"The Moment We Got Married, My Wife Stopped Touching Me"

I think that if your needs (emotional, physical, or otherwise) aren’t being met and the person has no desire to resolve those issues, you have grounds for divorce. Of course I don’t think that one spouse “owes” it to the other spouse to have sex with them, but if you want to have a successful marriage, you should want to look into the reasoning behind your lack of sex drive. I think it’s important to exhaust all other resources first, but divorce is definitely a better solution than cheating or other extreme measures that people take to fulfill their sexual desires.

I agree with Caytlyn. A conversation about the issue should be had in hopes of fixing the problem, but at the end of the day, if the marriage isn’t fulfilling and there’s no fixing it, that’s reason for divorce to me.

People get divorced for all different reasons so yes. I feel badly for the woman because she clearly has problems and either refuses to admit it or refuses to get the proper help. Usually such a dramatic change would suggest something happened. Who knows.

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My husband and I discussed this topic and it was difficult to say. Biblically the two causes for divorce are infidelity and abuse. But at the same time being in a sexless marriage could be miserable...

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The husband in this situation said that he tried over and over for years until he noticed that the wife seemed to be disgusted by him so he stopped trying.

It makes me wonder if this situation is an example of "for better or for worse."

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I wondered if she just gave him what he wanted (sex) to get what she wanted (marriage) because he said when they were dating they would have sex whenever he wanted but as soon as they got married that stopped. I'm speculating of course, but I agree that something could be going on with the wife that should be addressed with a professional.

View Quoted Comment Interesting. I didn't think of that. I was thinking more the opposite. That she got married and realized she didn't want to be married to him but "made her bed and now had to lay in it". Good point!

This is tough. I would try to reach the underlying cause why my husband wasn't sexually interested before considering divorce. Therapy for sure!

View Quoted Comment Wow! The possibilities are really endless. I wonder if they decided to stay in the marriage and if so how they fixed this problem.

View Quoted Comment I agree, I heard sex therapy is an actual thing so I'd try that.

I have very unpopular opinions about divorce. I don't believe in divorce. There are very few exceptions that would force me to leave and they are very big problems; such as, child p***. Never would I divorce someone because our sex life wasn't exactly the same.. that seems insane to me. There are so many ways to resolve this issue. It's hard to know what is truly going on in the wife's life after reading the article too. Some of what I read made me question whether or not this woman was entering menopause.. some made me wonder if she has depression..

Marriage in my family is one and done. My dad's goal would be getting my mom to therapy and eventually on medication if it was necessary and she was willing to try. My parents actually went through something like this and my mom did eventually go to therapy and takes anti-depressants now. They are happy but my mom was in a dark place so of course it affected their marriage.

Well this is one of those situations that's sticky. I mean I'm one to believe divorce doesn't need to be for reasons like lying and cheating. Sometimes you're just unhappy and it no longer works for you so divorce allows you to find your happiness. But then this situation seems like there's many more reasons for divorce and the intimacy is just one of them.

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I would also only divorce my husband for something extreme.

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I completely understand this perspective. Would you attempt therapy or any other strategies before divorce?