Throwing my fiance a surprise party, his bf invited the Ex!

No, Not at all! I'd be so p-ed off! Have you talked to your fiance's bm? I would if you haven't and let him know that you don't think it'd be a good idea for her to show up. Good luck!

What?! No, you are not overreacting! What was he thinking??!!

I've talked to him, but the damage is done. He's already invited her and she's already RSVPd. She will definitely be there. Uggghhhh.

I mean, I'm not really worried about him, after all, I'm the one with the ring. I just don't want her to get any ideas.

Just because she RSVP'd doesn't mean nothing...You have the power of veto on your side. Tell her there was a miscommunication and she wasn't supposed to be on the guest list. I know if my FH ex showed up to something of ours I would be livid!

@yadayada IDK. I guess that are still old friends. But I agree, there should be a certain amount of respect me!

@J.J. I know, that's what I want to do, but I don't want to come off petty. I mean after all, he did propose to me, not her. I would bring it up to him, but its a surprise party and he has no clue about it. What type of girl shows up at an Ex's party?

Does she still have feelings for him, or is this a situation where they are friendly and both have moved on? If she is a platonic friend, you probably don't have anything to worry about. My husband is still friends with his first girlfriend from high school. They broke up years ago and stayed friends, she is married and very nice and I am not jealous of her at all. In fact she was a guest at our wedding.

That said.... if there is still any kind of drama or feelings between them then you might have to veto the invite. Or at least that is what I would do, haha.

I sooooo understand that you're upset.

I would be too and even though you are the one with the ring she just doesn't need to be there. I agree with J.J you do have final say. Miscommunication it was. His BF should have known better but then again you know how men are.

Uggh! what was he thinking? and what is SHE thinking? i mean honestly i wouldn't go to a surprise party thrown by my ex's fiance!

@hisbride2be You hit it right on the nail, men are so dumb! There relationship ended years before I even entered the picture. But for him to tell the story, she is "the one that got away". His first real love. I don't think there are any feelings there now. She's moved on, is married and has 2 kids now. But still, you never know what feelings will spark when they see each other.

I'm sorry but his bf is a jacka**. How dumb can you be and no you are not over-reacting. Hell you're a woman and you know how women think. She may very well not have any feelings for him but I know for damn sure she wants to get a better look at you!

@Ladylee, I wouldn't go either, unless I had ulterior motive!....

@Libragurl LOL. Yea, you know how women are. I just gotta my boobs are sitting high, lip gloss is poppin, eye lashes are fierce, and hair weave on point!!!! LOL ;P

LOL! Is there a way you can have the friend tell her that it was a mistake, you wouldn't feel comfortable having her there? Do you know if she and you FI still talk?

Ha! That's how to do it girlfriend!

The only link I have to her is through the bm and my fi. They all grew up around each other and I am from another state....I'm the new comer to the group LOL. I think I'm just gonna take my chances. I don't want to dis-invite her and look insecure. I guess I'll just have to take the high road and pray that she doesn't show up or that my fi won't really pay her any mind.

My FH is on friendly terms with a few of his exes. I don't have a problem with it. Actually, I think they are rather nice.

@Jessy D. I guess she's nice. But you never know about females. They could be smiling in your face, meanwhile plotting to steal your man behind your back, and I basically set up the perfect setting! LOL.

I think it all depends on the whole situation with the ex. He definitely should have asked you before doing that, how stupid of him! But he is a man. I'd tell him to uninvite her! But if she ends up coming make sure you look super sexy that day!!!!!!! And flaunt that engagement ring :o)

If your FH is uncomfortable with this at the party and tells you or expresses that in any way jst tell him that you enlisted the help from his BF and he invited her NOT you. Honestly, his bf tells people that she 'was the one that got away' and then invites her, I would have some word with that 'bf'.