful, I'm so sorry. If it were me, I would probably drop out. The petty posts are so immature. I hope you crushed the Bar exam!

My best friend got married during my last month of grad school so I was finishing up my classes, studying for my gradation exam, studying for my license exam, and finishing up my clinical internship. The day of her wedding, she told me that if I needed to leave early so that I would be well-rested the next day to study, she would totally understand. I stayed until the end, but it was comforting to know that she was supportive of me. She also told me that she understood if I needed to skip the rehearsal dinner and bridal shower to study, and I went to both events but it was comforting to know that she supported me. That is how a friend should act.