Thursday night wedding

Its a know your crowd thing for sure!
We are getting married on a Thursday.
A lot of our guests work on weekendsAnd for the ones that don’t you made sure that they knew it was on a Thursday while in advanced. Unlike most we’ve already gotten back over half of our RSVPs and they aren’t due until May 1 and so far we don’t have any regrets. I think it’s because the people that do work on a Thursday I’ve already gotten the day off and advanced type of thing, and that day is set for my wedding for them. We are having roughly 90 people at our wedding. Our thing was if people couldn’t make it on a Thursday, we were totally fine with that. And especially now with the whole Covid thing, I’m even more glad that I don’t have to compete with Saturday rescheduled events from 2020. Having our wedding on Thursday honestly worked out the best for us and many of our guests plan on taking the Friday off too and having a long weekend. It’s also saving us about 15 to 20 K by having it on a Thursday.

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I would say that it depends on if you have a lot of out if town guests. If you do then I wouldn't recommend having a Thursday wedding because some people might not be able to get off the Thursday before Labor Day. I think I would talk to must have guests to see how they feel about it as well.

I agree with pp about this depending completely on who your guests are and what their circumstances are. Are they mostly local or will a number of them have to travel? My only concern is that anyone who isn't local will have to take at least two days off prior to a three-day weekend. Depending on the careers of your friends and family that might be no big deal or a substantial hardship -- only you can evaluate based on what you know about people. I'd also think about how many guests potentially have school aged kids and if school will be in session. If they have to travel are they going to have to pull their kids out of school, even if the kids aren't invited to the wedding? Finally, as pp mentioned, you need to be prepared to graciously accept that fact that some guests may decline because of the less-than-traditional scheduling. Some of the worst advice I see on this site is people who say, "If they love you, they'll make anything work!" Friends and family can love you to the moon and back, but if they can't make the logistics/finances/etc. work, they aren't going to attend, so you need to be prepared for that. I was a guest at an extremely inconvenient DW. Honestly, I was not planning on attending, but the bride and her mother threw such a fit that they guilted me into going. It's been 3-4 years and I'm still resentful about how they treated me. Just because an option is the couple's preference/saves them a ton of money/whatever does not mean it will work for guests, so be prepared for that. Good luck! This can be a really tough call.

I likely wouldn’t attend a Thursday wedding. If I did I would take Friday off work and probably have to leave early Thursday. I’d have to be super close with the person to do that.

Definitely depends on your guest list. If everyone is local and getting extra time off work on a holiday weekend isn't a big deal, go for it.

In general mid-week weddings should be avoided if guests have to travel (unless its a complete vacation/destination wedding and everyone is flying to a resort for a week), and you should consider the occupations your guests work in because some have more flexibility than others. If you are planning anything close to a holiday weekend, I would give your guests ample notice so they can plan their time off accordingly.

Unless the wedding was super close by, I probably would not attend a Thursday wedding. Also, with it being a holiday weekend, most people will be off work on Monday, so they might have travel plans from Friday - Monday.

View Quoted Comment No out of town guest but def a good idea to see how some must haves feel!! Thank you!!

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I agree with this. If it were me, I'd decline a Thursday wedding unless it was family and/or the location was near me. A lot of people plan ahead for holiday weekends, especially Labor Day, so just be prepared for some guests to decline if you choose that weekend! Also, if it's an adult only wedding, some guests may not be able to take that time off for your wedding AND find child care.

We are having a Thursday night wedding, starting at 6:00pm. We’ve also attended one Thursday night wedding who had a great turnout. As others have said, it’s a no your crowd thing. If they truly want to be there, they will be, regardless of the day. We are anticipating a good turn out based off the feedback when we sent out our new date cards. Good luck!

You say no out of town guests. That means a lot of people who still have saved vacation time since July 1 will have an available couple of hours Thurs , and can attend whether or not they work Friday. And still keep plans regularly made for Labor Day, which are often annual family things.
You should have great attendance.

View Quoted Comment Cool to see another Thursday bride on here! My fiancé and I initially got the idea because we had attended a Thursday wedding and it was actually really great it was a big turn out! When we went to look at our venue and we saw the Thursday price that’s when we were 100% set on Thursday! Our Thursday date also has significant meaning for us, but that certainly wasn’t the main factor in our decision it just sort of worked out that way which was cool. We’ve already gotten in over half of our rsvps so far and there aren’t any regrets as of yet. I feel like if we had it on a Saturday, we may have not gotten in such a prompt response from people and I actually feel like more would’ve declined. There’s so many 2020 rescheduled events right now and I’m just glad we don’t have to compete with any of those. And I 100% agree with you on if they want to be there they will be there and if some can’t, then they can’t just like any other Saturday wedding.

I think if it's in the late evening enough then it's ok. i would probably leave early though as a guest

Do it! We’re doing a Thursday night wedding because it’s saving us almost $5000. I was worried about all of our guests showing up, but the most important people will be there.

We just locked into a Thursday wedding. It took me some time to be okay with it, but it's saving us $5,000 Our wedding is in the summer so I think that will help guest be okay with a Thursday wedding.

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EXACTLY same boat!

I think it's OK as long as you've run it by the people you absolutely want to be there. We're inviting 65 people to our Thursday wedding. During our search we found that most venues enforced a food&beverage/guest minimum of 100-150+ so we were kinda locked into a weekday for our small wedding. It took a while for me to not worry so much about what people would think about having a wedding on a Thursday. At the end of the day all my VIPs were excited and if some people can't come, that's OK.

I am getting married on a Wednesday (to the in-laws dismay) but its what we wanted! Plus we figure we can leave a have a long weekend for our little honeymoon!