Hello! Long time no chat. 
So I sent most of my save the dates out back in September/October area. Still sending people's out as we are collecting their address. For the most part I got addresses or we are planning to give it out in person. Except for the 12. See we allowed each set of parents to have up 12 people they could invite where don't have as much of a say. So for example, my parents picked my dad's late stepdad family members who I haven't often seen so didn't think of them right away. But my grandpa Kren was a big figure in my dad's life even after my grandma left him. So since they were not together when I was born, I barely know the Kren side of my family. But that's who my parents picked. Cool. Barely know them but cool. My parents used 6 out of their 12, gave me their addresses no problem. Took my mom a second as her laptop with her address and final choice went to laptop heaven so she had to work that out but she got it to me. My fiancé's parents have complained about only having 12 and whenever I ask them for their 12 I do not get a response. My fiancé said it maybe because they do not know since they are viewing it only 12. I knew my FMIL had a problem with it because some point earlier this year she commented that the 12 meant 6 couples and that was 3 couples for her to invite and 3 couples for FFIL to invite. The breakdown into smaller numbers made me self-conscious but still. I don't know how to keep asking without being annoying. They complain 12 is not enough, we've been engaged for almost a year so they've had time to think about this, and I had to bug them several times for addresses not just of their 12 but family members. I finally got the last of the addresses for family members like last week but still not the 12. We are going to be designing the invites soon and sending those out in like 2-3 months. As ways away, yes but I don't want the Save the Dates to come to those 12 like right before the invites. That kind of defeats the purpose. If anyone has any insight on what to do please help. I've tried texting, I've brought it up in person, I think my fiancé asked even (at least he did about the most recent family member addresses I had to harass for). They already have accused my family of dominating the wedding (I won't get into that) and I am worried if they do not give me their 12 in time or whatever that they'll be mad at me and talk trash about me. It's exhausting.
