The hardest decision...

Hello,
Forewarning this could get long. My fiancé and I have been struggling with trying to figure out our marriage. A small backstory, we have always struggled with my family's approval of our relationship because we are an interracial couple. My immediate family and I started falling apart over the years and recently, in June, I decided to move out abruptly. (Yes, I am at a normal age to move out, but it is not normal in my very traditional family). My parents cut me off financially and stopped talking to me, as I expected. In recent months we have begun to speak again, but it has been a huge struggle for me to feel any form of normal around them or my sisters. I have one sister who supports me, her husband and children. My fiancé has very strong feelings of dislike towards my family, all with good reason. He has been amazing in telling me that he does not personally want my family at our wedding, but that he understands that in the long run it may be best as he does not want us to have regrets if the relationship is going to form again. I am struggling right now to decide; do we have a "white wedding" and invite our families, or do we elope and tell them later on? The hardest part is that I do not want to ruin the wedding day for my fiancé by them making him feel inferior, even though they would not say it out loud, they have a way about them that only comes from being around them for so long. My family does not even know that we are engaged and our date is sent for January 21. We have a venue we are touring, but we have not yet booked it. Sorry for the long story, but I appreciate all of your advice, in advance 💛