This will be long. Major issues with moh 4 days before Bridal Shower

I’m not sure how to even start this, Please tell me if I’m in the wrong…


So let me preference this by saying my MOH and I have a Bridesman in my wedding along with a few bridesmaids. My Bridal Shower was supposed to be a surprise. A few weeks ago there was so much Drama between my Bridal Party I had to get involved and I found out everything. My one bridesmaid has been doing all the work because my MOH only wanted to do games and prizes. MOH and Bridal party can make decisions apparently they all said idc so my one bridesmaid steps up and makes the decisions because they can’t make any with out her saying yes or no or whatever. So my MOH at the time felt like my one Bridesmaid was trying to be MOH when really she was just doing the job she was assigned to do like Decor. And Decor touches on every part of Bridal shower. For instance Cupcake toppers they got into a argument over cupcake toppers. Come to find out my Bridesman said about me and my fiancé “This wedding changed so much who knows they’ll actually get married” when I found that out I was so hurt, but he doesn’t know I know he said that. My wedding has changed “so much” meaning location because I wanted an outside wedding and my MOH and Bridesman complained about it being outside to the point that I had to change location. My weddings in September I’m in PA they said it would be to hot…. PA in September at 3pm… it’s not hot it’s like 60°-70°….I have been completely fair this whole time they’ve been planning my shower I have been chill and haven’t demanded anything.
Fast forward to last night… the reason for this. So a few months ago I had told my MOH that my dad wants to come to my shower, but my mom and I both said no because it’s a women’s only shower…
My MOH had messaged me and said that her dad wants to come to my shower. I politely said no that it’s a women’s only shower and I don’t find it fair that he would be coming when none of the other dads would be coming, meaning my dad and my fiancé dad. So it’s not right for her dad to be there. Well she blew up and called me rude. She said that her mom and dad have plans after my shower, and she said now her moms not coming to my shower or wedding and she’s not helping cook for my wedding. And so when I told her it was a women’s only party she texted my Bridesman and then he messaged me and said he was leaving my shower and not staying and I asked why he said because it’s a women’s only shower. I said he’s the obvious exception since he’s in the wedding on mh behalf. Then my MOH said that I felt like a stranger to her and that she’s standing next to and supporting a stranger. Keep in mind this is someone I knew since birth. And she had a birthday party this past weekend for her kid my fiancé came over when the party was soon over. She texted me that I was being rude to say no to having her dad come and then she said about how my fiancé showed up uninvited. I was like my fiancé’s apart of me where ever I go he’s invited it’s a kids birthday party. He ate no food he helped cleaned up. There really shouldn’t of been an issue…. I’m sure I’m missing things but this is already so long. Point being am I in the wrong for asking her to not have her dad come. If the dads were coming then I wouldn’t care. But I specifically said before about it being a women’s only shower. Ohhhh before I forget she got snippy to me she said “I forgot it’s all about Courtney” I’m the type of person I don’t ask for attention I’m very laid back and the last time I had something all about me was my 15th birthday party. I’m 28 now, I don’t get party or things centered around me. So when she said that I got smart back and said it is my bridal shower it is about me and what I want. I didn’t ask or demand things but I’m this situation I’m asking for your dad not to come. I also found out that she’s planning on bringing her daughter but she doesn’t know I know that. And it’s like I told my sister not to bring her kids and her my MOH is trying to bring hers. Honestly my Bridal shower is ruined I’m not even looking forward to it. Sorry for this long rant. I just really want outsiders opinions. Thank you ♥️