The packet

Those are really old posts!

I have not heard of "The Packet" - and I can't quite imagine there are so many needed topics to discuss with the BP.

What are you planning on talking about with them?

Attire, timelines, and dates for possible parties are about all I can think of...

I agree with PP. I haven’t heard of the packet, but it sounds outdated. Why are you having a “meeting” in the first place if you have nothing to discuss? You know when you attend a meeting and you’re like “wow that could have just been an email?” Don’t do that to your friends. Send a text.

Not sure of a packet. I agree with the pp. Maybe you can have an informal outing like a brunch or wine date at your place and maybe just go over setting up a date for dresses or something. I think a packet would come off a little bridezilla-ish.

View Quoted Comment Well, I’m a stickler for detail. I planned & executed everything. So everything is done for my wedding, everyone has all that they need. My meeting is actually a get to together at my home for my wedding party to all ‘officially’ meet. I’m not giving them “The Packet”. I have my tidbits jotted down for discussion. My inquiry of “The Packet” was to ensure that I don’t mistakenly forget something of importance.

Hi Yasha! I think I found the old WeddingWire post you're talking about: Let me introduce you all to "The Packet"!, but when I follow the link to the original Wedding Bee post I get an error page!

More from Wedding Bee here: (Closed) "The Packet" by Mrs. Daffodil

There shouldn't be too much you need to discuss with your bridal party! I didn't have any meetings with my bridesmaids, but did send out group emails with key dates and with dress info when it came time to start ordering bridesmaids dresses!

You can also browse WeddingWire's idea section for helpful bridal party info and etiquette. Here are a few good overview articles you can check out that might be helpful for this meeting: The Bridesmaid Duties Checklist Every 'Maid Needs, 7 Things You Shouldn't Be Afraid to Say to Your Bridesmaids, 11 Things Your Bridesmaids Do NOT Want to Hear and The Bridesmaid Dress Shopping Timeline Every 'Maid Should Follow.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Lynnie for responding to the question at hand. I also received the same error message.

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Oh it is perfectly fine to be detailed but I would think that would be for you and not the ladies. The only thing they technically need to do is wear a dress of your choosing. If you have any pre wedding dates planned maybe give them the dates apart from the bachelorette but that would be on them to decide to plan. Now if you want to discuss the rehearsal or the day of so they know what they need to do the biggest things would be: maybe meet for breakfast if you would like (optional), go with you or get their hair and make up done based on what you all decide and then be at the venue on time to get ready.

Not sure what The Packet is, but it sounds interesting for sure.

Daughter just put together an email for the wedding party (separate for the BM and GM) that listed dates/times/locations for the rehearsal, RD, getting ready morning of, and the wedding. It included specific details they might need to know (e.g., like daughter had purchased all the guys white dress shirts and ties, and they'd all be at the house the guys were using to get ready so they just needed to bring their suits, etc.). Their wedding party was traveling in from all over the country and many of them didn't meet until they arrived at the rehearsal. Daughter was also incredibly organized and detail oriented, but no one else really needed to know too much of what had gone on behind the scenes, just the basic timelines, etc.

I think meetings and packets are often a "know your crowd" type issue. Some bridal parties might be all about it, but for others it might be the kind of thing that gets posted on WW as a bit over-the-top.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! Yes, I have all of these things taken care of

At my rehearsal dinner I gave our bridal party schedules of when everything was as happening and where to be and a list of everyone’s phone number, just in case.

View Quoted Comment Thanks everyone. I found it through Google.