Thinking of a best man, but he's so much taller than me.

Who gives a eff who's taller? Your best man should be the person you're closest to. Height does not and should not matter.

You shouldn't choose your best man based on height, or anyone in your wedding party for that matter. They should be chosen because of who they are, and what they mean in your life.

For reference, I'm 5'0". My fiance is 6'2". His brother, who will be a groomsman in the wedding, is 6'4". We have a groomsman that is 5'6". Height doesn't matter. These people are important in our life, and therefore will be part of the wedding party.

Alright thanks everyone. I was thinking that as well. I was just worried about how the pictures will come out and stuff like that.

A best man is someone who you feel is close to you and you want standing next to you no matter their height, weight, race. If he is that important to you it shouldn't matter. At my wedding all the women are going to be 5'2" and under and all the men will be 6 ft and over. that stuff doesn't matter.

My fiancé is 5'8" and his best man (best friend since 1st grade) is over 6". Who cares? All eyes are gonna be on you and the bride, not the wedding party.

Seriously? The pictures are supposed to be a record of an important day in your life. Don't diminish the day--by leaving out someone close to you--just for better pictures.

I'm only 5'3" and 99% of the grooms are taller than I am and probably 50% of the brides are taller than I am. I am in all of their ceremony pics -- usually looking up at them!

Oh come on.

Height shouldn't matter. I'm only 5'0" and everyone in my BP was taller than me. No one is going to pay attention to the height difference between you and your BM, all anyone is going to really notice is you and your FW.

I would not base your choices on their height. In the end, no one will care who is taller than who. Your decision you be made on who has been there for you in life, who truly is your "best man". Not how tall he is.

HAH! I'm the shortest of my bridesmaids. FH is the shortest of his groomsmen. We own it I suggest you do too! Height doesn't matter!

I'm 5'0". Everyone is taller than me...in every situation. It's just how it is.

I would NOT worry about what pictures will look like just because of a height difference. I know people who make sure that they have even sides, height is arranged, just because they want their pics to be perfect. Your pics will be perfect as long as everyone you want in them is in them. We have uneven sides, and one of my girls is not going to wear a dress like the rest of my BM are. I could care less that this may "throw off" the "typical" look of pictures. These are my best friends, and I am just happy they all will be with me. I would not worry about his height. If you are close to him and feel he should be your BM then do it. No one is going to care that he is so much taller.

My FH is 6'4" He was a best man in his best friend's wedding (who is about 6 inches shorter than him). FH towered over ALL of the groomsmen. Know what mattered? That no one gave two shits about it because all of them were close friends and they all loved and respected one another and weren't there to look nice. They were there to celebrate in the bride and groom's special day.

OP, it sounds like you have major insecurities about your height. You need to address that, not try to find shorter friends.

Good fucking luck finding someone shorter than 5'4"- the average size for a man is 5'8".

Get over it- the person next to you is supposed to be a good friend who supports you.

Considering you're more concerned about how much taller he is then you- I think he's probably got better friends than you.

Yes, @JoRocka!

Lol WHO CARES! like everyone said, pick who you are closest too. If you are just looking for good photos, I would hire a model.

CK - that looks ridiculous! I can't believe you didn't try harder to find someone shorter. *eye roll*

(Frickin' gorgeous, BTW)

I want to thank everyone for taking their time to give their opinions and reply back to me. I just want to share that I am not a shallow person who only cares about himself. I was a little shocked at some of the comments, but when I went back to read what I wrote I can understand why some you of would think that. The truth is I am more concerned with making my fiancee and my family feel satisfied. Hopefully you all will understand if you continue to read.

It has to do with culture and/or how my family thinks. Sometimes when there's a clash in the way people think we tend to just assume, oh just because someone doesn't think like me they are heartless. When the truth is that isn't always the case. Some of my family members didn't even get married in the states. They got married in a different country where the people who stood by their sides were not even someone they were close with. They were merely selected just to fill their roles. That is probably why some of my family members might think like that. They don't think of groomsmen and best man like the way some of us who were born here would think.

When I first announced my engagement one of the first things my family and my fiancee's family spoke of was who would be standing by our sides. When my 5'11 cousin name was thrown out, all the older people in my family and my fiancee's side mentioned about the height differences and how it might look off. Even my own fiancee said it. My 5'11 cousin even agreed. Once again, it's not because they are heartless human beings. It's because of what they are accustomed to seeing. I think for them it didn't really matter who was standing by my side, because they think of it more of just me celebrating my special day with everyone.

When I posted my question I knew what everyone was going to say. And yes like one of the person who posted above, I was kind of insecure. I admit it...but the main reason behind my insecurity was because of the things my family have said. I knew that height didn't matter. The truth was I posted my question because I wanted people to just tell me it's alright. I knew it's alright I just wanted to read about what people have to say about why it's fine, especially the ones who could relate with the height differences. I just wanted to feel at ease. I was seeking comfort. At the end of the day my family and her family won't care about the height differences anyways.

Thanks again everyone!