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Andrea
Savvy October 2019

The night before

Andrea, on May 30, 2019 at 9:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 28
Are you guys spending the night before your wedding with your fiancé or are you sleeping in separate rooms?


We’re staying in our hotel the night before but I can’t decide if we’ll be spending that night together or if I should have a slumber party with my bridesmaids.

We’re doing a first look and we’re not very traditional, but I’m not sure if I should be traditional with this.

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Latest activity by Jess, on May 31, 2019 at 1:53 PM
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    Devoted July 2021
    Emily ·
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    I’ll be spending the night with my fiancé. We’re not doing a first look but I feel we’re non traditional in many other ways and don’t want to waste money on two hotel rooms. The wedding day we’ll be up relatively early to get ready and won’t see each other all day so I figure that’s good enough.
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  • Amber
    Devoted July 2019
    Amber ·
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    We’re spending the night apart.... because he doesn’t want to deal with me the morning of 🤷🏻‍♀️😂
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  • Marieke
    Expert June 2019
    Marieke ·
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    We’re getting married locally so I will be staying with my mom and he will be staying at home with our dog. He’ll drop the dog off at the sitter’s the day of, and I’ll have a home-cooked breakfast with my mom (and family staying there too). His parent’s house will be full of family members so he couldn’t stay there if he wanted to.

    He’s going to get ready in our wedding night hotel suite with his guys and I’ll get ready in the bridal suite of our venue with my girls.
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    Dedicated November 2019
    Fia ·
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    Separately. We will have separate suites. I will be staying with my MoH the night before so we can catch up and then in the morning of our wedding the rest of my Bridal Party and Beauty Team will come to our suite so we can primp and get ready. FH is adamant we not see each other. Not till I'm walking down the isle.
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  • Vanessa
    Expert September 2019
    Vanessa ·
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    We live together now but I will be staying at our home and he will stay at his moms the night before. My mom will have my family from out of town staying with her so there is limited space. Some family members will stay at my house as well. That morning I will be going to my moms with my bridesmaids to get our hair/make up done. When I leave THEN my fiancé will have permission to come home when I’m not there. We are trying to stay very traditional but we will be doing a first look as well about 2 hours before the ceremony to get our pictures out of the way. We wanted to have time to have 15 minutes alone time during cock tail hour, before the reception to enjoy each other and hor dourves. ❤️
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  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
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    Together I actually can’t imagine not being with him that night.
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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
    Jessica ·
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    We spent the night apart. I slept with my daughter. Even though I didn't sleep a wink. 😂
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  • Kelci
    Super June 2019
    Kelci ·
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    I’ll be staying with my mom and our kids. All the groomsmen are staying at our house so not much room for all of us. I’m closer to the venue this way so I’m loving it.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    We spent the night together. I’m really glad we did because he was able to help calm me down.
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    We're spending the night together. We got a hotel room for the night before and the night together (check in on wedding day would be smack dab in the middle of fiest look pictures). I thought that 1 of us would go home and the other would stay in the hotel, and FH was like "why? That's silly." We'll be over there for the rehearsal dinner the night before (venue/hotel are only 20 minutes from our apartment). I agreed it was a little silly, so we'll spend the night together, as we have for several years lol.
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  • Margaret
    Dedicated June 2020
    Margaret ·
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    My FH and I are sleeping apart the night before. We own a home together, we obviously aren't traditional, but we feel it would just be really special and add to the excitement.
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  • DuttonSandersWedding
    Expert September 2019
    DuttonSandersWedding ·
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    He wants to spend the night apart and we're not doing a first look. This is the only tradition that he's been a stickler with. I'm not sure who isn't going to be sleeping at home yet but I'm honestly hoping its him Haha. I have a very hard time sleeping in unfamiliar beds, especially the night before a big day. And what's bigger than your wedding day?
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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    We're staying in separate places! We're getting married in FH's hometown so he'll be staying with his parents, and I'm getting an Airbnb for me and my bridesmaids to stay in! My MOH got married last year, and she had a slumber party with her bridemaids the night before the wedding. It was so fun!

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  • Cheryl
    Expert November 2020
    Cheryl ·
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    My FH requested that we spend the night before together. He said he doesn't sleep as well when I'm not there. We live together and basically do everything together, so this makes sense. We are bringing our wedding about 2 hours from my side (75% of guests) because we live a plane ride away from them. We will check in Wed night. Thursday, we'll have a couples massage, we'll take care of primping appointments, have date night, Friday is tying up loose ends, setting up, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, Saturday wedding, Sunday checkout.
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    We are spending the night together.
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    Dedicated September 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    We are also doing a first look but decided we will sleep in separate rooms and the first time we see eachother will be the first look.
    I'll be staying in our room and have my MOH stay with me. My fiance plans to stay in his brothers or groomsmen room.
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    Dedicated July 2019
    Mindy ·
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    We’ll be together the night before, I have a hard time sleeping without him. Also his terrible dad jokes will probably help keep me calm 😂
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  • Heather
    Expert April 2020
    Heather ·
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    We will be staying in separate hotel rooms. I plan on having a sleepover with the bridesmaids and can just get up and go get ready. Not quite sure if we will get ready at the hotel or at the church. I've got to talk to the photographer and videographer to see what would be easier since they would have to go to the hotel, then the church, and then the reception venue. I doubt FH will have his groomsmen stay with him if he gets a hotel room. Or he might stay at the apartment which is about 25 minutes from the venue, but I think I'd rather him stay in the hotel so he's not late to anything. Haha.

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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    We are staying in separate rooms in the hotel.
    I’n staying in the bridal suite the night before- and he is staying in a standard room. I’m leaving much earlier to get to the venue (as that’s where we are getting ready). After I leave, he will pack out his room, put everything in the bridal suite & then check out of the standard room. Him & his groomsmen will then come to the venue to get ready.
    I have told him this 2x (both times he said huh - yeah ok). So now I’m also going to write it down & give it to him & a groomsman that I trust will ensure it’s properly executed.
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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
    Melissa ·
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    We will be staying separate. He will be at home and I will be in the hotel suite where he and his grooms people will be getting ready the day of. My best friend and bridesmaid will also be staying at the hotel that night and I plan on hanging with her and any of my other friends that are in already as a majority of them live out of state.
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