The Garter & Bouquet Toss: Into It or Over It?

View Quoted Comment I love the idea of having the garter on a football to toss! So fun!

I was thinking of a bouquet toss, only because it’s traditional, but now I’m not sure. 😐 It would definitely save us money, since then I wouldn’t have to make a toss bouquet (I want to save mine). And my FH doesn’t want to do the garter toss. Is anyone going to wear a garter if they’re not doing the toss?

Call me old but honestly I see no harm in either tradition. No one ever said that the person going for the garter is to go up to your lady parts, or make anyone uncomfortable. This activity can be done tastefully without embarrassing anyone. I have seen it done so I know it can be. Another thing, no one ever said that the garter that is thrown had to actually be the one on the bride. That is why most garters are sold in sets now, giving the bride one to keep and one to throw. As for the bouquet toss, again no one said it should be an all out slug fest to catch it. Also no one should be made to participate if they do not wish to. I have been to many weddings from people 18 to people in their 50's. Each wedding had these traditions and honestly only one, a person who was in their mid 20's, had a garter removal that made everyone feel uncomfortable. At this same wedding a fist fight almost broke out over the bouquet. Again I think it is the actual people involved trying to catch the so called items more so than the bride and groom.

View Quoted Comment Why would the garter be up by ur lady spot? Thats not where it goes. Its goes as high as a pair of shorts.

Over it. Doing an anniversary dance instead.

I liked it at the first wedding I went to, when my FH and I were just starting to date, and then later it made me really depressed and I always sat it out (because I thought my FH was about to break up with me - when he was actually just taking his sweet time and ignoring my biological clock). Now that I'm engaged, I still think it's a bit weird and none of my single gal friends are that interested in marriage anyway, so I'm not doing it. Garter toss is gross.

I remember being dragged into the bouquet toss when I was 7. I was serving as a flower girl. It was humiliating then, and I still remember the dj making a big stink that I didn't want to do it. Have never participated in them since. Won't be doing that at my wedding.

I don’t like to be put on the spot, but I think it’s a cute tradition especially if a little girl gets the 🌺

I want to do the bouquet toss for sure! But the garter toss is a big no go for me.

View Quoted Comment I'm wearing a garter but not tossing it. I couldn't think of anything else to do as my something blue, so I got a blue garter but no intentions on tossing it.

Over it and won’t be doing either at our wedding.

Over it. Have never liked the garter thing. Plus its looking like there will be little to no single people at my wedding.

I love them and it’s traditional. We’re doing both it’s a wedding staple and it’s funny.

View Quoted Comment So.... unless my garter will be at my knee... the area of the shorts is still not practical. If my garter is at my thigh... the top of his head WILL be at my lady spot while his teeth are at my garter. The view for onlookers could be awkward. If you don't believe me... reenact it with your mate. Initially... when his head go under that dress... it looks like that to me.... i'll wear one... but it's not coming off.

View Quoted Comment Ok we have to totally different ideas of what the Husband does. Ok ur talking about his whole head being under ur dress. Well no that's crazy i have never seen that. Im simply talking of his hands only going under there and slipping the garter off.

View Quoted Comment This is what I'm talking about... nothing with hands... nooooo way..

We have friends who put a new twist on this and it was a big hit! They invited all females, single or not, and tossed the bouquet with a $50 bill attached. Same went for the men. The actual garter was not thrown, but a cheaper, unworn garter and tied to it a $50 bill. Because it allowed everyone to participate and be competitive it was a big hit and something we still talk about!

If you're young they're totally fun! We still have plenty of single friends and friends in relationships so it's very interactive. I've had several girls say "toss the bouquet to me!" and I think the garter toss is fun. It's a fun chance to play a song and be the center, then through it out to your dudes. Some women aren't as open, I understand that. We totally are though!

Into it. But is it okay for me to ask for them back after the wedding? 😂 I kind of want to keep them for our memory box. If not there may be a cheaper alternative bouquet/garter for throwing...

Into/Over it. FH and i are fairly traditional so maybe we will, but neither of us like participating in the bouquet toss/ garter catch