Things that don't matter

This. Thank you for posting this. I've been having the same epiphany lately.

I realized a while back that it would be okay to not have huge, expensive centerpieces. Of all the things to spend money on, they aren't that important to us or our guests. So we just have some simple lanterns on square mirrors with a candle, with the table number, and maybe some rose petals. But I was worried about them, specifically, and I'm letting it go now.

Flowers, centerpieces, Pinterest anything. Make your wedding look like your wedding and not something you read about on the internet.

Decorations in general. I was so worked up about budget and decorations and having a "theme". Then I went to a cousins wedding who had NO decorations, No centerpieces. NOTHING! On each table was small sign that read "In lieu of centerpieces we were able to donate ($$ insert amount $&dollar to our favorite Animal Shelter."

Thank you!!!! I feel the same way. I was almost upset when the post office told me they only had butterfly stamps available, but honestly, in the grand scheme of things, a butterfly stamp isn't going to kill me.

I'm not stressed about the wedding itself at all. Things are going to go wrong. Something will be forgotten. There may be bad weather. Someone might get upset or hurt by something FH and I decide. Not everyone will like our choices. But in the end, our guests will be properly hosted and I will be marrying the man that has made life so worth living. If we end up having to get married in a gutter with trash bag ponchos and no shoes, it'll still be great because we get to sign that important piece of paper together.

I really needed this thread today!

As my handle suggests, my FH and I aren't going to have the most elaborate affair. We are argued about my budget plan and wanting to spend $300 on decorations. Sometimes its about perspective. If I don't have centerpieces and a floral altar, I'm still going to have a husband who loves me unconditionally.

Thank you for posting this! My mom has been in the hospital for over a month now and I'm stressed and wedding planning is not helping! I'm still figuring out decor and whether or not I want to spend $1000+ on florist... Already lost 2000+ on Alaskan cruise since we had to cancel the trip due to my mom's sudden illness

@Young, Broke, and Engaged I Love your username!!! It's hilarious.

This thread is absolutely wonderful. Today marks 15 years since a sad event and makes me realize that I really, really don't have to stress about the paper quality on my invitations. They're printed, the stuff is there, the QR codes are there, they work, functionality check. Really don't need to compare them to the fancy paper friends with 3x my budget made.

Great thread idea!

Edit: Too much of a downer post, sorry.

Great post! I am feeling the same way. When we decided to have a wedding instead of eloping, we wrote down three things that matter most, food, booze and music. Now less than two months to go, a few thousands over budgets, I am laying awake at night second guessing all my decisions. Just talk to my FH and he reminded me of the three things we wanted most is all set and ready and the rest is just icing on the cake... which just remind me to worry about cake...

I have said from the very beginning that I would like things to be and look a certain way. If everything falls apart, as long as we end up married and our guests have a good time, then it was a successful wedding.

Welcome bags for out of town guests, wedding favors, church decorations, bows on chairs at reception, second envelopes for wedding invites. Those are all things I wanted and didn't do and my wedding was perfect! Don't sweat the small stuff. As long as you two love each other and your friends and family are there it will be perfect :-)

It dosnt matter that 4 out of 92 of my envelopes invite have slight water damage from the sponge I used to seal them. You can still read the address and they will go into the trash anyways. I spent at least 5 minutes trying to decide if I should re-do them.

Mostly my attitude has been pretty positive. But it is hard when I spend alot of time on a project and it turns not how I wanted and I have to decide to re-do it or forget about it.

I laugh at some of the things I stressed about during planning. But - in the moment, it seems like such a big deal/decision.

No one will remember what my forks looked like. No one cared that one table had 7 candles and one had 9. No one cared that I had little buckets of crayons on a kids table instead of individually wrapped sets of 3. (that one legit had me stressed to the point of crying) - hell, I think there were only like 10 kids that even colored. No one will remember the songs we had playing during dinner. No one will remember that we didn't have programs. No one will remember that the caterer forgot to bring one of the salad dressings.

They will remember the love they felt that day. They will remember good food, drinks and great company.

As easy as it is to say, and as difficult as it is to do, try not to stress the small stuff.

Do I say this like every other day?

Yes.

I've been stressing over the most stupid things. Like gold chargers. Until I took a step back and realized I'm stressing over a piece of plastic that no one is even eating off of!

Seriously! I'm a major stress case!

Over all I decided that certain things weren't as important as others. For instance; food was my main focal point. We hired a BBQ team from a competition instead of a caterer, saved money and the food is 1st place worthy. They had trophies to prove it. I'm doing a lot of DIY projects, but non that break the bank. Instead of flower arrangements I'm doing lanterns and a little babies breath. This has saved me so much money!

Over all I can't wait for my big day in 40 days! No matter how big or small, stress is the same!

Ya im the none stressing type. Ive got the most important things to me covered, my venues, food, cake, and pictures. Everything else is just extra. Nice but not necessary.

Trying to live up to fbil and fsil's wedding. They had a gorgeous ceremony overlooking Firenze. (At FHs childhood home which is on top of a mountain.) Our wedding won't be as glamorous and the food won't be as good. It will be ours, however, and that is what matters.

At the start of this everything was a source of anxiety for me. Especially the little things. As it gets closer I've have to tell myself that the reality of it is that almost none of it is such a huge thing to stress out over because regardless of who shows or doesn't, what the weather is like or when things aren't perfect or if I trip; nothing takes away from the fact that I'm marrying FH.

I was really stuck on the guest list. It sucks that the people I consider VIPs won't be there but I've had to accept that if people wanted to be there they would. in the same line I've also come to terms with having a get together later on as being sufficient enough for my family. It's mostly their choice and I can't control what other people will do. All I can do is invite them and if they chose to show up its on them.