I'm 23, and he's 25. Long story short, we're both out of college (me a college graduate, him a college drop out), and about a year ago, we both made the decision to move out of our parent's house, and into an apartment together. Finally, after a few months of us living together, we both decided that it was the right time to get married. We are the first in our main friend group to move out of our parent's house, and the first in our friend group to get married. While all our friends still live with their parents, and most are still in college.
I noticed that after a year and half of living with my fiancee, that many people in our friend group kinda see us in this whole different light. I'm not saying that our relationship with them has gotten sour, it just feels kinda different. It's almost like they elevated us to "real adults" because they think what we did is beyond them.
A friend had a heart to heart with me after I graduated college, and told me that she found what I did amazing, and beyond what she could do. Being that she still lived with her parents, and hasn't had the drive to go back to school or find a job. I was honestly taken aback by what she said, and I feel almost awful for making her feel like that.
Even yesterday, my best friend came over to my fiancee and I's apartment to hang out and watch some movies, and she looked at us and said,
"You know, you guys are amazing, for being able to move out of your parent's house, and able to live our properly on your own."
Is it just me, or am I the only one that doesn't feel any different? I feel like all my friends look at me as someone amazing, but to me all I feel I did was run away from my parent's house, ounce I got sick and tired of living with them.
Don't get me wrong, moving out on my own, was literally one of hardest things my fiancee and I did together, it was so rough the first few couple of months, that it basically killed off my savings entirely. But at the same time, I look at what I did as nothing more that kid that ran away from home. I didn't do it because I felt like I was ready to move out, I did it because I was "done" living with my parents.
I feel like my friends look at me as someone who has got their life together, when in actuality, I'm still figuring out what to do with my life. Heck, I'm still stuck at my fast food job, wondering if there was anyway I could find a career with the current state of the world is in.
I love my friends, but I feel bad when I see them undermine their own values and achievements, just because of the fact they still live with their parents. Honestly, I envy them for having such a healthy and close relationship with their family to the point that their comfortable with just staying home.