Tired of being a "covid bride"

I definitely get it! My husband and I had a minimony in october but most of our guests didn't wear masks (it was only 35total). Our big wedding was scheduled for March 2021 but our venue cancelled on us so its now scheduled for October 2021. I feel like at this point I am just ready to get it over with and for it to come and go. I tell my husband all the time, if I would've wore my big dress to the minimony then I would just cancel the big wedding. But I have my dress as well as my bridesmaids so I don't want them to waste their money.

I can completely relate! We had to postpone our 2020 wedding to 2021, and have now decided to postpone again to 2022 in the hopes that we will be able to have a “normal” wedding. I’ve been so stressed and so frustrated, it has really killed the excitement I initially had. That is actually one of the reasons I just joined wedding wire. When we decided to postpone again, I needed something to keep my spirits up and get me excited again. I was hoping this site would help with that! We thought about moving forward with our date this year, but once FH and I sat down and thought about it we realized we had already postponed once, and having to wait that extra year would have all been for nothing if we still had to have a “covid wedding”. So we decided to wait another year to (hopefully) have the fun restriction-free wedding we really want. Definitely sick of this pandemic and ready for it to be OVER

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Congrats! I totally agree! I am so ready for it to just be over with and move on with my life lol

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I know!!! I hear you, I can't wat until this ends. I never would've imagined going through all this to just get married lol. I have a back up date as well for 2022, but I am locked into my contract until April or I will lose my deposit. The money and stress is why I really don't want to postpone again, but like you said possible having that fun wedding also makes me rethink it! Best of luck to you!!!

I feel this so much. We postponed from Sept 2020 to May 2021 thinking Covid would definitely be over by now, but no such luck. We aren't postponing again though. Just going to make the best of what we have.

I haven't had to postpone but I totally get this! I'm over the word, honestly. My fiancé and I have decided to completely go forward with our wedding - if we are told we have to make changes that we don't want to make, we will cancel all together and elope. I'm just over it.

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I totally agree with you, so over it at this point. What are you doing for guests that don't feel comfortable? I am at the point that they just shouldn't attend. I don't know when anyone will ever feel "okay" and I don't want to keep waiting.

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This may just sound insensitive, but I'm just asking them to stay home - no hard feelings at all! We are already having a smaller wedding of around 75 people, our ceremony is outside. We aren't requiring masks - in fact, we would prefer that guests didn't wear them at all, but I obviously won't rip anyones masks off! LOL

I've only had one or two people insinuate that they wouldn't be comfortable, and I've politely asked them to not attend. I know this term is bashed on here, but I'm not having a Covid themed wedding with sanitizer center pieces and monogrammed masks. It's not romantic to me or funny, that's not how I want to remember my wedding! I will give anyone an out who isn't comfortable attending, but we aren't really doing much as far as Covid goes! If you aren't comfortable with it, sit it out!

You're so right about people who may never feel "okay" about it all! There are people who walk outside totally alone with a mask on, or drive in their car alone with one on - some people will always be terrified and uncomfortable even after all of this is "over". I'm not putting my wedding off until it's normal, or we'd be waiting forever!

I hear where your coming from I haven't had to postpone we booked our wedding for 2022 since last July however I am scared that they can go backwards and put us back on lockdown were in colorado and things are opening up

View Quoted Comment Honestly I totally agree with you and think this is such a good idea. We have cut our guest list in half as well. Covid will never be completely gone and I don’t want my wedding video with everyone wearing masks. It’s definitely a touchy subject but you completely said how I feel.. i don’t want to look back and think of my wedding day as a pandemic. Thank you for being honest and for your advice.

View Quoted Comment Exactly!!! And I have gotten my vaccines and so have my grandparents there really isn’t much more I can humanely do at this point to make every single person feel safe. I agree they just shouldn’t attend no hard feelings!

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Of course!! This is just my opinion on it! I know others feel very strongly in different ways, but for me, I'm just done LOL

View Quoted Comment I agree that’s why I’m always afraid to comment on the subject cus you get attacked lol! But thanks I am so done as well 😂😂

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This, exactly. My wedding is next month, and I totally get it if people don't feel comfortable. Heck, I know my cousin is a bit freaked out but plans to be there because she's making our cake and her daughters are our ring bearers. But if she wants to dip out after the ceremony because she doesn't feel comfortable, I have no problem with it. I'll have to check in with my venue (an athletic club in their gorgeous garden area), but last I heard they're only requiring guests to wear masks when going through the building to get to the garden or leaving the garden area to go to the bathroom. Wedding party isn't required to wear them unless they're in the building and FH and I don't have to wear them at all. We'll probably have some sanitizing stations set up and a box of masks just in case, but they will be off to the side and definitely not in your face. If attendance is really low we'll probably do a celebration of marriage once all of this is over and done with and everyone feels comfortable gathering again. If attendance is still pretty good, we'll leave it as is and call it good. Either way, we're going through with our wedding as planned.

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Woohoo! That's not bad at all! We canceled our original wedding venue because they were telling us that they were going to have to start hammering down with restrictions. Our new venue told us when we booked, that they didn't have a single canceled wedding all through 2020 - which I'm still mind blown by. They said they only wore masks to a handful of weddings and that was only if the bride asked them to! So I'm super hopeful that we won't have to deal much with it either! I'm in SC and things seem to be looking up! Either way, we're moving forward!

Yes we are going forward with our June wedding and no I will not wear any mask on my wedding day. If they think for a second they are going to make my guests not dance, they have another thing coming

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Yay! so excited. I am in MA where everything has been tight, but starting March 22 weddings of 100 will be allowed. I just hope it stays this way! Best of luck to you girl and congrats!!!!

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YES! totally feel this same way, we are finally allowed to have dance floors but they have to wear a mask. I can't see spending all this money to see everyone seated or wearing a mask!

Yes. I'm so sick of it. I've waited 6 years for this day (not counting the 26 years before I started dating my FH!) and now it's like unreal to me that it has to be compromised in any kind of way. In my head I'm just like really. We didn't have to postpone and we still do have some time for things to maybe get back to normal, but I doubt they will fully by November, and I did miss out on some fun wedding planning activities that usually get done during normal times. For example, my bridesmaids have all had to buy their dresses online and do a virtual try-on with me because we couldn't all get together due to store rules, plus everyone's different stances on what they are comfortable with. I so looked forward to having that day with all of them and then we go out to lunch and everyone gets to know each other. Our cake tasting I keep pushing off because I have some kind of hope we might be able to have a somewhat normal one, but I just don't know quite yet. And our honeymoon...this is the biggest one for me. Covid still has so much shut down that we can't do our first or even our second honeymoon pick. So we are at our third pick and even that we are like should we even bother because we'll have to wear a mask and socially distance ourselves if things keep up. SO I'm over it and ready to move on!