Tired Wedding Trends: Which ones are you sick of, or are doing anyway?

Ugh, receiving lines. They strike me as sooooo self-important. Are you really all that special, that I have to stand in line for 30 minutes to see you for 15 seconds? You aren't exactly Justin Timberlake signing autographs.

Sick of:

Photo booths

Rustic/country themes

Head tables

Candy buffets

Doing anyway:

Boquet toss

Garter toss

Shannon- I could not have said that better myself.

I hate pillow rings. I'm using an old packet watch to carry the rings. I'm tired of sand, unity candle ceremony. We are giving roses to our parents. Doing wood slices for the aisle and centerpieces BUT I will paint them gold. No name for tables. I'm actually using the love cards we sent to each other thru the years so our guest know more about us.

Thankfully, I have not attended a wedding with that dancing. I am tired of the bouquet and garter toss...it can be needlessly violent or awkward and quite annoying to the unmarried gals who feel no need to participate but everyone wants to prod you out to the dance floor, sometimes I head to the lady's room.

I forgot about the unity candle ceremony. It's not that I'm tired of them, but people never seem to know how to use the lighter! Practice people, or just use matches, MATCHES!

Best. thread. ever.

I can't say I'm sick of anything. I love looking at different ways people personalize their special days, and I totally enjoy the idea of being inspired by things found on Pinterest and other sites. I think that the best weddings are when the bride actually plans her wedding HERSELF. No coordinator or expensive "expert" to tell her what is pretty. If she likes burlap, USE IT! If you want to have a Ninja Turtles themed wedding, do it! It's YOUR wedding!

Okay, I thought of one thing. I'm sick of hearing people say a wedding is not about the bride and groom, it's about the guests. AYFKM!??? I don't get that at all. Etiquette be damned.

I can't help but wonder if a bunch of little old ladies are pissed because silly brides-to-be are misusing mason jars and driving the price of canning supplies up.

Theme weddings, STD's, unity ceremony, choreographed dances,kids at weddings (not a trend just don't like it)

Unpopular opinion:

Super long engagements. Back in the day, an engagement was three to six months. I collect vintage etiquette books, and a common thread is that engagements longer than six months are considered discourteous because they're exhausting for the families. They're also considered too attention-grabbing.

I don't know if six months is enough time, but these multi-year epic engagements are getting out of hand. Sometimes it's to save up, sometimes it's to get a venue, sometimes it's because the wedding itself is so insanely elaborate that it takes multiple years to put it together.

You get brides riding their bridesmaids about their dresses six or more months in advance. Or changing their minds about their own dresses because they have a year to go and suddenly the gown the love doesn't hold up on the 1,000th viewing. Or talking about their wedding endlessly to all comers for years, then wondering why everyone they know expects an invite. Or, by the time the wedding has come, everyone is so sick to death of it that they can't wait for it to be over.

Flay away, but I had to say it.

@ Shannon S- I think that's an interesting point. I've also heard so many brides complain about getting "bored" with wedding planning or disappointed when they finish planning and just have to wait for the wedding. My engagement was 10 months long. More than enough time for us. I would have been happy with a 4-6 month engagement. The reason we chose the date we did was so my cousin from England could attend (aside from FH, he's my very favorite person!)

^^^ hahahahaha

I don't understand those either, personally. Although, I cannot for the life of me grasp why it's necessary to have a $20K wedding. Buy a house!!!

We got stuck having a long engagement because we could not find a venue. I called over 20 places that would have been acceptable and they were all booked for 2014 by September/October of 2013. So, we have to wait until October of 2015. Sure, we could have gotten married earlier in the year, but in Indiana I did not want to get flooded/tornado/severe stormed out in the spring or melt in the sweltering summer.

Sick of:

Garter/bouquet toss

Grand reception entrances

Head tables

Doing anyway:

Photo booth (I'm stupidly excited about this!)

Unity ceremony (we're doing a unity pint, with two kinds of beer, since we're being married at a brewery)

Chalkboard signs (detailing the craft beer selections on tap)

@Shannon I agree about super-long engagements! Our engagement is just under 6 months and it's perfect for us. For us, it was because Aug 8 was the only day our preferred venue had available this year and we just did not want to wait until 2015. So we jumped on it, and I'm so glad we did. Now we can't agonize and obsess over every little wedding detail, because, well, there just isn't time for that!

@ Future Laura H- We're doing wrestling entrances too! We still need to pick out the song for the bridal party. FH has a few entrance songs that he wants me to listen to. Our entrance song will be Real American- Hulk Hogan's WWE entrance song.

I am sick of:

candy bars

photo booths

garter toss

line dances

I guess I had a long engagement a year and 6 months. The difference is...I don't talk about my wedding at nauseam. Some have even felt left out. I don't really like talking about it.

We did nine months, because we had people coming from overseas and they needed time to make arrangements. I think anything over a year is overkill - at that point, you're not engaged so much as the playing house version of being engaged.

Plus, idle hands are the bridezilla's playground - better to get it over with so you don't have time to go all cray cray.

@Shannon S. If I had a longer engagement, I would probably be insane. I am an overthinker and overplanner (control freak a bit) so a 9 month engagement works just fine. It's the only time I can book my venue for a weekend, they are a camp and are not available spring-summer.

Honestly, can't wait to just DO THIS THING haha. My basement is full of my decor just itching to be used.

@Shannon:

Sometimes long engagements work out. I will have been engaged for over a year and a half by time my wedding comes around. Not all that time was wedding planning though.

My FH proposed just after I had moved across the country (he stayed behind to pack and wrap things up in our previous home.) After he propsed there was 6 months of him moving to join me, finding jobs, moving again from his mom's place into our new place and getting settled. I didn't start even thinking about the wedding until a year before the wedding, let alone talking about it.

It all depends on how much planning time. That and it doesn't help that all those time line lists that you see all say that you need to start planning a year in advance.

Trends that I'm sick of:

bouquet/garter toss, cutting of the cake, any sort of unity ceremony (what's the point? I don't get them), photobooths

Doing anyway:

cutting of the cake. It's important to my FH that we do it.

I agree with you totally! I have been to three weddings in less than a year and EACH ONE had burlap, used chalkboard paint, used wooden signs or pallets and had mason jars. Nothing original because each bride got her 'inspiration' from Pintetest. Oh, and the signs The guests would know where the ceremony, reception, bar and bathrooms are located. I think it would be pretty much self explanatory by eye sight or just asking. Something 'unique' has definitely been overdone.