Just think about what you want for yourself and know that it is for you and your new husband don't let anyone else make the decision for you and then you will have regret if things don't turn out the way that you anticipate them to you make day-to-day decisions in your everyday life and you don't ask anyone else's opinion so just think for yourself if you want a big elaborate wedding to pay all that money too people please that's your choice but at the end of the day make sure it's a decision you can live with if someone else makes it for you and the real life is the next day...