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Michelle
Rockstar December 2022

The couple doesn't get to see all guests?

Michelle, on January 12, 2021 at 3:00 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 19
I saw a comment in another post along these lines and it made me curious. Does this actually happen that the couple doesn't get to see the guests at the wedding? They have many opportunities to do so. In my personal experience both at large and small weddings, the guests got to interact with the couple pretty often. Is that not the case for most? Does the couple hide away somewhere and not talk to anyone past the dismissal of the ceremony? Why invite guests then when it sounds like eloping with no afterparty is better?

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Latest activity by Shadia, on September 14, 2021 at 3:43 AM
  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I think it's that the couple has limited interactions with some guests. I know we did a receiving line immediately following the ceremony and we walked around to each table to say hello. I will say I had more interaction with some people, but that's because I spent a lot of the evening dancing so the people that choose to dance I spent more time interacting with than those that choose just to mingle at their seats.

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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    I think it depends on the guest list If you are inviting 200 plus I dont see how you can adequately spend time with each and every guest but maybe I am wrong

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I agree with CountryBride, theres no way one can interact at least 5 mins with each guest if there are over 200.


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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    That does make sense. Also, so many receptions are limited time anyway at 4 hours plus all night after parties for select guests instead of just a longer reception for everyone which provides more opportunities to see at least one half of the couple if not both
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    Like CountryBride said, it depends on how many guests you have. There just isn't enough time to see EVERY guest when your guest list is over 200.

    That being said. All of the weddings we have attended have had the bride and groom greet guests at their reception tables once the reception and eating has started. We'll more than likely do this because it ensures that we'll see every guest and be able to speak to them at least once.

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I think every couple who invites guests to their wedding should make a significant effort to at least say hi to every attendee. That can be a receiving line or table visits (my preference). Otherwise why invite people at all? And, yes, I understand that it's difficult to interact with everyone with huge guest lists, but then maybe that's a reason not to have a huge guest list.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    I agree with this. Very few couples actually know and want to spend the day with that many people to begin since alot tend to be guests of parents instead or long lost friends from youth they no longer speak with but are pressured to invite out of obligation to others with no regard for their own day.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I had 250 people at my wedding. i had welcome photos where i greet guests as they come into the reception and they take a photo with me that gets printed for them at the end of the night. however... not everyone came during the allotted time i did this. so of the welcome photos i see, i know there were people i didn't take a photo with. and then i did go to every table during the night to thank them for coming and saying hi and taking a group photo. but that's honestly the most interaction i had with some people which is not much at all.

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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    To me this counts as you making an effort to at least greet each guest. 250 is a lot of people, but you still managed both the welcome photo and table visits. This is sincere, I promise: Good job!

    No option is perfect (some guests may skip receiving lines; a guest or two could be at the buffet or in the restroom during table visits) but the couple making the effort is what's important.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We interacted with all of our guests! After we finished eating, we made rounds to every table to speak with guests. We were also approachable all night long at our reception. I talked to everyone and danced with several, too. Couples that don’t interact with their guests are choosing to do that. It is very easy to make the effort to speak to every person that attends your wedding.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    I completely agree with this. While many I have attended did not have full meals, but most did have dancing, the couples were able to spend quite a bit of time with guests. Even with larger guest counts.


    The only time I have seen the bride actively avoid anyone was an aunt when I was in high school. She was not approachable and even got mad when the groom tried to talk to anyone. But that was an all around bizarre event no one wanted to be at.
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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
    Eri ·
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    We had 35 guests and still didn't get to really talk to everyone (though this was somewhat COVID-influenced, as I was honestly afraid to mingle too much).

    Time really does fly by, and you are pulled in a lot of directions -- by your photographer, venue coordinator, family, bridal party, certain guests more than others, etc.

    There were some guests that I talked to, but DH didn't, and vice versa. For those that we didn't get to spend as much time with, I apologized in our thank-you notes and told them we couldn't wait to see them again as soon as things are safe.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    That is one of the reasons we are planning a longer than standard reception
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  • S
    Dedicated March 2022
    Slrhoshi ·
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    I know I will try to interact with all of mine but my count is below 75 guests. Larger weddings its just too hard. This is how many couples don't get to eat cause they are so worried about talking and not coming off as rude. As a guest I understand everyone at the wedding knows one or both of the couple and im.not going to pout if all I get is a hi so glad you made it. I mean come on as a couple you invited them and gave them dinner and typically free alcohol. No one should be pouting.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    We had a relatively small wedding, and I know we interacted with each *table*, but I can't guarantee that everyone from the table was there.

    There's a LOT going on as the wedding couple. Pictures, signing the license, dinner, first dance, cake-cutting, and trying to get like 3 minutes alone. Add in wanting to party, and it can be a little overwhelming.

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    We didn’t spend a ton of time with most people, but we made a huge effort to to go each table and make sure we at least said hello and thank you to each guest.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    That is the main thing. Make the effort..whether it is after the ceremony or during the reception.

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  • Katekk0101
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Katekk0101 ·
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    I think it's that the couple has limited interactions with some guests.

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  • Shadia
    Savvy October 2033
    Shadia ·
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    Most of the time when people say they didn't get to see all of their guest is because some of the guest leave the wedding before the Bride and Groom are able to greet them.
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