So I'm a person who's know to struggle with change. I made a promise to myself while wedding planning that I would not become a bridezilla, because this is a happy occasion and I want to love every minute of it! So we're about three months out and I get a get from my future aunt-in-law saying that she's been putting off telling me that her son does not want to be our ring bearer. Needless to say, I was a little upset. I wasn't upset because my FH's nephew didn't want to do it. I was more frustrated because we knew he was shy but he was the only little boy we had in the family and asked his aunt and uncle a year ago to ask him and see what he thought (he was 10 at the time-now he's 11). They told us, oh yes, he's thrilled. We were told again at Christmas and in February that he was thrilled to do it, but wanted to walk with his mom--we said sure. At a family event in March, they had him come up to us and said, what are you excited for? And he smiled and said, to be the ring bearer. So we bought the ring bearer pillow, bought him a personalized gift, and signed him up for a tux. And suddenly three months out, I found out it wasn't true. Apparently, he'd always been super scared to do it and would cry when they would tell him he had to. So obviously I told his aunt of course he shouldn't do it! Number one, I don't want a crying child walking down the aisle at my wedding and Number two, I don't want anyone scared or traumatized by this!! I just wish they would have let me know from the beginning before we spent all that money on it!
I was starting to feel upset, but I absolutely did not want to turn this into a huge deal and harbor resentment about anything to do with this wedding. Instead I wracked my brain trying to think of another ring bearer. I thought of my FH's coworker who just had a baby boy in April, but we agreed they probably wouldn't want their newborn surrounded by strangers at a wedding. Then it hit me! Our groomsman's girlfriend had a four year old son who was adorable, outgoing, and loved attention! We started doing game nights with them and adore her son. Well, we asked them last week and she was so thrilled, and her son said, "oh yeah! I will do that" and seems really excited to be in the spotlight (He is walking with his mom).
But if this weird turn couldn't get any better, we had dinner with my FH's coworker a couple of nights ago and i started to ask them a question and she interrupted and said, you want the baby to be the ring bearer? He'd love to! She was joking, but I admitted we had thought of asking them, but figured they wouldn't want him to do it. She loved the idea and said, they would be touched to have him be in the wedding.
And so somehow, we lost one ring bearer and picked up two! It really did show me that it's SO much better to not get hung up on what goes wrong, but instead focus on a game plan. I would never have wanted a scared little boy to be upset at our wedding and instead we have a little boy who's excited and a baby who we're happy to include in the festivities! Some things really do happen for a reason! 
