The last straw was her not coming to the wedding. Am i being petty?

There might be a few areas she has not been so faithful a friend. It may be more for what you gave. That happens. But you were able to vent a bit out of earshot. So that should be enough. Sorry you found out the expensive way.

Yikes, I would be really hurt about the bachelorette thing. I don't have much advice - I just wanted to say that's pretty rough to cancel on someone's bachelorette and then wedding...both at the last minute and both without offering to compensate for the financial losses sustained. If I were you, I would probably call her to try to get to the bottom of why she's cancelled twice...and if that doesn't go well, I'd probably stop proactively investing in the friendship. I'm sorry this happened to you!

You’re not being petty, at all. I don’t think I would continue that “friendship”.

I would be done, too. From personal experience, when you start noticing these red flags and still giving the other person a pass for a while, the whole relationship gets frustrating and just not fun. Which is not at all joe friendship is supposed to feel. If this type of stuff didn’t come up until you were engaged, then maybe give her a phone call and just calmly explain that this was hurtful, both emotionally and financially, and then make a decision based on her response. But if that’s not likely to go well or this has been going on for a long time, I would let the friendship go. I don’t think you’re being petty at all.

I don’t think anyone else’s opinion should matter here; even including that of your fiancé. If you don’t feel a friendship is healthy or worth the effort, then it’s completely your right to end that friendship. Don’t feel as though you need to justify your feelings to others.

Have you spoken to your friend about her non-attendance? If she was having IVF, there may have been an urgent personal reason that they weren't able to attend, and she's using work as the reason (or something like this). If your wedding isn't until November, perhaps the caterer could be flexible with the numbers, I would ask.

View Quoted Comment The center for IV treatment is closed on Saturday so I know that’s not it. My wedding is next weekend and since she cancelled 10 days before the event, I can’t get my money back. I also just saw she was tagged in a picture about her other friends wedding that happens to be the Sunday after my wedding so I’m almost certain she was lying to me AGAIN. I just quietly removed her from social media. You seem like a sweet person, thank you for your response and giving her the benefit of the doubt. I’m just over her now.

Hello:

I kind of had a similar issue with someone I thought was a really good friend. Her and I was friends since 10th grade year in high school. We always hung out, talked, texted, facetimed and more. She was literally like one of my bestfriends. Until she had a baby and things changed. She would always invite me to things that had something to do with her daughter but when I wanted to hang out or invite her to things she wouldn't show even if she said she was. I invited her to many things: my house warming, birthday dinner, graduation party (college), and other small things and she would always say that she's coming but NEVER did. After I invited her to my engagement party and she promised she would come, and didn't, that was the end of our friendship. She ended up texting me the next day with a lame excuse in why she couldn't make it. After I was done reading her message I told her, in lamest terms, "You are not a good friend. Matter of fact you are not a friend at all because there are no such things as a bad friend, you're either my friend or not. And your actions has been speaking way louder then your words for the past 2-3 years. I understand you may be going through things because we all do, but the fact that you always stand me up, is not cool. You didn't even show me enough respect to tell me that you weren't coming to my engagement party the day of. I had to wait to hear from you at the end of the next day. If what you are saying is true, I'm sorry that it happened but to me it seems like a bunch of lies. You always say you're coming to things but NEVER do. I don't know if your jealous or maybe nervous about something but I thought we were close enough to have that type of conversation with each other. You have a child and I always show up for you guys, even though I don't have a kid because that's what friends do." I said some more stuff but I can't really remember it all. After she read my message, she apologized and asked how she can make up for it. I simply told her, her being there is all I wanted. After that, I told myself I would never invite her to anything again. She tried reaching out to me after but it felt fake and we haven't talked since.

It sucks but its very true when people say, "people like to see you doing good but not better then them." And a lot of people true colors come out when you are progressing in a way that they are not. I hope you can figure things out

I would be very hurt. I would just move on and try to forgive and forget…but I wouldn’t allow her back in my friend group. She has been disrespectful and unkind. I think you will be happier without her. Have an amazing wedding!

I agree with Peyton. The first commandment of a genuine friendship is trust. She broke that on several occasions even after you gave her the benefit of the doubt. She could have come clean with you at any time. She didn't. Forget her and move on. I'm sorry it cost you money to find out that this girl is no kind of friend. You can forgive and forget, but as Peyton said, don't allow her back. You've put yourself out for her so many times and she's disappointed you regularly. And she's ungrateful, and I consider that a major offense in anyone! I've cut relatives (my late brother's wife and daughter, and several mean cousins) loose for less. Same with my dearest and best friend. We love each other like sisters (and she's my MOH) but most importantly, we trust each other and we would never hurt or disappoint each other, ever! ( I don't have a sister and hers is a jealous disappointment who hasn't spoken to her in the 17 years since their Mom passed.) Time to move on. Don't let it ruin your wedding. She clearly isn't worth your time and effort. Have a wonderful time, good luck and God bless!