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June 2021

Things that tick me off.

Dj Tanner, on February 15, 2021 at 11:01 AM Posted in Planning 0 23

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Just a rant/list of things that I feel don’t make any sense.

-went into 2 different malls this week and strangers are crowded in the food courts all over the place eating, standing, yet outdoor weddings aren’t allowed to have any standing and have capacity restrictions.
-Arcades like Dave & Buster’s and Pool halls are able to remain open, yet my guests aren’t allowed to safely play socially distanced lawn games.
-Big events Like the music awards in New York and the Super Bowl was allowed to have big giant dance teams with very limited social distancing, yet capacity reduced outdoor weddings arent allowed to have safe socially distanced dancing.
- any other industry, if a business can’t provide you with what they’ve promised in your contract, you get a refund, yet with the wedding industry, they’re not only allowed to break their contracts but they also have the audacity to charge you more if you have to push out your date, or simply keep your money for services that they cannot provide or refused to provide.
-People who claim to be against weddings right now, yet have no problems going out to eat, walking around in the mall, go visit friends, and refuse to acknowledge that there are 30 person weddings could be as much of a risk as a 70 person wedding. As everyone says it only takes one person right.?

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Latest activity by Amanda, on February 15, 2021 at 8:23 PM

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Rebelle Fleur · on February 15, 2021 at 11:07 AM
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The more money and influence an industry or company has the more likely it is to be able to break/bend the rules. It’s unfortunate but it’s our sad reality. The wedding industry doesn’t have the same amount of power that Walmart/Target or NFL has.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 11:09 AM
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100% agreed, But with that said people are people, and the wedding industry feels more powerful than brides in my opinion and will lie to them in order to take money without providing them what Their contracts say that they’re supposed to provide.
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Katie · on February 15, 2021 at 11:34 AM
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Girl I am totally agreeing with you on all of this. It makes no sense at all
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 11:40 AM
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Yup!! Somehow someway, the science apparently says that mall food courts are a lot cleaner than outdoor small weddings with mostly family and close friends. lol
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Jessica · on February 15, 2021 at 11:41 AM
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Amen amen!! So freaking dumb!
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 11:45 AM
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YUUUPPPPPP! 100% and I know I’m no scientist, but I’m still dying to see the data that says mall food court’s that are serving buffet style Panda Express to a bunch of random dirty looking people , are much cleaner than my wedding caterer that will be serving a plated meal for my friends and family LOL
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Jessica · on February 15, 2021 at 11:50 AM
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You couldn’t have said that any better! I’m a bride but also a wedding planner and this year I lost nine weddings due to Covid restrictions in Delaware we’re only allowed to have 10 people for a wedding or a funeral or other social gathering thankfully my wedding is planned in Pennsylvania which is at 10% of the capacity limit for the venue. We are going to be at coatesville country club which their ballroom can seat 400 people so we are allowed to have 40 people which is perfect and exactly how many we were going to have to begin with thank goodness!
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Shirley · on February 15, 2021 at 11:53 AM
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Girl I'm with you. The rules are arbitrary and harmful. I have a friend who has been waiting nearly a year to have a funeral for her mother, while her town allowed political rallies and fundraisers. We have a right to be angry, and honestly at some point we should just ignore the rules.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 11:54 AM
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Yes, mine will be in Rhode Island in June. We actually have a subsection of mandates that specifically says things like “no mingling allowed “ “ no standing“. Outside mind you! I’m really glad that you are able to have the wedding that you want, and it’s so nice to talk to other brides that understand what I’m saying.
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Kimberly · on February 15, 2021 at 12:00 PM
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I don’t understand the people that say Covid is the reason they aren’t coming to our 35 guest wedding but go to church with 90 people every week.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 12:00 PM
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100%! Especially after seeing government officials attend protests in my state including the director of the department of health, months ago during the heart of the pandemic, it’s just a real big slap in the face. One of the protests in front of our state house had an estimated 10,000 people. Some were strangers hugging each other etc. not a peep was heard from it. Yet my wedding is somehow made out to be a death zone. I’m so sick and tired of people trying to make me feel like I’m doing something wrong.
