The photos we didn’t get

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Your post may help point to another idea. For the missing photos, it may just help to write out those precious moments whether caught in photos or not. The actual story will have more depth than just captured on the photos. This is probably more than I would do, but it may help some who have felt regrets for missed photos.

I am so glad I found this post because I don’t feel so alone. I just got married 3 weeks ago and while my honeymoon was an absolute week-long perfect dream, ever since we returned, I can’t stop stressing about my wedding day even though it’s over. I cry about it almost daily because I didn’t get all the pictures I wanted. The day was a whirlwind and I can’t even remember everything that happened. I felt like I couldn’t enjoy the moments because I was too worried about what was going to happen next. Our photographer wasn’t very organized and while I did get most of the family portraits I originally wanted, I got no pictures with my mom getting ready or in the emotional moments before the ceremony with my dad. I got no nice pictures with my friends who attended (maybe there are some on the dance floor ?) but none posed. The photographer was bossy and took forever to take shots. I hardly got any pictures with just my husband and it breaks my heart. In addition, I think I might be suffering a little bit from post-wedding depression which obviously doesn’t help. I couldn’t wait for the day to be over because of how stressful it was-especially with Covid-and now I’m just so sad and down in the dumps that both our wedding and honeymoon are over. Is anyone else feeling this way? I wish I could relive the day and make it perfect.

View Quoted Comment I know this comment is older, but can not explain how much I can relate to your comment/story! I just got married September 17th and I don’t have all my pictures back yet but the ones that I do I do like, especially the ones of my husband and I. However, I am beating myself up over the fact that I sent a list to our photographer of photos that I wanted and she missed a good amount of them; and I’m pretty sure she didn’t have the list on wedding day.. I am literally losing sleep over the fact that I know there were no pictures of just me in my dress or non of just my husband and non of me and my bridesmaids. 😭 I sobbed when I realized that I didn’t have those pictures and I don’t know what pictures of my bridesmaids she does have that I haven’t gotten back yet. I’m beating myself up cause I should have said something but in the moment I couldn’t remember what I put on that list. And not to mention it was 80° and humid that day so everyone was hot and ready to be done with pictures, but I’m still so hung up over these pictures..

View Quoted Comment Your not alone It’s been 3 years and I still get upset lol. I wasn’t on my head I feel like on that day. I had gone over all of what I wanted with my photographer but our wedding was HOT and Humid too, which I think played a part as well.
Just try to focus on the day, how you will have years ahead to take other amazing photos.
We can spend eternity beating ourselves up, or disliking our photographers bc of missed opportunities but all we can do is reflect on what happened. We married our best friends

Hey wives! My wedding was 2 weeks ago and I still haven't had my photos yet and I get what you mean.

Our wedding photoshoot was rushed - maybe i will tell why in another thread - and I have the feelings many photos were not done. like me alone, or him alone, or any original pic.

But I am making peace with this, I only hope the few pics will be decent!

For us its now 2 years post legal marriage/minimony and 1 year post wedding celebration, and I can say there are still some photos I wish we had gotten but not having those photos didn't make either event any less so. I feel like as long as you have SOME photos of your event that you really love it isn't all that important that every little detail wasn't perfectly captured. Realistically you are only going to choose a handful of photos to display/look at constantly anyway, and then maybe a hundred or so for your wedding album and the rest will live on digitally and never be printed.

I just got married in November and I have been stressing about all of the pictures that we didn’t get, almost everyday. So glad to know that I’m not the only one! For some reason our photographer didn’t get any pictures of the outside of our venue or us by the venue. And I must have not been thinking clearly on my wedding day because I didn’t get (or ask for) any pictures with a lot of my immediate family and I’m so upset about that. Just wondering if this feeling will ever go away

I got married this past October and am relieved that I found your thread and that there are so many other brides who have experienced this same thing. We had a fantastic husband and wife photography team who went above and beyond despite the fact we were 2 HOURS behind schedule. Due to this, I didn't get many getting ready photos I was hoping for (none of "putting on the dress" or me putting on my shoes)... they had overlooked my shoes for detail shots too unfortunately, I didn't get some of the ones I wanted with my bridesmaids, and we didn't have the time for bride and groom portraits that we should've because we fell so behind that morning. I really wish we had done more portraits of us and fewer family formals.. There were a couple on the shot list at the reception that didn't happen either. I have been trying to get over this as well. I do kind of like the idea of recreating some photos but at the same time I feel like since the day is gone there is no way to get those exact feelings and emotions back. I am still trying to come to terms with it. I see your post is from 2019, if you experienced a way that truly helped you past this disappoint, please share! It would help me as a recently married bride so much.

