Things not to say to a covid bride or groom

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Yes. My FH's cousin said that anyone who is getting married this year is being selfish. We are still planning on having the wedding and reception in September of this year. We live in Wisconsin and our venue is planning to be operational by June or July. I don't want to send her an invite at this point but I have to. I hope I get a decline on that one. Same with a few of the groomsmen's wives; they are negative Nancy's. I had one who messaged me on FB (we aren't even friends on there) saying she has decided they won't be attending. That didn't go over to well with her husband; my FH's groomsman.

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- Wow my mother said the same thing - we have a weird up and down relationship, but it still hurts when they say things like that.

- I hope your family stays safe, praying for you all!

- Hah! Can't tell you how many people have said that this is a sign. Honestly they aren't even worth a response at this point.

My wedding was suppose to be June 18th, so we decided to have a small ceremony the day of because I was so heartbroken and we have postponed the big event to July 22, 2021. It was better for us to postpone far and ensure that we would not have to reschedule. I don't think I could take it if it happened again.

Wishing you the wedding of your dreams, whenever it happens i'm sure it will be everything you have ever hoped for!

View Quoted Comment Honestly, I think parents are pushing their children away with this situation and they need to take a step back before there’s irreparable harm (could be biased...my dads been a jerk since I told him my fiancé and I were even discussing marriage).


You have to do what’s best for you and I hope you keep that in mind going forward. It’s going to be magical for you no matter how you do it. 💜

“Clark is just a last name” and my all time favorite “do you think cancel weddings are a sign that maybe they shouldn’t happen” 🤔 also I to have been told “atleast you have a good man” like of course I know I have a good man that’s why I’m marrying him.

View Quoted Comment Wow! She made that decision without talking to her husband. 😬 We put various messages on our website that we understand if anyone doesn’t feel comfortable attending then no worries from us. I hope your groomsmen figure out a plan and things work out for your FH to have his guys beside him. One way or another us 2020 brides will get through this!

View Quoted Comment I put a message on our website too basically saying the same thing. Also trying to put things in perspective we have a 600 guest max at our venue. We have 154 invited. So about 25% with those we know aren't coming. I just want people to make a rational decision. I know I was so shocked but this might sound weird but i noticed that all of my FH'S friends and groomsmen are kind of married to like a person who is always in control. It just rubbed me thr wrong way, like she expected me to agree with her. Then she was talking about how if they can't visit her family in Brazil there is no reason they should come for our wedding. I couldn't follow that train of thought to be honest. But I know things will get better!

Omg I have gotten so many of these!


Just a few are “well you’ll get married eventually”, “there will be no weddings this summer and if there are everyone has to wear a mask” or just complete silence like I don’t even talk. I get the situation but I am just looking for someone to make me feel better and see some positive! But that isn’t the case lol

One of my bridesmaids complaint she can’t get her dress to the tailor so she might not be able to come to the wedding, then me saying don’t worry just wear another dress, then her saying she needs a long as possible to decide if she can come but also doesn’t watch the news and doesn’t know where her state is even at. I told her if she’s uncomfortable then she doesn’t have to come, I’m good with that, but all these excuses are not appreciated....


People saying “were you able to reschedule?”. Ummmm how about ask me about my plans first before predetermining your views on me.
“Just reschedule, everything will be normal in 2021.” Ummmmm how do we know that for sure?
People with double standards. My fiancé’s mom, yeah we think we might come to the wedding , while she tells us she hanging out with her neighbors in same phone call.

"Are you still having the wedding?" My wedding is in Nov 2020 and this question is so annoying. If I weren't having it you would've heard it by now. That is definitely the most common question I've heard. I understand the question but I hate the pitying looks that accompany it. YES, still planning on having the wedding, and if you don't feel like coming that's completely fine too.

Things I posted on FB, in March, forgetting I had friends who were supposed to get married this year:
"I am SO glad we opted for a short engagement and got married last year!"

...I'm still glad we opted for the short engagement, but, wow, did I feel awful when my friend who was supposed to get married this past weekend had to cancel.

So. Um. Ooops.

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My dad said something similar when I told him my FHs parents and my sister were invited. My dad said “You’re having all of FHs family and none of your own?” Well excuse me that we don’t have a good relationship lol

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Isn't it crazy?!

