"the lovely couple is registered at .... " where do you enclose those cards?

YES! Shower/ party invites, NOT the wedding invite.

*grabs popcorn and waits*

On your wedding website! And make sure the website is on the STD!

I think on the invite. since it's just the shower it's okay but what do i know??? I'm a naive bride, that's why i ask a million questions on here, lol.

Ok, so if you dont have a shower - then what?

Post it on the website, or word of mouth, Cari.

It can go into shower invitations, only because the shower is hosted by someone other than you. If you're not having a shower, then it does not go into an invitation, but can be put on your wedding Web site.

I didn't send an STD....FH still has not collected all the addresses on his side. By the time that's done....it will be time to send the invites. I will jus do invites early...and save money by cutting the STD.

Not all my family are cyberworld saavy....they won't all go to the website.

Macy's sent me the cutest lil inserts...so I figure they have to go somewhere....the guru's on etiquette said you should not include it ANYWHERE on your wedding invite...so I'm guessing the shower invite

Welp... we have 2 diff. registries..kohls and bed & bath. So i printed out the registry info (and how to access it online for those who aren't internet savvy) and we did enclose them with the invitations. However, my invites were post card invites, and maybe its because it wasn't the type of card you OPEN, lots of them didn't see the paper w/the registry info on it. So if you do enclose it in the invitation for your shower and you have a post card (single piece of mail) style invite, my recommendation would be to attach the paper with registry info to the invite with a fun sticker (heart or something) or make the paper the same size as the invite so when they pull it out, they'll see it. Mine wasn't SMALL ( a little larger than a biz card) but small enough that it got lost somehow.

Not on the invites, just on the website or have your MOH or family members let people know IF they ask

Yea I'm such a clueless bride

Since it's on the shower invite that is cool, mine was on my shower invite at the bottom... but what ever you do DO NOT put it on or in the invitation (like analy said) It's kind of tacky, like saying "come to my wedding, oh, and bring a gift" haha... but on your website or word of mouth work well too...

Why would Macy's send these cute little things tho if they shouldn't be enclosed anywhere? ***sad face**** I will not do my own shower..for some reason I don't even like the sound of me throwing a party so I can get gifts...for myself. IF and only IF my girls decide to do one.... these cute lil cards must go! haha

Analy you and the popcorn!

Ncbride yes Macy's does send them and believe it or not most guests actually look for them but they aren't supposed to go in the wedding invite. Make sure family and the bridal party know where you are registered and put it on the wedding web site

Shower invites...

It's really up to you and your cultural style. Some people think it's tacky but in other families, it's expected and it's not like "oh em gee! they're inviting us and DEMANDING a gift!"

The happy medium would be to tell everyone your wedding website and have the information on there... Send an e-mail or something that has the website address. I posted mine to my FB wall, and I'll put the website on our STDs.

So if your family wouldn't frown upon the registry thing in the invite envelope, then I would just include it. It's up to you dah'ling.

Ncbride ~ Macy's is in the business of selling stuff, plain and simple. They are not in the etiquitte business. If providing you with cute little cards that has all the information that people need to come to THEIR stores and BUY stuff from THEM, they are going to print them off and give them to you. Why does Macy's concern themselves with whether or not you are observing etiquette? Their name is getting out there, and hopefully customers will be soon be coming through the door to make purchases.

You know your family and friends best. If you think they will be offended by sticking in your invites, don't. If they are laid back you can get away with listing the info.. The truth is, when you go to a wedding you are expected to bring a gift. I've never gone to a wedding without one, and I'm sure everyone would agree that it's tacky if you just show up with nothing. In my opinion, it's not a big deal to put a registry card as an insert just like you already have the RSVP and directions. Everything is in one place and it's easy for your guests to keep everything straight. I wouldn't rely on word of mouth. Just having a registry to begin with shows you expect gifts. With that said, I would not make it something that just falls out of your invite and I would make sure it is the last thing they see. I don't believe this comes across as greedy. You know there will be gifts and so do they. You are making life easier for everyone.

Ncbride, the cute little cards can go to your family. That way, if someone asks your mother, for example, what you would like, she can offer them a card. However, absent a request, they don't go in anything other than a shower invitation.

I went to a grad party for my cousin on the weekend where I handed out a lot of invites. I had a lot of relatives just approach me and ask where we are registered and what we wanted. For the first few, I told them there is a wedding website on the rsvp, and it should be posted on there. Towards the end, if they said "what do you want, cash, gifts, gift certificates..?" I'd smile and coyly say "well..cash is good..and we registered at a couple places too, they're on the website on the rsvp" A lot of people appreciated that I found, but I didn't announce it in front of everyone, it was just in private, side conversations.

I put my registry info on the FAQ on our wedding website.