Things not to say to a covid bride or groom

View Quoted Comment I have the same reception date ! September 19th 2020

View Quoted Comment We have postponed till October 2nd of next year....
Oh well......


Hope that you and FH are able to have your original date.

View Quoted Comment “A good wedding, obviously...”
that’s what I would have responded with!! 😂 How awful!

Wow, I’m glad (but also saddened) that I’m not alone here! We just decided to postpone our 10/11 wedding, and it’s been rough. We’re still getting married this year on our date, and doing a renewal ceremony and reception next October.


One friend’s response: Love this! 🙌🏻(With the emoji and all... um, what?!)
When we told my future in-laws that we were postponing, but still getting married, so I’ll be in my dress and keeping hair/makeup and a bouquet, FMIL says, “well you don’t NEED all that.” (Uh, it’s STILL my wedding day, yes I do, and more importantly, I WANT it)
However, my mother sadly takes the cake on this one. We changed the ceremony location for this year, which I was actually getting excited about, so I told my mother, and he immediate response was, “Why Westfield?!” I said, “why not?” She continued, “I grew up there and I hate that town.” So I finally said, “Well, this isn’t about you it’s our day, and that is my favorite park.” The nerve!! Then when I say it’s still my wedding day and I’m following through with the getting ready plans, she asks if she’s going to be there with me (yes, I booked your appointment, remember?) and then she said, “oh so you’ll still get me a dress then?” (TI am paying for, mind you!) She then asked if her friend would still be able to go, and I said, “NO it’s immediate family, and if we can extend beyond that, we have other friends we are closer with.” Like, really, what the heck?! She took away the excitement I finally felt and I got in a depressive state, and my hysterical crying started all over again. I’m so mad at her still, I can deal.
However, I AM hopeful for our “demi-wedding,” (as my baker called it lol) and feel like our day will still be special, and next year will be epic!

Here are my 2 (least) favorite comments lately:


- I was talking to my boss while working remotely from home one day during the middle of quarantine. I hadn’t been in to the office in person in the past 7 weeks and we were starting to discuss when to return. He joked, “You know, I’m starting to think you created this whole coronavirus thing just so you could stay home and plan your wedding.” Shocked at such a mean joke, I replied. “Well, it’s canceled. We just made the decision to cancel our wedding this morning.” He was silent. I mean, who tells someone even jokingly ‘I think you created the coronavirus for your own gain (fill in the blank).’ So rude.
- These older ladies at work were basically cornering me wanting updated plans for how we are celebrating our marriage (sans wedding celebration) on our upcoming date. I mentioned we wouldn’t be having even our immediate families there (just us) because once you add all our parents, siblings and their significant others up, it’s still quite a few people. One lady then joked, “Oh screw it, just get everyone together, have a party to celebrate and if everyone dies a month later, who cares?!” Okay old lady nearing retirement with 2 married kids, grandkids, fulfilled long life, etc... I still have a life to live!! Easy for you to say ‘who cares if you die in a month!’ I thought her comment was so flippant and definitely not helpful.
Sigh, those are just 2 of the many awkward things people have said to me. It’s like people have no filter in these unprecedented times. Just say what comes to mind, see how that absurd thought sounds out loud...

I haven't had too many except from my mother in the form of... "if we STILL have the wedding"
Uh there is no if about it, I'm getting married on the day to my FH whether or not we can have the ceremony and reception! It's Sept 26th of this year so I'm not too worried! We've had relatives say they will come 🤷🏻‍♀️ either way I will be saying my vows and changing my name!