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Oh yes! This too. My cousin's little girl was supposed to be a flower girl, as well as my niece and DHs little sister. His little sister was still there, and while she didn't wear the dress we purchased, she did walk down the aisle and throw petals. I had told my cousin that they were still welcome to come the wedding, and her daughter could still be in it, if they were comfortable. She said that she thought it was better not to, and I told her that was TOTALLY okay. Then the day after the wedding she complained to my mom that we let DHs sister still walk, and then started talking about how they were going to her mom's house to have dinner with their new friends, and their friend's kids and grand kids. It was hard not to be really mad that she not only had the nerve to complain that I let 1 of the flower girls walk when her daughter was sad she didn't get to be there, but I was SO mad when she basically could go hang out with strangers and their kids but not come to my wedding that had less people.

Okay have some new ones! I went to my hair stylist and she asked if my wedding was cancelled. I said no it’s in July. And she was like “yeah but no one will want to come”. Ummm ouch! I told her we have 30 confirmed guests and they are already going into to phase 2 and it will be a smaller wedding. And she was like “oh “but you all will have to wear masks”, and was like that’s no problem! I’m ordering classy ones for everyone. I did concede I might not be able to have my makeup done and she was like that’s awful. But I told her I can do my own it’s really not the biggest deal, the most important thing is we are getting married.

My future MIL said “you should postpone the wedding. My sister cancelled her birthday trip in November because she figured people wouldn’t feel comfortable.” Mind you... her birthday trip was to go on a cruise .. how can you compare a cruise with a wedding of 180 guests??? I’d cancel my cruise trip too if I were her LOL.


I’ve also heard “why don’t you just have a court marriage and use the money for a down payment on a house?” Umm .. because I want to have a wedding and also our venue doesn’t allow any refunds.
“You should’ve just eloped”
“You haven’t canceled yet??”
“It’s not going to be better by August, and if it is I can PROMISE you that people will be scared to gather”
The list goes on .

View Quoted Comment I hope you're enjoying every second of your day!

My future mother in law as well as my future sister in law both made comments about 'now that we're past your original wedding date it's like you're married so you can start having kids now!' Um no, we live in a one bedroom apartment and are saving to buy a house in the next few years. Unless you want to buy us our house, and pay for child care, and pay for a new wedding dress to fit my bump (my future mother in law's suggestion was to just cut out a hole for the stomach) we aren't going to be having kids right now.

My step sister was getting married a month before our now reschedule October date and they decided to cancel, so now I keep hearing from my step mom about how we should consider just going to the courthouse instead like her daughter is doing because it's saving them so much money, and that they care more about their guests since they canceled already.

But we just got word our venue was going to start doing small events next week so I'm hopeful for October now! They are the last vendor we have that still hadn't opened back up yet.

My new wedding date is October 2, 2021...
my Original date was September 19, 2020....
And our 10 YEAR Anniversary is, also the Rehearsal Dinner, October 1st...... issue comes in as it is also FH mothers birthday and happens to be her 80th!
When I sent the new date to her in Facebook messenger she replied “OH GREAT! All of MY people will be there to celebrate my 80th birthday!!” And it went downhill from there.
We don’t get a long and she seemed to be hijacking the rehearsal dinner... and the anniversary.... I was like NO WAY! And told my FH we should do a high tea/brunch for her. She will feel special and OUR guests- 95% of whom she doesn’t know nor want at her birthday( MY parents and son included!!) won’t feel sooo awkward.
There have been comments of “Well you still have him” “You two love together anyway, so what difference does it make?”

Why can’t I have him, live together and have my dream wedding???
Sigh

View Quoted Comment You’re so sweet! It was an amazing day and I’m so glad we still went through with it!

A little back story- in September I will be getting married in Vegas and 2 weeks later I will have a reception back home.

I was told in May if my wedding in September was going to be canceled. I was kind of dumbfounded by the question. I continued to answer and say well if worse comes to worse I will still get married on my original day and then reschedule the reception. She then continued to ask well what if you can’t make it to vegas. I was like if people can fly at the start of a pandemic what makes you think I can’t fly in September. I also been asked if I rescheduled my wedding yet. I was like you do know there are people from March that still need rescheduling I think I can focus on mine at a later time