Thoughts on destination bachelorette?

I'm currently planning on doing a destination bachelorette. I would just check with your girls to see if it's something they could swing or not and decide based on that. That's what I did. I also decided if I did a destination I would just invite my bridal party to cut down on people who would need to be able to afford it whereas if I had done like a night out somewhere near where I live I would have invited a few more people

I've been on destination bachelorette parties and ones that are local. It all depends on what's going on in my life at the time to determine if I can go away. For example, next year I'm in a friends wedding and it's been discussed about going away. Since I have my own wedding in February, I have already told them they are welcome to go without me but I won't be able to travel. A few years ago I went on a weekend cruise for a friends bachelorette party because I was able to afford it and take the time off work. Point is, you're just going to have to ask what everyone is able or willing to do. If all your friends are all over the country anyway, they would probably need to travel either way and may rather go somewhere different than wherever you live.

I went to Palm Springs, CA. I live in Colorado. Out of my 9 bridesmaids, 6 made it to my bachelorette party - the 3 that couldn't go couldn't afford to fly from WI, SD, or CO which was totally fine and I understood. Out of the 6 that went, one flew from San Francisco, one drove from Phoenix, 3 drove from San Diego, and 1 drove from LA. So they all had to "travel" the longest being a 7 hour drive or the 1 hour flight. But my MOH gave them 9 months notice & planned cheaper things, then I contributed to the hotel, paid for an entire dinner & a lot of groceries, paid for drinks each night, and brought favors for the girls. So I think it just depends on what the girl's budgets are. I was in 1 other wedding and flew to San Diego for the bachelorette so all in all the trip cost me $700 with hotel, flight, car rental & food/drinks.

I'm not a fan. I think it's a huge ask especially for people that are already having to travel for the wedding.

I'll be doing a destination bach party. But only because my grandparents are letting us use their timeshare so lodging is free. I have three maids who would have had to travel anyway and this way they'll be flying into a larger airport, so hopefully it'll be cheaper for them.

I think this is another "know your crowd" kind of thing. If I were you, I would research the costs for what I wanted to do (weekend away), and then talk to your ladies about it. If they like the idea, and can afford to do that, then book it!! If not, maybe you can all brainstorm and come up with something that is more affordable for everyone.

A destination bachelorette can be a lot of fun! I planned one in Mexico (per the brides request) for a wedding that I was a maid of honor in. To be completely honest, it was VERY expensive and very difficult to plan. Organizing everyones orders for alcohol they wanted at the house, ordering groceries, finding a house in a safe location, making sure everyone was safe during the trip, even flying with decorations and games over seas was a lot harder to coordinate and execute. The cost ended up being almost $1000 per person. It's always more expensive than you anticipate, especially if some people need to get their passports. I would advise against doing one abroad and look for fun places you've never been to in the US instead.