Thinking About Implants

This is a very personal decision that no one else is going to be able to help you with, especially not a group of strangers. My personal opinion is no, you shouldn't get implants specifically for your wedding. If this is an insecurity that affects you in your day to day life, maybe consider it, but not for a one day event.

This is totally up to you; we don’t know you and can’t tell you what to do...but I would ask yourself... is this risk of surgery really worth it for one day?? Is this something you truly want for the rest of your life? Work on loving yourself because you should be proud of your body

That would be your decision but only get implants because that is something you want not just for one day. You are going to look beautiful regardless. Also, those are expensive and must be kept up from what I know. I know it is about how you feel but I promise no one is going to focus on your bust. I would look at maybe something you can add to the dress for accentuation if that is your concern.

Hi Don, as a smaller chested lady myself, I understand the desire to want to be bigger. When I was a teenager I would get heavily padded bras to make myself feel more sexy and feminine. About 5 years ago I ditched padded bras all together. And today because of my smaller cup size I go braless almost exclusively. You can be a beautiful, sexy woman no matter what size you are. There is a lot of freedom in small sizes; braless, plunging neck lines, bustiers, cute bralets as tops.
I would venture to say that every woman goes through this struggle with her breast size. It is a quintessential part of female development. Some times we get more sometimes we get less, but nothing can change how much of a woman you
are.

Girl, none of us can tell you what to do. There’s a lot of negatives and risks that go into a major surgery like that - cost, side effects, illnesses, recovery, adjustment, (maybe you care about this and it really doesn’t matter, but is worth mentioning) judgement from other people for having done it...the list goes on. I would talk to your physician and a plastic surgeon before deciding. And your insurance too. And also, your SO! While it is absolutely your body and your choice, they may be strongly against it. I would consider therapy for self love before something as drastic as surgery.

I understand how you feel but I will tell you that smaller chested women can rock some gorgeous styles that others can’t. I’m sure you will be beautiful no matter what but only you can make this choice.

Hey honey you'll have to make that decision for yourself. It's your body and you must do what you need to do so that you feel comfortable in your own skin. I'm sure you'll do your research but remember to think about the pain and the aftermath. Like what would your timeline be for that? And will there be any limitations afterwards? How will it affect your mood, your honeymoon or just the whole planning process itself...just some things to consider. Have you thought about making a second post asking other women about their process? It may be helpful to get some actual feedback.
If you do decide to take this journey, I wish you nothing but a safe and speedy recovery. If not, remember that your future husband or wife asked you to marry him/her at your current state, the person you are right at this moment. He/she loves you just the way you are! Good luck and keep us posted!

I have implants and I will be the first to tell you that all they did was create a new set of issues. Clothes don't fit right, people assume I am trying to show them off, I get talked to at work for any type of cleavage (I am extremely modest so this irritates me), and the list goes on. Also, The recovery is not quick and painless. In fact, it takes awhile for the implant to fully settle into place. Before making a decision, I would talk to people who have them. Gauge the recovery and the pros and cons. And don't make any quick decisions based off you emotion right now.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Caytlyn, I am insecure, I'm a woman and I want a femmine shape!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Samantha, I just feel so insecure!!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Kristen, I'll think on it carefully!!

View Quoted Comment Samantha, I LOVE YOU, thank you, my spirits have been lifted so much from your response, would you PLEASE share your ideas with me about dressing with bustiers, and cute bralets as tops, I had a difficult early life, when I was 12 I asked my mom if she would take me to buy a dress to wear to school, I would be hit, and told that boys don't wear dresses, and when I said I wasn't a boy, I would be hit again, when I was 13 I would cry myself to sleep at night because I couldn't start learning how to do makeup, and get my first training bra, IT HURT SO BAD, I think this is why i'm so insecure about my cup size, THANK YOU FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT!!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

View Quoted Comment Alejandra,
Thank you for responding, t
your concern and kindness, I will think about consequence's before deciding.

View Quoted Comment Cyndy, thank you for responding, I know it's a huge decision, I'll think about it a bit!!!

