The weird things people say after you get married...

Haha, that is so typical. I think people just don't know what else to say, so the go to.is always how's married life LOL. Fertility question? I hope it was at least family?!?

Hahahahahh! Thats the first time Im hearing the fertile thing! Wooooah! i cant imagine what my response will be. Im used to and also tired of the "how is married life" one though but I have to remind myself that their intentions are not bad. LOL

It was so weird, it was a guy I work with. A GUY! He then proceeded to tell me how fertile his wife is !!! And then he moves his head towards my stomach and asks if I`m pregnant now.

I was soooo uncomfortable. I did one of those akward smiles and slowly backed away.

Lol yeah I get the soooo how does it feel! I'm like doesn't really feel any different!

I hear it gets worse when you actually are pregnant.

So what is a good response for "How's married life?"

I havne't gotten the question yet, we are 12 days married. =)

My boss asked me when we would have kids. Although we want to have kids as soon as we buy a house (which we are currently looking for), I told him not for years to come! We still have plenty of time! What am I supposed to say????

I think "How's married life?" is just an icebreaker. I say it to newlyweds when I haven't seen them for a few months after the wedding, although I guess most of my married friends had major changes when they married (moving in together, perhaps moving to a new place together, getting pregnant fairly quickly, etc).

I've been married for 3 years and I lost count how many times I heard/hear the "when are you having a baby?"!! Just wanna say: Whenever I feel like it, mind your own life! So annoying!!

The "hows married life" question kills me.

My BIL at the reception got really drunk and literally every five minutes was coming up to us and asking us "so how does it feel to be married". It was so annoying. I thought my DH was going to punch him in the face. Eventually we just ignored him.

And it is really ignorant to think that just because people get married they are either already pregnant or desperately trying to. Why can't two people that are in love just get married to make a commitment to spend the rest of their lives together.

To the `how`s married life`question I`ve started to tell people it`s absoluttly horrible and that I wished someone had warned me.

Or i could say, my married life is great, but I can`t speak for all married couples.

I think it`s a weird ice breaker, why not ask how the wedding went, I think that`s more appropriate.

As for babies, I agree with Mrs. D, but not only that, it`s presumptions to assume that we`re going to have kids at all!

I can see the "How's married life" question, that's just a person trying to bring up small talk I guess. But that "how fertile do you think you are?" What the flippity-f#$!???

I think that most people who know me, know not to ask ridiculous questions to me - because they will get an equally - or more - ridiculous answer back. Yup, I'm an a**hole lol!

When are you having kids is such an annoying question! Especially if there are road blocks in the way it just hurts that much more! I wish people would stop with the questions and just say i hope you are enjoying married life together geeezzz!!

God forbid you drink water instead of alchohol, people will automatically think your are pregnant! The fertile comment is just way over the top, some people need to think before they speak LOL

LOL at the wedding reception, I sit down at a table and my uncle asks "so, what's new" I thought that was pretty funny!

People are strange, I am dressing the same way I did before I was married, but people at church keep saying how much nicer I am looking because I am married.

I am 40 with a 21 year with a grandbaby, a 20 year old and an 18 year old and I have people asking if we are gonna have any kids. ( are they %^*&%# crazy!!!! I plan on spoiling someone elses, lol.)

Yeah these questions are really just ice breakers, especially when you have nothing to talk about...I don't ask about the when are you having kids question because some people can't I did that once and found out she was infertile and I felt really bad!She was ok after I asked but still I felt aweful! Never again will that be a question.

Lol that's really funny.....

An actual conversation between a coworker & I last week:

Coworker: "I have some advice for you."

Me: "ohhhhkay"

Coworker: "When you get married, don't ever get a divorce"

Me: "um, thanks?"

Coworker, then walks away.

...WTH? Do people think before they talk? I'm sorry your marriage was a flippin disaster and your a mess now because of your ex, but don't be a Debbie downer to me about my upcoming wedding.

*sheesh*

@ Elizabeth -- What are you supposed to say to that?! "Aww $h!^ -- getting divorced was totally the reason I'm getting married, do you think I should rethink my life?"

Haha!

Yeah, I'm guilty of using the "How's married life?" as an icebreaker. That one doesn't bother me, people ask me that all the time, I figure it's just an icebreaker or small talk b/c they don't know what else to say.

I definitely do NOT ask anything about TTC or babies b/c you never know someone's situation. I know people probably just think it's a harmless comment but sometimes it's not!!! Who knows, they could have been TTC for months already, or maybe they had a miscarriage, or maybe they can't agree as a couple if they're ready...it's kind of like asking someone about politics or religion. No nonononononoNO don't do it.

Honestly I get weirder questions about being a SAHW. "What do you do all day?" "Aren't you worried about your career?" "No really, what do you do all day?" Like somehow I have to justify how I spend every second of my time b/c I'm not sitting in a cubicle. Please. I've seen people waste all sorts of time in cubicles!!!