Hi lovelies,
I stumbled upon this forum and thought you all seemed so insightful, so wanted to put out my own question I've been wrestling with. (Regardless of what my new profile says - I (26F) am not engaged, and don't have any set wedding date... hence my question here LOL)
I met my current boyfriend (26M) nearly 2 years ago, and at the time we were fairly casual but knew this was different for both of us, having both gone through two previously horrible breakups when we were younger. Marriage was never in our talks, we were still very cynical about love in general, but now at this point in our relationship (very openly in love, best friends, and committed as a partnership - saying ILY was a huge leap 5 months in, and we're thankful we did so), we've experienced many life changes and supported one another through them all. Many relationships I have witnessed do not make it through what we have. I'll spare the details, but we are confident we have established great conflict resolution and perseverance.
The last few months we've had a LDR and always planned we'd come back together in the same city. We've talked seriously about moving in after he establishes a dream job which recently has become more of a possibility (hiring processes suck). My parents, old fashioned 60-somethings, are disappointed thinking we'd move in, but I have expressed how marriage has not seriously been in our discussions.
Now, looking back at all we've been through, I'd consider it. Just scared to admit that fully, I think. BF has hinted at it, sometimes we joke about it and about others who rush into marriage, but I've never brought it up as a solid "should we consider that?" talk. We are the type who cannot comprehend an entire lifetime, but we also have never pictured ourselves without the other.
Have you ever thought you'd NEVER get married, and then meeting someone changes your perspective? How do you truly decide? Decide to stay together, but not get married perhaps? If I think I would want it, do I bring it up first? Wait for him?