View Quoted Comment Michelle,
Thank you for your response, kindness, and your clear thinking, I hadn't thought about asking other ladies about their experiences with implants, I've just been so obsessed with my small boobs since I've had them, that a man wouldn't want me unless they were bigger!!!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jen,
You give me a lot to consider, I think because I wanted a small implant ( I assume 250CC is a small implant ) that it would be a simple procedure! having nice breasts, is something I dreamed about since I was a young girl ( cruely , I was born into the wrong body, I had to fight hard to become a female outwardly ) and I didn't believe a man would want me without them, THANK YOU SO MUCH!

View Quoted Comment I often wear bralets (not transparent ones) under a loose button down shirt or oversized sweater. Even a dress that might be too revealing to wear without a bra. For a playful street wear look I'll wear one with some overalls during the summer. Bustiers or tube tops are suited to smaller chests because they don't require as much structure to hold everything in place and you won't need a bra. Plunging necklines are flattering because they reveal the hint of breast without over exposure. I prefer to allude to sexiness in my style choices; i.e. revealing on top covered below and vice versa. All this being said women should always wear what they feel beautiful in regardless of anyone's opinion.
I would suggest that you order a bunch of clothing online (free returns only) stuff you never thought you'd wear and narrow down your taste. Be critical, if something doesn't make you love it then move on. Soon you will cultivate your own style. A look that is uniquely you and will highlight the natural beauty of your body. ( Would love to see you in your dress btw). On a personal note, please know there are many out there who will always judge, but there are truer people who will see you for who you are. You do not owe society a perfect beach body, you owe yourself, love and acceptance.

Don,


Remember that your fiance loves you for YOU. You're beautiful and will be a beautiful bride inside and out no matter what. ❤That said- like Jennifer, I have implants and here is what I can tell you:
My first thought is if you're still undergoing changes this is likely not going to be recommended. My doctor asked if I was likely to fluctuate in WEIGHT because even that could affect the results and look. I do not mean to discourage you AT ALL but that is the information I was given and you will need to consider. If it's possible your breasts will change by a whole cup size on their own it is probably not best to introduce anything extra. Growth will affect the shape, settling, and healing. However, I am not a doctor.
250 CC may seem small but the healing time will be about the same same. My doctor let me know that it actually takes a FULL YEAR for your body to 100% recover internally and he recommends no push up bras for that full year. As for the recovery you are aware of.. it varies. I have 350CC. You wear a special bandeau bra for weeks (about 3 months for me) and one breast settled more than the other so I spent weeks wearing a one sided band, too. You can only wear a special provided bra and have to sleep on your back. You do 30-40 minutes of breast "massages" for up to 6 months and they aren't fun. Plus squishing/putting pressure on your implants (laying on the floor for me.) You also have scars. My point is that it can be long, difficult, and frustrating. Sleeping was (and honestly still is 6 months out) an issue for me.
However, in an effort not to sound negative because I don't mean to: do I regret it? Absolutely not. I would do it all over again (minus the part where I didn't fake enough pain meds after surgery 😂). I struggled with self confidence issues related to my breasts for over ten years, though. I had ample time to consider my options and think it over. It's a surgery and like any surgery it has risks. I was sure I liked the work of the doctor I chose and I values his professional opinion. I listened and adjusted the CC I chose based on his advice and had I not I may not have been happy with my results. I was TERRIFIED that I would come out hating my results and end up hating my body forever. It's an honest and serious risk to consider. I had to look at the results of many patients and ask myself: if this is my end result, am I okay with that? I went through with it and 6 months later I am happier every day. I have severe self esteem and self confidence issues and this didn't fix that, AT ALL. However, I am so much happier with that aspect of my body and it is a relief.
Ultimately, I'd discuss this with your PCP (any any doctor involved in your transition.) If they seem agreeable/positive I would then talk to a few plastic surgeons (especially ones with experience with trans patients if possible.) Really consider your options, pros, cons, and even your goals and desires.
Lastly, I hope you are happy, whatever you decide!! As stated, you'll be a lovely bride. Do what makes you happy and enjoy your wedding!! 😊❤

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much, you've given me much to think about, I'll consider everything you've noted!

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! Best of luck with planning and deciding! 😊