It just makes me want to rage out and scream lol. I truly feel like our voices are not being heard, and I feel like the wedding industry needs to ante up and start putting their foot down too.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 12:03 PM
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Lol I mean at this point it’s pretty obvious that Covid is the top excuse for everything now. Even if it’s got nothing to do with Covid, just ‘blame it on Covid’ seems to be the answer for everything.
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SLY · on February 15, 2021 at 12:25 PM
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I agree!!!!
It's like: so you're telling me I can't have 3 people go wedding dress shopping with me because of Covid, yet I can go to a packed grocery store and have Jim Bob breathing down my neck in the checkout line?? Oh okay...lol.
I also agree that it's ridiculous that people are still having to postpone/cancel/redo their weddings because of guest limits, yet malls can be crowded, and sporting events are allowed to happen (ahem, Superbowl).
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Katie · on February 15, 2021 at 1:08 PM
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Absolutely agree. I have a cousin who thinks it's absolutely insane that we are still going forward with our wedding and keeps telling us how we need to postpone. But everytime I go on social media all I see is pictures of her at bars. 🙄Like really the hypocrisy
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 1:09 PM
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I know right! Not to mention, the people that say to postpone think it’s just a snap of the fingers and so easy. Not all of us have vendors that are willing to simply just take the hit and not charge for postponing. Such a slap in the face. I swear it’s got to be jealousy
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Katie · on February 15, 2021 at 1:20 PM
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Exactly. I've already explained once to everyone how we would lose a lot of money if we postpone, money we can't afford to just throw away.
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Melody · on February 15, 2021 at 2:21 PM
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Some "fun" things I experienced near the beginning of our wedding planning process because of COVID that super make no sense:
1. One venue would book our event and said it could definitely happen and there wouldn't be any issues unless the state ordered a full lockdown at that time. The venue is outside and my county being in the most restricted tier would have allowed 75 people. However, they wouldn't do a venue tour with just FH, me, and the venue coordinator because that was "too high risk". We would just have to book the venue without ever getting to tour it. No thanks.
2. Multiple venues in the area require a minimum number of guests to book them. Current regulations won't even allow that minimum number of people to gather, but the venues are sticking to their guns about having at least that many people in attendance. If you can't have that many guests because of state/local restrictions, you would still have to pay for those "extra guests" that wouldn't actually be there. I mean... just, what?
3. As previously mentioned by others... so many venues will take your deposit but won't refund it if they (the venue) have to cancel your event because COVID. Yo..... not cool. Not cool at all.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 2:29 PM
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OMG yes! 100% on all of this! Especially the part about the venue minimum guest counts!!!!!
They can break their contracts left and right And depending on how well known and connected your venue is, judges will simply throw it out if you take them to court I’m sure.
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Amanda · on February 15, 2021 at 6:21 PM
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Girl I am not too far from you in MA, and I agree with all of this!
My venue broke my contract last week and told me if I postpone my wedding now they’ll keep my deposit and I’ll have to pay another. And the only way I’ll get it back is if capacity restrictions are still in place in June! They also want my dad to wear a mask walking me down the aisle OUTSIDE. Who is paying for pictures like that?! Not me lol
I find that so many people play both sides of the fence, people are afraid to attend my wedding but like you said are out to eat and everywhere else (even traveling) I’m so over it!
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on February 15, 2021 at 7:25 PM
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I really wish all of us brides could just gather together wearing our wedding dresses in protest and start demanding answers LOL. And I agree about the whole picture thing. We don’t have a photographer, but instead we got a videographer/cinematographer. My fiancé thinks we should get a second shooter as suggested by our vendor, but if we can’t have dancing, why bother? So they can just film footage of people sitting down wearing masks all night?? At this point they won’t even let me cut my own freaking cake. Meanwhile vendors and venues just keep lying and leading brides on. It’s all ridiculous.
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