Things not to say to a covid bride or groom

"At least you have a good man. Would you rather have a good man or a wedding..?"


As if I should have to choose between a major life event or a good man?! I want both darnit!! Haha

This. Thread. Is. Everything. Thank you!

A few I've heard/not heard:

1. "Well you hear about people postponing once but twice is like 'Oh jeez.'" (That was from my FMIL, I might add). Also, when we said we would be doing a legal ceremony on our original date, her reaction was "Are you kidding me?"

2. Silence. I think the silence from certain people you thought would be supportive is the worst one of all. I have one friend in particular who hasn't reached out at all about it despite the fact that she received a text, e-mail, and change of date card. Those are the ones that stick with me more than anything.

My MIL said that it wasn't fair to HER that her friends weren't invited to the REAL wedding (we got married on our date, and rescheduled the party to a later date where we will do a vow renewal most likely).

A girl who was supposed to be a bridesmaid (will not be now, for reasons unrelated), said that I should just get over myself because a wedding is not that important, and besides, it will be better later when people appreciate gatherings more.

I cannot even count how many people have 'joked' "Well I guess this is God's way of telling you to rethink your marriage" or "This gives you a chance to change your mind". The first time was kinda funny, but after the 30th I was OVER IT.

We canceled in March and rescheduled for the end of June. Now that we are a month away from the rescheduled date, we are getting all sorts of new annoying comments. Other states are reopening and will be allowing weddings so I have some people saying "Just go to another state!" Okay, where do you suggest I take 270 of our friends and family to celebrate our wedding? But then there is a split of people who are saying "its outside, have it anyway and social distance" and the others saying "You are selfish for wanting a wedding during all this. Just be patient."

For what its worth, it POURED all day on our wedding day, and I was distraught. I always said that even though we were planning an outdoor wedding, I would live and not complain much if it was raining. But when we already lost every other aspect of our wedding I was SO upset that we didn't get to have our outside wedding either.

I know at the end of the day all that matters is that we are together, and married, but it doesn't make the bumps easier to take. You are not alone

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HA! Our MILs could be friends. But I definitely agree with the silence thing! I have had people I never thought would care, reach out, but some of our closest "friends and family" have not said anything at all.

Awwww that’s awful reading some of your responses. I wouldn’t be able to deal with it. Somebody would have gotten cussed out. 😂 I can say that thankfully, no one has said anything crazy to me or my fiancé. 100% support from family and close friends. All have said, “whatever y’all decide we are behind you.” Even if they don’t support what we are doing, they haven’t said anything to us. They know better.


My fiancé is not to be played with. He has a demeanor about him that is stern but he demands respect and is respectful to others so 1) people know not to ask him anything about our relationship or wedding whether it be co-workers, friends or family.2) I’m Jamaican and the way my attitude is set up, I will flip a lid the minute anybody says anything remotely offending or off the wall to me (I’m working on it 🤣) so they don’t even joke with me about the wedding 🥴 3) we don’t give people the opportunity to have an opinion because we inform them about our decision for our wedding and that’s what it will be. Like it or hate it, that’s not our problem.
But my brother is the only one who gets a pass. He’s the only one who can say “you still have time to run” and I can bust out laughing. He’s my peace since our father passed away. 🥰
Now, that I am way more comfortable with the decisions we made and confident in our backup plan, I can take jokes with a grain of salt and keep it moving.

“2020 is cancelled. Anyone who still has big events this year is selfish and irresponsible.”


I’m all for being cautious and following health/safety guidelines. I am also aware things could get worse before they get better and our wedding might still get cancelled/postponed. But I still have hope in my heart that things will get better and comments like these just make me second guess myself and feel naive. 😞

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All of this!! Whats most frustrating to me is that the majoraty of people saying these things got to have the dream wedding they planned.. We get none of what a "normal" wedding would be, regardless if you change dates or not, its just not the same

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My MIL is the same!! like just hush up and let me marry your son already

My dad told me I was being selfish and replacing my family with my FH’s family. My dad and I didn’t have the best relationship before this anyway.


We’re still getting married on our wedding date, June 6.

My family is in CA. I live in MN where our wedding is happening. My whole family is immunocompromised (my dad especially, 3 kidney transplants) so they wouldn’t be flying any time soon anyway due to the risks.
I’ve come to terms with it. But if one more person tries to convince me this isn’t what we should do or that this is a sign we shouldn’t get married, I’ll riot.

View Quoted Comment Omg, I would have went to jail 🤣🥴

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This one too!! Its so irritating and hurtful.. I know its no ones fault and no ones responsibility to say anything but I just wish that someone would say "I'm so sorry this is happening" rather than all the hurtful comments.

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OMG date and state twins!!

I'm so sorry your family is unable to attend

I'm thankful that my family is able to come but FMIL keeps trying to talk us out of it because aunts and uncles are unable to come.. Lady its 11 days away! I'm getting married no matter if a tornado rips through the town haha

View Quoted Comment Yay!!!! Where are you getting married if you don’t mind me asking?


I swear, family’s are making this harder than it needs to be. My FMIL wanted to tape it and I’m like “uhhhh I paid a lot of money that my videographer won’t give me back. I don’t want your phone shown in everything! Family can see clips later.” My FH thought I was crazy.
My FMIL also thought I was weird when I said if it comes to it, our ceremony will be in our living room if it needs to be. I’ve waited over 7 years for this. It’s happening.

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We are getting married on our property in New York Mills. We backed out of our venue because it would have been to big, found another "museum" type place until they told us we couldn't be there.. So we just decided screw it we will do it at the house haha we have 20 acres so there will be plenty of space for a decent ceremony and pictures anywayXD

I so feel you with the FMIL! I was going to do a taco bar until she told me that we shouldn't do that and told me to hire a food truck instead so people wouldn't have to touch everything. Good point, fair enough. But trying to find one in our area was next to impossible and very expensive. Basically all of my plans for the whole day she said no to and I replaned everything (for like the 5th time mind you) just to make her get off my back. She just thinks its going to be this big extravagant ordeal and its just not how it worked out for us.. It will be what it will be

View Quoted Comment What the??? Haha Im 💀!!!

Our date is in October and I’m already having people asking “so are you guys still having the wedding?”...idk why it just annoys me to get that question as if they expect me to say no!

Oh my gosh, these are horrible! No one has said anything too awful to me. But I did have a bridesmaid tell me twice within a few days that "it is for the best" that my wedding was postponed. I was clear that I was feeling SAD about having to postpone. Most people have been good and have been willing to share with me how much this SUCKS right now - that is what I needed, not to be told it was all for the best. UGH!

View Quoted Comment It’s going to be amazing! I think the change in scenery will mean a lot to you guys! Your MIL sounds like mine 😂 “well that’s just not enough. Champagne? Let me decorate your house for you! Do you want a carriage ride or a limo ride?” My fiancé literally just want to come home and play with our dogs after.

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I'm cracking up Jennifer!!! 😂 What kind of a question is that?!?? 🤣

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Oh my gosh that is literally us she asked us if we planned on having our dog boarded the day of.

Um no, I like my dog more than 98% of people she is my child so no we will not board her lol