Thoughts on Weekend Trips for Bach Parties?

Some people do weekend getaways, while others do an evening out in the local town! I don't think either one is wrong or better than the other by any means - it totally depends on the budget of those hosting and availability of people attending (time off work, other obligations, etc). I attended a weekend getaway for my sister's bachelorette party, and I also attended a night out in a local larger city for a friend's bachelorette party. Both were super fun!

As long as everyone agrees to do a long trip, I think there’s no problem with a long trip!
It becomes annoying when brides or MOHs expect that this is acceptable and anyone who disagrees is a bad friend.

Depends on what you want to do & what everyone can afford. I’m keeping it simple. I don’t drink so bar hopping doesn’t really appeal to me. We’re already spending a lot on our wedding so going out of town would be another added expense. Going to a place in north Scottsdale (Phoenix area) to go make candles then go have dinner while they’re cooling. While we’re having dessert, have a lingerie party. Pick up our candles & be home by 9!

I think it depends on the group. For example my fiancé was in a wedding a while ago and they wanted to go to Mexico for a weekend and knowing who they all were I was not cool with that. But for other people that might be fine! Or like for us we are doing a co bach trip but including couples. I think whatever makes you and your friends happy and able to have fun is perfect. It could be anything!

Just depends on the group. We're doing a weekend thing. From Friday evening to Sunday afternoon. We're staying at my friends house in Reno. I don't think it's extra. Just depends on your crowd.

Agree with others -- it all depends on your group!

We are going away for the weekend for my bachelorette and it's honestly one of the things I'm looking forward to the most! We are going all out - probably extremely "extra", but for my crowd, that's totally normal.

My BP very badly wanted to take me away for a weekend, but I *worked* weekends, and couldn't personally afford to take the time away from work.

It really depends on your crowd.

I do find them a bit extra... but if you can.... extra isn't *bad*.

I'll be honest, I think it's extra and its a trend that needs to go. Many brides expect it now, and it puts bridesmaids in an awful position. In order to support my friend for her wedding, I have to spend $600 on a weekend with people I barely know in a destination I didn't chose? Pass.


We need to go back to the bachelorette party being one nice night with your gals, maybe a dinner, drinks, and some dancing or a laid back night at a friend's home.

Of all the bridesmaid fights that ruin friendship, I find that the mandatory weekend trip is one of the most frequent.

So in my circles they’ve become the norm I think mostly because bridal parties are located across the country. My only local bridesmaid was my husband’s sister, who was an obligation ask and who didn’t and doesn’t want to spend time with me. So a local night out wasn’t in the cards.


My MOH asked if I wanted a separate destination bach, but since I had a short engagement and destination wedding, I thought it would be most considerate to combine the bachelorette with the wedding. She polled the other members of the BP and they all indicated they’d prefer to fly down to the wedding location a day earlier than do a separate weekend away.
My bach was the Thursday before my Friday wedding. To be honest, I also really wanted a breakfast/brunch on Friday in addition to the Thursday activities. All of my friends/married bridesmaids had both destination weddings and minimum three-day, two night destination bach trips (my MOH demanded four days, three nights for herself), but for some reason the Friday request was ignored and never discussed as to why it didn’t happen. I didn’t want to appear ungrateful or unappreciative or petty, so I never brought it up or asked why my event was only one day when I spent a lot more time and money on my friends’ events. It did make me a little sad though!

That should say before my SATURDAY wedding!

Definitely depends on what your friends want to do and what they can afford. My daughter is having a long weekend away at a beach in Florida. We rented a big house and everyone is flying down for Thursday til Sunday. Everyone had the option to not go if they couldn’t afford but everyone was super excited about it. So what feels right for you and your bridesmaids! Enjoy!

I believe I'm "extra" because I'm getting a bach weekend in Florida for my birthday and a bach party the night before my wedding with more of my guests who can participate. I think it depends on your group and what everyone is okay with. Extra doesn't always mean bad.

I think everything goes. One of my bds had a 5 day trip to DR. I want to just have karaoke night or have dinner and lots of drinks with my girls.

Not a fan of the over the top weekend parties that wedding tv implies that everyone and their cousin thinks is normal. Personally I would prefer a one evening for just a few hours without everyone going broke good time. I love the the ladies that I plan to choose as bridesmaids but that is way.too.much.

In our social circles, bachelorette parties are not a thing so I don't expect one. And with everyone living scattered across the country, it's not feasible anyway.

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I agree completely. There is so much featured on wedding tv that brides think is common but really isn't and they expect it. There is nothing wrong with keeping things simple how they used to be with no expectations.

If you have the budget, why not? I am having my bachelorette next month in Orlando, FL. Luckily, most of the guests attending live in FL so they don't have to pay extra to attend. My girls rent out an Airbnb place for the party.

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Agreed! If it's in yours and your bridesmaids budget and it's something you want to do, who wouldn't?!

As others have said it really depends on the group. For me, I personally have nothing against weekend long Bach parties, they sound fun and amazing, but they are pricey. I just had a sleepover for my bachelorette party, and that was a lot of good fun.

View Quoted Comment Agree 💯 percent.

I think it's super extra and I would personally turn it down. IT doesn't mean I don't love you as a the bride, but it's just not my thing to spend money on a vacation I didn't choose and take that time away from work and my family.