I'm struggling with more than some of the photos too. A LOT of things went wrong for my wedding (the baker put a design I specifically did not want on one of my cake tiers and refused to take any responsibility for it despite photos and emails I had sent about the design AND what was on the contract we signed, 2 days before the wedding my hair stylist sprung a $720+ price tag on me to do ONLY my hair -- not counting my bridesmaids or anyone else -- which I was not about to pay... My bridesmaids were going to try to do my hair for me but didn't start on it until they had done theirs and there was only 20 minutes left before I was supposed to be completely ready and was nowhere near it. I mainly ended up fixing it myself but we were really behind schedule because of that, then my car got a flat tire on the way to the venue, guests were arriving by the time I reached the venue so it took about another 20-30 minutes before there was a break in cars where I could sneak in, I asked my florist for a slightly cascading bouquet and was given a round one, he also put blue flowers in my reception decor when I only asked for white ones, my groom is wearing a mother's corsage instead of his boutonniere in several photos until someone realized the wrong one was pinned on him, our ring security was given a boutonniere instead of the singer for the ceremony, my officiant messed up our vows at my favorite part, our paid chauffeur took a wrong turn and got us to our reception venue late, the slideshow I spent hours putting together and paid an extra $200 for to use the projector didn't work, the appetizers weren't served where everyone got the 4 per person I paid for and my mother only got 1 tiny one while some guests took handfuls... There may have been more. It's such a shame after so much forethought, careful planning, and money goes into a special day like this that it ends up feeling so filled with disappointment. People always want to resort to giving the consolation of, "You're married now, that's all that matters" but it doesn't feel like it helps. Technically, one could get married without any type of celebration but if you have one you want it to be what you've dreamed and worked so hard for.

I got married a few days ago and I have such huge photo regrets I’m just beating myself up about it. Ones on our list were missed, getting ready was really rushed so barely any with bridesmaids and none with me and my mum. I can’t stop crying and I’m ruining the honeymoon. I’m just going over and over in my head opportunities where I should have said ‘can we have more of the bridesmaids’. I had photo regrets after then hen so feel so so so so stupid for feeling the same and not having put anything in place to ensure we got all the shots. I just hate myself.

I am so sorry you feel this way and have this weighing on your mind,I got married June 3,I have 2 older children from a previous marriage and 2 younger with my now husband.After 5 hrs of having a photographer I realize I have no pics with my youngest.I took 2 in 5 hrs and one of those being with a group,we were being pulled left and right and it was a busy night but why didn’t I think to take some pics w my 4 kids or why didn’t the photographer thing about doing this,I have 3 boys and 1 girl,I got a lot w her bc she was my maid of honor but I would have loved to have my boys around me for a picture.I literally keep myself up at night getting upset that I will never get that night back again and I feel like by looking at my photos he isn’t even my child bc I have more candid fun shots on the dance floor w cousins and friends.I sympathize with the feelings you have and there’s really nothing we can do about it now so how can we not drive ourselves nuts over this.The wedding was absolutely beautiful and I’m ruining it because of these photos I don’t have

This is a bit outside my comfort zone as I’ve never commented on a thread before lol but it’s been over 2 yrs since I got married - May 2021. I was a COVID bride. We had to move our wedding from Sept 2020. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one that feels this way. I have a lot of feelings about missing certain pictures and experiences. It was down pouring the day before our wedding and rained on and off the day of. Thankfully it let up a little for us to go outside to take pics but the grounds had a lot of puddles. I was obsessed with my dress which had a huge train and was lace. It wasn’t a ball gown so I was very concerned about putting it down and getting it soaked. There was grass area but again I was so worried about getting it really wet and dirty when I still had to take pictures inside and was concerned about how it would look in pics at the reception. So all my pics outside are of je holding my dress. Don’t get me wrong the photographer did such an amazing job. The ones outside still came out gorgeous and I have legit over 4K gorgeous photos inside and outside. However, I’m so fixated on these pics I didn’t get and feel so left out like I’m the only one in the world that didn’t get pics outside with my dress/train down. I can say that I am dealing with the feelings better 2 yrs later but it’s really hard bc when I think back to my wedding I focus on all the negatives and what ifs rather than the amazing day I actually did have.