The coordinator quit & canceled the wedding

Did you have a contract with this person?

How could they cancel your wedding? Your vendors should only be responsive to you and your FH in a situation like cancellation.

View Quoted Comment I had a verbal contract but not a written one. The pastor was who I was going to marry. The event was at our church. Since he has not communicated with me since before Christmas, he must have given her the okay to cancel the wedding. Right now, I am so hurt and broken-hearted that I have to get over it; however, I will take her to court and get my money or my decorations.

Ok so this is the problem with using friendless. Is there any way you can hire some else for money?

View Quoted Comment No. I had a verbal contract of $450 and she would keep the decorations after I used them. But she quit because she wanted more money for her staff which were other church members with no coordinating experiences. Now, she has broken that contract and failed to give me my decorations back although my daughter has contacted her several times.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I could hire someone for money, but the groom is collaborating with the so-called coordinator from our church who he favors over me.

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Unfortunately, you may not be able to get your money or your decorations back, because you didn't have anything in writing. This is definitely why friendors are discouraged. I'm sorry to hear that your FH seems to be collaborating in the cancellation without communicating with you, but do you really want to marry someone who ghosts an *engagement*?

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! No, I should be thankful, but I am hurt, embarrassed, deeply disappointed. Thank you for responding to me. I am very grateful for you taking even a second to read about my concerns. May God bless you for it.

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I have been married before, but I never had a wedding. I do not know if I will ever marry again not getting friends to help me will be the first thing I write into my planning.

Can I take her to small claims court? She has the ring boys tuxedo and the flower girl’s dress and petticoat?

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You *can* - I just don't know how strong your case would be. On the other hand, just the threat may get her to give you your stuff. I would send a letter certified mail (so you know she got it) saying you want your belongings, or to be reimbursed the cost of them, by X date, otherwise you will file with small claims. Good luck. Don't give up on love

View Quoted Comment Becky, thank you so much! I will take your advice.
God Bless You,

View Quoted Comment Where can I leave negative reviews that she cannot have taken down?

View Quoted Comment Leave a review on Google for sure.

View Quoted Comment How do I do it?

View Quoted Comment Search for her company on Google, click on it (but don't go to the company's website), then click on Reviews. You should be able to leave a review from that page.

View Quoted Comment The person is not a company. She calls herself a coordinator from her church. She is in control of decorating the church for special events and wanted to coordinate my wedding. She picked out over $1,200.00 worth of decorations, so she said, but is trying to keep them to start her coordinating business.

She is on Facebook!

Shirley, I am very sorry to hear what has happened to you, but why are you mot communicating with your ex-finace? He is a pastor of this church and has a LOT to lose if this becomes public knowledge. Couldn’t the church completely fold and then he would be without a job along with this other person? I would approach this from an entirely different angle. It sounds like you had nothing in writing and your ex-fiance is siding with the woman who supposedly canceled the wedding. Your ex fiance has a LOT more to lose than does this other woman. His reputation as a Godly man is in serious jeopardy if the church members/community members hear about this. I think you are blaming the wrong person

View Quoted Comment Peyton,
You are right! And I was so deeply hurt that I posted what happened on my Facebook page because my ex-fiancé ghost me. To this day, he has not called and did not answer my call. You are right, I Blamed the wrong person. It was the both of them. I can’t believe that this happened. What other approach would you have done?
Thank you for taking the time to answer the discussion post.

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Shirley,

I feel terrible for you. Since I am removed from the situation, it is much easier to think rationally and logically and legally. This wedding “coordinator” doesn’t seem to be on the hook for anything in a legal sense. Verbal agreements can sometimes stand up in court, but it is difficult. If you have an engagement ring, that should be returned. You may be able to sue your ex fiancé for money you lost since he broke off the engagement. Again, I don’t know many of your financial details and I am not a lawyer. As a pastor, your ex has a lot to lose from a reputation viewpoint. I would gather all my financial documents and just give myself a few days to think about it. Your personal healing is way more important than money. Life’s lessons are tough. Hang in there