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I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope everything works out for you but to me 102 lbs at 5'2 is fine. That is considered a healthy normal BMI. So to hell with them. My niece is 18 and looks 10/12 years old. And I'm sure you will find a dress in time. Have something made or buy something from etsy. Here are some of may favorite stores. Good luck!

https://www.etsy.com/shop/GuCiDesigns?ref=simple-shop-header-name&listing_id=704270188

https://www.etsy.com/shop/GraceGown?ref=l2-shopheader-name

https://www.etsy.com/listing/643982013/mother-of-the-bride-dresssliver-navy

I’m 5’5 and 105 lbs and I found a dress no problem, I can’t see how they’d have an issue finding you a dress that would fit. You’ll probably have to hem it and maybe take it in at the sideways a little bit but I can’t see how it’d be impossible like they're claiming.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! That was exactly what I asked some boutiques. Saying that I could even try a size small and fix it myself but they just looked at me with this side eye, doubt it face 😔

That's ridiculous that they're acting like you're not going to be able to find a dress small enough. My friend is teeny tiny, maybe 5"2' and 100 lbs soaking wet, and she found her dress pretty easily. I think she ended up in a double 0. It's also odd to me that they're talking about extra small/small/etc, when most things I've seen about wedding dresses is that they're sized by numbers. Idk, I could be wrong of course.
Either way, I don't think you should have too much trouble finding a dress your size.

View Quoted Comment I know!! Literally today an employee of a boutique I was with my mom, was talking to me about extra small and small sizes and that they'd be through catalog since they don't work with dresses "so small". I couldn't help but cry because I honestly don't know what's so hard.

View Quoted Comment That's so sweet! Thank you so so much for those kind words. Everything I've heard even from my own family is how unhealthy and skinny I look and will look at my wedding. How "my bones are sticking out and I need something with extra windy flow so my figure isn't too noticeable"... I mean... I just haven't been myself with everyone backlashing on my weight so these words were definitely a thumbs up for me. Again, I appreciate it. Will look through etsy 😄

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That's so crazy; every place I've been looking for a dress they were all in number sizes, not small/medium/large. I'm so sorry you're having all this trouble. You are definitely not an unhealthy size at all. Finding your wedding dress should be a fun and exciting experience, not one to bring you to upset tears.

I’m 29, 4’11” and 95 pounds and did not experience any of this dress shopping. I’m so sorry. People are just so rude. If it makes you feel any better, here are some of my stories. I am a teacher and I people come up to me and say I thought you were one of the students. Or they’ll say you’re too young to drink, you’re too young to read Cosmopolitan, you’re too young to work here (the mall), you’re too short to drive, you should get an extra helping of pizza because your t-shirt looks a little big (FYI my doctor loves my BMI), you’ll never have children because your hips aren’t wide enough, giving me a children’s menu at 18. When my fiancé and I signed the lease at our new apartment last year they thought I was his daughter (we’re only 6 years apart). I had to go home and scream and cry for a little bit. The worst thing anyone ever said to me was when you get married people will think your husband’s a pedophile because youre so tiny. And they think they’re giving you a compliment because they’re just saying how small you are. But it’s so rude and hurtful. I bought my dress from David’s bridal and ordered it in a size 2. I had to have a lot of hemming done, but it fit well otherwise. They can also take it in if it’s still roomy. Don’t let people being idiots discourage you from finding your perfect dress. And yes you are the bride because your fiancé loves you exactly as you are!!

Those people who made comments about your weight were really rude! Your dress is out there, I promise! I loved a PP's idea of custom ordering from Etsy. Whatever route you go, remember that you are beautiful in your own magical way!

Sorry to here that. Be encouraged that you will fine your dream dress. You you are a wonderful, beautiful and healthy young woman who will find what you are looking for your special day.

View Quoted Comment I almost got confused and was asking myself if I was using the right term for the sizes, which were numbers, but turns out I was correct all along. Thank you for those words, I appreciate them 💙

View Quoted Comment I. Am. Speechless. on that last comment right there. Why do people think they are actually complimenting?! I would've done the exact same thing about crying and screaming for a while. And that comment is just HORRIBLE. How can someone even say something "trying to be funny" about THAT theme? I feel you so much! Every experience you've written down is exactly my life. My future husband and I have a 9 year gap; me being 23 and I've always had this kind of baby face that actually doesn't help me or him at all. Every time we go to the mall, or grocery shopping, or to a club or even to buy a beer or just out I NEED to have my ID at hand literally every second because I get asked for everything. Besides I get questioned if I'm telling the truth 🤦🏻‍♀️ When people see my ring, they quickly ask if I'm getting married this young because I'm pregnant or my parents threw me out of my house or if he just has a lot of money. Why does a woman/person need those remarks or those purposes or a purpose in general to do what they're doing or want to do? A main reason? Why can't it be just
"She wanted to get married at 23."
"She wanted to have a baby at 40."
"She wanted to leave her house at 16."
Sometimes it hurts me how people expect a reason for the decisions we're making or establish a stereotype of how things should be done. Besides all that, I do believe good people are more in the world. Thank you so so so much for those beautiful words ❤ they really helped me. Wishing you all the happiness you can achieve!

View Quoted Comment I've been searching on etsy and there are beauties for exactly my simple themed wedding! It was a brilliant idea! Sometimes I think I'm just too emotional and pay too much attention to what other people have to say about me, but I can overcome this. Thank you lovely 💗 We are all beautiful in our own magical ways, all of us! We just have to keep loving where there's hate. Best wishes to you, and thank you again for such kind words!

View Quoted Comment THANK YOU SO MUCH! 😭❤ It's not constant I hear (read haha) those words directed towards me. There's something about hearing/reading it from people who don't know me that well that brings comfort and more chance of believing in myself than people who already know me and just point out every flaw instead of how hard I try every day. This definitely meant a lot Alisha. Best wishes and love to you; and about those compliments that turned my day the right way, THANK YOU AND RIGHT BACK AT YOU ❤❤❤ Big hugs!

You are welcome. And a lot of love to you too.